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USA: On Father’s Day:

From: President Barack Obama
The White House, Washington

Hi, everyone —

Today, I’m thinking about all the dads across the country, spending time with family and loved ones — and especially those fathers serving our country overseas, who can’t be home with their kids today.

But I’m also thinking about all the young people out there who don’t have a dad in their lives at all — or who don’t always enjoy the opportunities and support that come with having strong role models.

It reminds me why we started the “My Brother’s Keeper” initiative in the first place: because we need to do more to help young people go as far as their dreams and hard work will take them, no matter what they look like or where they grow up.

I know I’m only here because people took a chance on me, and believed in me when I didn’t always believe in myself. And I want to give more kids that chance. It’s an all-hands-on-deck effort, from the folks on my staff — to you.

You can invest in our young people, and help them be successful. You can commit to doing it right now.

Make a pledge to mentor a young person in your community here.

For me, this is personal.

And for millions of young Americans around the country, it just might be life-changing.

Thank you — and Happy Father’s Day.

President Barack Obama

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USA, State Dpt.: Egyptian Court Sentencing Recommendations

From: U.S. Department of State
Press Statement
Jen Psaki
Department Spokesperson
Washington, DC
April 28, 2014

The United States is deeply concerned by today’s Egyptian court actions related to another mass trial and preliminary death sentences as well as the banning of the April 6 Youth Movement activities. Today’s preliminary death sentences against 683 defendants and the upholding of death sentences against 37 defendants from a March 25 decision are unconscionable.

As the Secretary has said, it is impossible to believe that such proceedings could satisfy even the most basic standards of justice, let alone meet Egypt’s obligations under international human rights law. We again urge Egyptian authorities to remedy the situation and reverse these court rulings and ensure due process for the accused on the merits of individual cases. We continue to urge the Egyptian Government to suspend future mass trials of Egyptians.

Today’s decision by a court of urgent matters to ban the activities of The April 6 Youth Movement is also troubling. Supporters of the movement were at the forefront of the January 25, 2011 revolution that overthrew former president Mubarak, and the Government of Egypt must allow for the peaceful political activism that the group practices if Egypt’s interim Government intends to transition to democracy, as it has committed itself to do.

These court decisions run counter to the most basic democratic principles and foster the instability, extremism, and radicalization that Egypt’s interim Government says it seeks to resolve. We urge the Egyptian Government to demonstrate – through actions rather than words – its support for the universal human rights and freedoms and democratic, accountable governance that the Egyptian people continue to demand.

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From: joachim omolo ouko
News Dispatch with Father Omolo Beste

One of our News Dispatch with Father Omolo Beste who does not want her name revealed writes: “Father Omolo Beste thank you for your recent articles on cancer. Yesterday I read in one of the newspapers that the act of kissing, especially deep kissing can give you cancer according to the study carried out in Mombasa.

I and my boyfriend we kiss a lot and now I am scared if you can get cancer from kissing. If that is true then many people can die from cancer because kissing is very common, not only romantic kiss but also I have seen in church people kiss each other”.

This is very important question. Although there is no evidence that close contact or things like sex, kissing, touching, sharing meals, or breathing the same air can spread cancer from one person to another, the study in Mombasa demonstrates high rates and quantities of the herpes virus residing in the throats of these women and more so those infected with HIV and with high CD4 counts.

The team according to the research had tested saliva samples in gay men in the US for the presence of the herpes virus. Led by Dr John Pauk they had compared the level of herpes virus in saliva of these men with what was found in other body fluids and concluded that saliva was the most possible rout of transmission to others.

Scientists who refute this research argue that you cannot get cancer through kissing because cancer cells from one person are generally unable to live in the body of another healthy person. A healthy person’s immune system recognizes foreign cells and destroys them, including cancer cells from another person.

It is quite true that kissing is very common. Among Christians is called the holy kiss or kiss of peace, a traditional part of most Christian liturgies, though often replaced with an embrace or handshake today in most churches.

The kiss is an important expression of love and erotic emotions. In his book The Kiss and its History, Kristoffer Nyrop describes the kiss of love as an “exultant message of the longing of love, love eternally young, the burning prayer of hot desire, which is born on the lovers’ lips.

Kissing he implies, can lead one to maturity: “It is through kisses that knowledge of life and happiness first comes to us. Runeberg says that the angels rejoice over the first kiss exchanged by lovers,” and can keep one feeling young: “It carries life with it; it even bestows the gift of eternal youth”.

In some societies kissing has been understood negatively. It can explain why Song of Songs (also called the Song of Solomon) has been neglected part of the Bible. It is a book that is rarely read and hardly known. Such neglect does not befit any of God’s word, because as it says elsewhere in the Bible: All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness.

Primarily the Song of Songs is a song of praise celebrating God’s creation and what is without a doubt the crowning glory of that creation; the gift of love between a man and a woman. The very presence of the poem in the Bible is a testimony to the fact that God does not divide the world into sacred and secular, and demonstrates the importance that God places on love and commitment.

It is also significant that God has chosen to deal with this most important topic, so central to human life and experience, through a poem, rather than through a long list of rules, