USA: How to live before you die By Steve Jobs
From: Yona Maro
In 12 June, 2005, a year after he was first diagnosed with cancer, Apple CEO Steve Jobs made a candid speech to graduating students at Stanford University.
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“I am honoured to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big deal. Just three stories.
The first story is about connecting the dots.
I dropped out of Reed College [Portland, Oregon] after the first six months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?
It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: “We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?” They said: “Of course.” My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.
And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.
It wasn’t all romantic. I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms, I returned Coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the seven miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:
Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and sans serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.
None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But 10 years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it’s likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later.
Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
My second story is about love and loss.
I was lucky – I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz [Steve Wozniak] and I started Apple in my parents’ garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2bn company with over 4,000 employees. We had just released our finest creation – the Macintosh – a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling-out. When we did, our board of directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.
I really didn’t know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down – that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologise for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me – I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over. I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.
During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the world’s first computer-animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple’s current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.
I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It was awful-tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.
My third story is about death.
When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, some day you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “no” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7.30 in the morning and it clearly showed a tumour on my pancreas. I didn’t even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor’s code for “prepare to die”. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you’d have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.
I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumour. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I’m fine now.
This was the closest I’ve been to facing death, and I hope it’s the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful, but purely intellectual, concept:
No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It is life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but some day not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And, most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
When I was young, there was an amazing publication called the Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960s, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors and Polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.
Stewart and his team put out several issues of the Whole Earth Catalog, and then, when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words “Stay hungry. Stay foolish”. It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay hungry. Stay foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you. Stay hungry. Stay foolish.
Thank you all very much.
Kenya: Ministry of Medical services top lady in love scandal
By Reporter
A high ranking woman in the ministry of medical services is allegedly embroiled in an incestuous affair with one of her first cousin who is a private practicing accountant, to the chagrin of both the extended and nucleus family.
The bespectacled medic who is a dentist by profession, working in the ministry’ World Bank projects department kicked off the illicit affair with the man who too is bespectacled and is in the club of post bachelorhood, aftermath of the successful divorce case pitying her and the husband.
The former husband, who was a pharmacist by profession and has demised, was operating one of the leading pharmacy shops in Migori town, Migori County-the first marital home of the dentist woman, an alumna of Nairobi University, in the early 1980’s.
The duo inseparable lovebirds’ bondage which has lasted close to two decades has elicited sharp reaction not only locally, but also from the global front where the children of the shameless randy woman are residing, working and studying.
Speaking on strict conditions of anonymity on behalf of their siblings, one of her children joined the fray of the relatives and elders back at home in castigating their mother’ behavior and urged them not to relent in their bid to break the blossomed bondage since its an embarrassment to them, morally.
Soon clocking retirement age, the divorcee woman who also at one time served in the senior most position of Mbagathi hospital and with a short stint as acting Provincial Medical Officer(PMO) in 1990’s.
And, currently residing at doctors plaza Sunview hospital, opposite Mbagathi hospital along Langata road, recently found herself and the certified bachelor cousin partner ,between a hard rock and a stone when they decided to pay visit to their newly built state-of-the- art home in Muhoroni which is situated a stone throw from DC’ official residence:
Charged locals armed with assorted weapons coupled with fomented anger over the pair’s immoral affair which flies in the face of luo’ traditional customs and cultural beliefs, discharged towards the home, cordoned it, caging the two for hours indoors, ready to unleash terror, punitively.
Thanks to the diplomatic prowess of a top-level administrator in Nyando district, who intervened and restored the state of normalcy, with the locals vowing that the game is not over till its over since the application of jungle law is the best remedial measure arguing that the wheels of justice is very slow in, Kenya.
KENYA: THE MONTH OF JUNE AND ITS SIGNIFICANCE
From: Ouko joachim omolo
Colleagues Home & Abroad Regional News
BY FR JOACHIM OMOLO OUKO, AJ
NAIROBI-KENYA
FRIDAY, JUNE 1, 2012
Today is June 1, 2012, in Kenya it is Madaraka Day, commemorating the day that Kenya attained internal self-rule in 1963, preceding full independence from the United Kingdom on 12 December 1963.
In the Roman Catholic Church, Pope Benedict XVI uses the month for his general intention to pray that that believers may recognize in the Eucharist the living presence of the Risen One who accompanies them in daily life- and for his missionary intention that Christians in Europe may rediscover their true identity and participate with greater enthusiasm in the proclamation of the Gospel.
For the large number June is known for marriages that occur over the course of the month. According to one etymology, June is named after Juno (Hera), the ancient Roman goddess of marriage, and accordingly, many Romans chose to honor this goddess by having their wedding in June.
Many considered this month to be the most favorable time to marry and would be showered with luck and good wishes from the gods above if they did so. In dholuo Juno means love (hera), the goddess of marriage and a married couple's household, which is why some consider it good luck to be married in this month.
Significantly, it is the month that parents are required to teach their children about sex with honesty and openness so that they can make good choices- your rule being that for when it is right to have sex with someone.
Discuss with your children how to protect them from abuse such as rape. Make sure your children know that there are ways to express affection-kissing and touching that are safe, that show affection without risk. Make sure they understand that sex can be a beautiful part of life.
Discuss what our children learn by observing our sexual lives and the relationships around them.
Tomorrow is June 2, in Kenya it is going to be very important day- the day that reminds Kenyans: “It’s Our Turn to Eat” by Michaela Wrong, published about John Githongo’s expose of high level government corruption.
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KENYA: AMOROUS SUGAR MILLS MANAGER CAUGHT RED HANDED WITH PANTS DOWN WITH A MARRIED WOMAN IN A BUNGOMA HOTEL.
By Bob Ndira Uradi
An amorous top manager with one of the sugar mills in Western Kenya is still nursing the wound as a result of the beating which is said to have received when he was caught red handed pants down with a married woman in a Bungoma hotel.
The incident left many residents of the town puzzled. The man is said to be serving in top managerial position as Human Resources Manager, while his lover is a married woman. She is a wife of a prominent businessman in the region.
Our source reported that the manager has been in the habit of dating married women, particularly those working under him with whom he enticed with promotion.
The love affair between the two has been flourishing for sometime, and the husband got the wind. On the fateful day, the husband is said to have followed the two lovers in a different car as they drove towards Bungoma town for their sexual escapades.
Unaware that they were being followed, the two lovers booked themselves into a hotel and immediately went into action. The husband armed with a Maasai rungu burst into the hotel room and found the two lovers in a compromised position.
He descended on the amorous manager with his rungu. The manager, however, escaped leaving his shoes and other belonging in the hotel leaving his love bird behind. At the mercy of the enraged husband who reigned blows and kicks on her.
According to an eye witness, the woman was buttered almost to death by her enraged husband who had sworn before his friends that he would teach her a lesson that she will live to regret.
The commotion, attracted a large number of onlookers, and the woman was only rescued from further punishment by good Samaritans. The matter is still very hot and has since become the talks of the town.
The amorous manager who is actually an engineer by profession, but had only switched to human resources career. Dumb folded manager at the facility and workers alike were seen discussing the incident in groups and in low tones.
The Sugar Mill where the two work is also said to be disgusted with the action of the two senior staff and is contemplating taking disciplinary action since the incident has become popular in the public domain.
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Song; Here, no one cares about you
Link sent by Philister;
I thought of the many songs I had heard that voice sing as I sat down and reached for a glass of water; after all I was still trying to understand how such an icon could suddenly be gone.
“In this country no one cares about you. These stars have money but they’re not happy, they are very lonely and miserable people. “ Lauren responded “It just makes you realize how short life is.”
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WHY I HAVE FALLEN IN LOVE WITH KENYAN WOMEN
BY FR JOACHIM OMOLO OUKO, AJ
NAIROBI-KENYA
TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 14, 2012
Today is February 14, the Valentine Day. I have chosen to love the following Kenyan women for what they have done: Lieutenant NC Koech and Captain YK Kirui among other scores of women combatants deployed into Somalia, where they are fighting alongside men in the campaign to dislodge the al-Qaeda-linked militants
Woman officer in the Navy is Lieutenant Colonel Betty Kenga, who works at its headquarters. Kenya Navy presently has ten female officers and 115 service women.
KENYA: WHEN THE VALUE OF MARRIAGE HAS BEEN REDUCED TO ‘CHAPA’
Colleagues Home & Abroad Regional News
BY FR JOACHIM OMOLO OUKO, AJ
NAIROBI-KENYA
THURSDAY, AUGUST 11, 2011
One of my Facebook friends recently posted on her News Feed page a very informative joke: “If money grew on trees women would date monkeys.” This is also true of Gwen Guthrie, an American singer-song writer, best known for her 1986 song: "You've got to have a j-o-b if you want to be with me/ No romance without finance”.
It explains why a common saying that a Kikuyu woman will treat you like a king as long as you have cash, but toss you like rotten mutura (traditional sausage) once you are broke is no longer confined to Kikuyu women alone-every woman needs ‘chapa’ (cash), especially now that Kenyan economy is almost becoming valueless.
The prices of essential commodities continue to shoot up due to weakening of Kenya shillings against US dollar. This week alone by the close of trading session on Tuesday, the local currency closed the day at new low of Sh95.05 against the dollar with dealers in the market quoting the shilling at an average of Sh95, for the first time in about 17 years.
Already there is fear that by next week according to the market projections an exchange rate may shoot up to Sh100 plus. The weaker the shillings the continuity of higher prices-it means that pay cheques will never keep up as media reports. This scenario makes everyone to love money.
That is also why the myth of sex that Kamba woman is known to be a force to reckon with, or coastal women are so idle that they spend the whole day applying henna all over their bodies, prepare elaborate weddings and cook biryani the whole day as they gossip, or Taita are said to make exemplary, humble wives, but when they make up their minds that a relationship is headed for doom, they are known to vanish back to their parents' faster than you can say "mdavida" are gone myths.
Other myths that Luo women are said to stick to their men like glue as long as they suspect love is in the air and don't look at another woman! If you do, she will have you and the other woman by the neck does not apply. Apart from being prided to have "drop dead gorgeous" bodies - with 'Adhiambo sianda' being their brand name, Luo women are believed to be good cooks and bewitching lovers.
Some men, especially Luo men like to marry Luhya women because of the myth that they are known to be modest and to have austerity, and that while they cannot stand extravagance, a Luhya woman would rather stay at home and drink numerous cups of tea than have you take her for an expensive dinner so long as there is in constant supply of ugali and Ingoho (chicken), she is yours for keeps.
The Luo men, mainly from Awendo, Dede, Migori, Ulanda, Ogwedhi, Makalda or surrounding areas of South Nyanza are said to like marrying Maragoli women not only because they believe they are easy to tame, but also because they are known to be in the business of making children, does not apply either.
The myth also has it that Kalenjin woman will never utter a word even if she smells strange perfume from you-she will not ask you from which woman did you get the perfume and where. And that men like them because they most beautiful, hardworking and wear big-hearts-former American ambassador to Kenya picked one.
Other myths have it that Maasai women are unquestionably obedient. They will never dream of correcting their menfolk. They still view their husbands as "lord of the house".
People believe Masaai men are still glued to the custom of planting spears outside their age group member's manyattas to warn the husband that serious business is taking place inside the manyatta and therefore will not ask you where you slept and with whom. Men also like them because they are generous with their husbands.
While Meru women are believed to be so faithful and agreeable that they will fight divorce to the bitter end even if they are living in hardship condition despite the fact that like men they can be hot tempered, Kisii woman has it in her mind that as long as you make her world rock she will never leave, even if you hire ten bulldozers to evict her from your house, like Meru women men are cautious because they can be hot tempered.
Today all these myths have been taken by time. In US for instance, unmarried couples account for more than 5.5 million households. This is because marriage means business. Without money it means no love. Your girl friend can just leave you because you refused to M-Pesa her or bamba twenty.
This is because the lack of money generated by one person in the eyes of the other can cause a problem because the expectations of the other person haven't been met. Some working class would like to remain unmarried because they want to feel that they want to enjoy their funds alone because they are doing so well.
These are the type of women who would not like to get married because a man could use money as a symbol of power in the relationship. This is because in relationship money has proven to be the root of the problem. The man is usually the authority, and money has control and authority connected to it.
Another reason why most single professional women do not want get married as some of my Facebbok friends argue is because most single professionals are tied by careers, lack of appropriate partner or just lack of commitments and fear of responsibility, or because they are feared for what they have or education levels or the far they are careerwise.
Most single professionals online would however, like to combine forces to remove this fear and have single people take a step of faith to declare they are single and are ready for a commitment, which is why you can get them through date lines. Some women and men through such date lines have managed to get good partners for life.
Although some working class or professional single women as they are sometimes referred to would like to get married, according to the Daily Nation results of the poll published December 24, 2006, on which I was also interviewed, 63 percent of Kenya's single women are frustrated marriage-wise because there is no man to marry them.
It explains why some single women and men have formed their own class where they prefer to be lesbians or homosexuals staying together even though most gay people disagree with this theory despite the fact that most scientists and biologists agree that there may be an environmental component to sexuality.
Of course, while some women would like to be lesbians because of the past molestation by men, especially through rape, the fact remains that some do so as a matter of choice between two options. This also applies to homosexual gays.
The good news is that professional women in their late 30s and 40s are happy, independent ‘living singles’. Some have made a deliberate decision to remain so while others argue they are still single by forced circumstances such as broken relationships, whereas majority of those in their 40s have established careers and acquired property so many men shy off from them because they feel threatened.
The bad news is for women in their 50s-they struggle with loneliness. They tend to hate men and cry over lost relationships, cursing those men who messed them up when they could have made better choices. Most of those women suffer from rejection, bitterness and stigma.
So the issue here is not sorely on money that is why for instance, there are around 150,000 divorces a year in the UK at the moment with the average marriage lasting 11 years. It's often women who do the walking out of a marriage that has gone stale, or where both parties have grown apart.
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The bible is explicit when it comes to sex
from collins odhiambo
Sex according to Pastor Khathide (Ugandan)
A lot of people don't associate sex with God - they associate it with Satan and darkness, as if sex is not holy.... !!
The bible is explicit when it comes to sex.
Sex is holy within marriage, and there is no prescribed style.
Nowhere in the Bible does it say that the missionary position is the only sexual style. Not discussing sex in a relationship leads to divorce!!!!!.
Pastor Khathide has counseled women who've complained:
my husband treats me as if I were his brother.
There was one who told him:
I am tired of getting sex fortnightly, like a salary.
Khathide told her she was lucky to be getting sex fortnightly,
since some wives only get it on big days, like elections.
Many husbands leave their wives to seek sexual pleasures in Hillbrow.
Have you ever asked yourself what those women have that you don't. Wives have become very frigid and even sleep with their panties.
If you're a married woman, you should sleep naked
and let your bum touch your husband..
Today you find men going out of their way to get a glimpse of a vagina. They page through magazines and even go to lingerie departments in stores hoping to see what's hidden under panties, because their wives hide it from them.
Marriage is about being free with your body in front of your partner.
A woman should parade naked and do some modeling to tempt her husband. There are many married women who don't know what their husbands' penises look like. She only feels it when he enters her. They've never touched it, let alone seen it, because the husband switches off the lights before undressing.
A penis is a wife' s toy - she is supposed to play with it.
He blames couples for not making time for sex andcomplaining about being tired after a day's work. You find many couples who've been sexually starved for years. God created sex for procreation and also for pleasure.You can't marry and not have a good time in bed.
WHO SAID YOU CAN ONLY HAVE SEX AT NIGHT?
Why can't you drive home during lunch and have a quickie with your wife?
We' re all equal in sex - it's not just about a woman satisfying a man.
You have to satisfy each other.
Have you ever seen a woman who has been satisfied?
Have u noticed how she glows and becomes energetic?
May the Lord Bless you.
This is the 'Whole Truth, Nothing But The Truth' so God !
Told Us From The Beginning.
Once you read this letter you have to keep it going.
This game has been played since 1996...
You must send this letter to 7 people.
On the 5th day someone will ask you out or say 'I love you.'
This is! not a joke.
It has worked for many years.
If you break the chain,
you will have bad luck with guys/girls forever.
This is just for future readers.
This began in 1996,not much of a past, but it works.
So here are the rules:
If you read this on a Sunday, wish for a good week
If you read this on a Monday, wish for money
If you read this on a Tuesday, wish for love
If you read this on a Wednesday, wish for success
If you read this on a Thursday, wish for anything you want
If you read this on a Friday, wish for a really hot date
If you read this on a Saturday, wish for an important phone call
Send this to seven people (after you make a wish).
Make sure it is sent as soon as you read it or your wish won't come true.
... And as we walk,we make the pledge that we shall always march ahead.We cannot turn back...
Sam-martins
Seeking A Luo Lady For A Serious Relationship
From: proud2bkenyan
I know this is unorthodox but I believe that sometimes thinking outside the box is OK... I'm a 35 yrs old 5'8" single Kenyan professional male. I permanently live and work in the US. I'm seeking a 29-35 yrs old professional (including graduate student) Luo lady with slim or athletic body type for a serious relationship. If you'd like to get to know me better, please email me at proud2bkenyan@gmail.com . Thanks!
Protect, take a bullet: a letter to my fellow men
From: Christopher Mutinda
Logo, Cover Illo.
LSR Magizine
Protect, Take a bullot: A letter to my fellow men.
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This week, the US Leader is in the UK for His first ever official state visit there. The threats to the leader of the greatest nation on earth are real. The possibilities of a security breach many..... the secret service+CIA+FBI+NSA (read all security resources) have gone out of their way to cover every angle, visualize every outcome and countered it. The victory in battle belongs to the most informed, most agile, most malleable.....
Maybe we can apply this approach to our marriages and relationships.
read more
http://www.lsrmagazine.com/2011/05/25/protect-take-a-bullet-a-letter-to-my-fellow-men/
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Best regards,
Christopher Mutungi
Editorial Director
LSR magazine
www.lsrmagazine.com
Love, Sex, Relationships...God's way!
ROMANCE MATHEMATICS
From: Bonny Moses
ROMANCE MATHEMATICS
Smart man + smart woman = romance
Smart man + dumb woman = affair
Dumb man + smart woman = marriage
Dumb man + dumb woman = pregnancy
USA, PA: Thomas Mucha and Monica O Mboya Pre wedding Party/Fundraising
from bkojiem@ . . .
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Thomas Mucha and Monica O Mboya would like to invite friends and relatives to their Pre wedding party on Nov.6th 2010 @ Zemunda Lounge - @Hotel Grand. 46 North 10th street,Allentown PA 18101. Lots of VIP Parking & Security. Lots of food and drinks.
Allentown Band and Musa Juma Limpompo international will perform on that day supported by Allentown DJ Showtime for the rest of the night spinning your favorite hits.
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Kenya: E. Murugi’s unconstitutional Remark on Gays / Lesbians
'We need to learn to live with men who have sex with other men..we are in the 21st century and things have changed'. That was the statement by Minister Esther Murugu - Special Programmes to a seminar for homosexuals, lesbians and sex workers.
The current constitution outlaws gays / Lesbins marriages and as well it has (not?) legalised prostitution. But the new bill of rights contains clauses outlawing discrimination on nay grounds, including race and gender. Conservative Kenyans complained that the contentious clause would pave the way for gay marriage.
Archbishop Desmond Tutu attacked the African clergy for closing doors for Gays and Lesbians. In particular, Tutu asked the Kenyan clergy to allow Gay/Lesbian to access to facilities like health, counselling and more so provide love. Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender and Intersex (LGBIT) together with the KNHRC organized the first public gathering of the Gays and Lesbians applauding the CoE for inclusion of their rights in the constitution.
Should President Kibaki and Raila Odinga then take action against Esther Murugi as per the Sheikh Mohmaed Khalifa of the Council of Imams and Preachers of Kenya?
Kombo Elijah
Lion in the office, lamb in the kitchen
From: HELLON OGALLO
This interesting and true. What could be the reason for this double character? Is it the instinct to preserve the family unit?
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Lion in the office, lamb in the kitchen
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By Edwin Makiche
During my days in high school, we had a no-nonsense principal we had nicknamed 'Amin', partly for his heavy-handed running of the school and because he bore some resemblance to the former Ugandan dictator. When he spoke during assembly, you sensed that he would kill somebody if given half a chance. News of his approach sent chills down the spines of staff members and students alike. It was whispered that he was an ex-air force officer who had switched careers after the abortive coup of 1982. Apparently he had brought all his military skills to bear on school administration. He was a man of few words but plenty of action — and reaction. To him, anything short of tidiness and punctuality was a crime. He had turned the school into something similar to a military camp. Amin was known to employ military combat skills on students and his victims would remain in sickbay for the better part of the week. He preferred using his fists to the cane. Word was however rife that Amin the family man was a totally different kettle of fish. He was a softly-softly man who wouldn’t hurt a fly. A boy who hailed from his village said that neighbours feared his illiterate wife more. It was whispered that she sometimes locked him out if he came home late.
Kick the door open
We however dismissed this as mere propaganda. How could Amin, of all the men, allow a woman to torment him? It was unimaginable to think of him standing sheepishly on the doorstep pleading with the wife when he could simply kick the door open. But we confirmed the rumour when the principal fell ill and some of us were picked to accompany teachers to deliver a get-well message to his home. We expected the man to boss his wife around and order for things to be done, but this was not to be. Apparently, in his home someone else dictated the rules and that was his wife. We were surprised to discover that Amin had no control over her. Everything he said was either ignored or dismissed. When he suggested, for example, that she makes tea for us, the wife ignored it until the man went to ask the house help to do it. The wife also operated independently, at her own pace and at times interrupted our discussion with Amin with irrelevant matters. But perhaps the most interesting part was when she restrained him from seeing us to the gate and the man docilely complied."Hey, where do you think you are taking him? He is not yet back on his feet and you still want to use him? Finish whatever it is here and then you can go wherever you’re going," she ordered. Amin had no choice but to bid us goodbye in his sitting room. Though nothing about him had changed, from that incident we knew that Amin was after all a vulnerable man of flesh and blood.
Social life
The tough-as-nails principal is no exception. Apparently for many outspoken and tough-looking men, someone else runs the show in their private lives and it matters nought whether or not she matches his qualifications. The tough talk dies at the doorstep as ‘the boss of the home’ takes over. Jonah’s boss was a bureaucrat who went by the book. He seemed detached from social life and unlike other men, rarely discussed issues about women. To his juniors, his married life was a mystery and they wondered how such an aloof person could cope with a woman."He seemed not to have human blood running through his veins and we often wondered how he would treat a woman,’’ Jonah says. Then one day the boss’ wife stormed their offices demanding to see him. She wanted answers on where he had spent the previous night.
Business trip
Jonah says the boss was so shaken that he almost wet his pants. And it was not out of shame but fear of the woman. The man ordered his secretary to lock him inside his office and tell the woman that he was out, but the woman would not budge. She insisted on seeing the inside of his office. Nobody knows how matters would have ended had some women in the organisation not convinced her that the man was out on a business trip. Another person with a similar story is Jemu, a secretary at a government ministry. She scoffs at men who pretend to be tough when in office and yet are putty in the hands of their wives. She is particularly critical of her male boss who, she says, sometimes uses her like a machine. The man loves dictating rules and giving tight deadlines. She challenges him to do the same to his wife whom, she says, he has no control over. According to her, there isn’t a worse moment in her boss’ day than when his wife calls. The woman always seems to be complaining and the man will be seen walking around his office trying to cool her down. She says on these occasions, the man uses the sweetest words and one cannot believe that it is the same boss she knows. She recalls an incident when the woman paid her husband a surprise visit and the man jumped out of the window and hid in the sentry box."Just tell my boss that the woman is coming and he will wet his pants,’’ she says with a laugh. But is it only wives who floor these larger-than-life characters? Juliet, a sociology lecturer, says that the easiest way to get into a tough man’s heart is through a woman. It doesn’t matter whether it is mama watoto, a mistress, a teenage lover or someone he meets on the street. She brags that it is a woman who holds the key to a man’s heart.
She cites the example of accomplished men who are rendered desperate by teenagers who say no to their advances. The otherwise tough man will do anything in the name of love including buying flowers and gifts.
Terror to students
"Men are just vulnerable creatures, it matters little whether they are accomplished or not. Once the woman discovers his weak point, then she becomes the pilot,’’ she says. This rings a bell in Mwende’s mind. As a student at a university campus in Eldoret, she remembers a professor who had fallen for her and she virtually controlled him. Though the man had several degrees under his belt and was a terror to students and colleagues alike, behind the scenes he worshipped her. She had access to his office any time she liked, borrowed his car, used his money with abandon and when she wasn’t in the learning mood or was out of campus, she would just call him and he would cancel a lecture. When her male classmates learnt of this, they stopped nagging her lest she reported them and this spelt doom at the end of semester examinations."I operated him like a puppet. Any time I wanted something, I got it,’’ she says
Nina knows of an influential politician who, despite being a charismatic public speaker who sends jitters among his opponents, will never face his wife unless he has taken several bottles of beer. She says that his wife is a holy terror and when it comes to matters concerning the family, her decision is final. Sometimes the woman confronts him demanding answers on his spending habits and the man would plead like a child. But what could be funnier than a stone-faced colleague who sheds real tears when his harmless girlfriend threatens him? That exactly describes a campus friend called Victor. He had a village girlfriend called Doro who operated his moods through remote control. Though he was a gigantic athlete who caused tough men to tremble, Doro had the power to turn him into a jelly. And when she called, he acted like a freak. Even if he had little money, he would rather starve than fail to load airtime for calling his prized girlfriend. And when he called her, sweet words such as ‘I am sorry, darling’, ‘I swear to God’, ‘Please don’t be mad girl…’ left his moth him even when he had committed no offence.
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Kenya: This Matter Must Reach Jim Orengo…His Constituency ime Waka Moto
Oh oh oh oh.....
A-Jimmy, this is Balaa bin Balaa.....Urgently tafuta dawa........Remedy must be sought.
This could be the start of serious cancer.
This is criminology of the highest order. Tena ni madharau ya kukosa heshima.....Where
if Jimmy Orengo?
1) this man needs cleansing.....
2) this man need maximum legal measure
3) This man is an animal and the animal in him shows he cannot make a successful family or keep the marriage .....
4) It was a mistake marrying this man......
5) This man after jail term needs to join correctional school for 3 years.......
6) This Man's clan must pay cultural and traditional remunerations of Cows and Goats kadhaa......to cleanse the chieldren born by him.........
7) Ili iwe funzo kwa wengine......Wife Beating is a Criminal
Offence.......count one, count two beating parents of the wife, count three trespasing before claims for leaving are completed........
8) Breaking in-law dirisha for escape at the in-law premises is a taboo.........
9) This case must be listed as a capital offense.....
10) This man must be charged with domestic terrorism.......plus plus plus.....
Live live, this case must be prosecuted LIVE....so we can participate.
This is not acceptable.
Judy Miriga
Diaspora Spokesperson
Executive Director
Confederation Council Foundation for Africa Inc.,
USA
http://socioeconomicforum50.blogspot.com
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Jilted husband beats in-laws to get wife
BY GEORGE OLWENYA
A man who had separated with his wife went to her parent's home in Ugenya and beat them senselessly.
The wife and her parents were injured when the son-in-law pounced on them with kicks and blows as they were taking lunch. However, he was overpowered and beaten by other relatives.
The residents at Sifuyo East in West Ugenya witnessed the rare spectacle. The angry man was eventually set free by the provincial administration officials following intervention by the in-laws and elders who wanted him to be cleansed first.
The man in his 30s had been living alone after his wife left their matrimonial home after a quarrel.
planned raid
Despite several attempts by himself and through emissaries to convince her and parents that she returns, no positive response had been forthcoming.
And last week, he stormed his in-laws homestead on a hired motorbike shortly after 1.00pm to demand his wife back.
On arrival, he found his wife and the mother-in-law enjoying a meal. Without uttering a word, he attacked the two with kicks and blows and spilt their food.
Shocked, the mother-in-law and her daughter screamed.
The screams attracted the attention of other family members who were taking lunch in the main house.
Assault charges
Her brothers intervened demanding to know what had transpired. But the man dashed to the main house and found his 77-year-old father-in-law with his last born son.
Before the old man could say a word, several slaps landed on his cheeks sending him to the ground. He screamed for help. The men rushed back to the house only to find their father on the ground and the food splashed on the floor.
They subdued and beat the son-in-law. The young men then locked him inside the house and reported to Ratado chief’s camp. Realising he had been cornered, the man tried to open a window to escape but he was forced back by villagers who had now gathered at the home.
The assistant chief wanted him taken to Ukwala Police Station to face assault charges but elders said it would lead to a curse on the entire family. They said it was a taboo for anyone to beat his in-laws or be locked up in their house as had happened.
The administrator yielded to the elders’ demands who insisted he should be freed to get a lamb and other requirements for the cleansing ceremony and eventual negotiations to have the wife back.
Kenya: Tribalism
from k.
I need opinions and advise from my Kalenjin brothers and sisters. Please make me understand, where did the Luo community wrong our Kalenjin forefathers? I am dating a Luo man but my parents are so against it claiming that the Community disgust them. If you could post it on your wall and let people discuss about it but keep my identity a secret, I will highly appreciate. I really want to understand where my parents are coming from and may be assist me in making a wise decision for both my parents and relationship.
A sister in distress.
Can someone please help the sister out. Be mindful of others feelings when commenting.
Thanks.
Kalenjins are using this to attack luo on kalenjin beauty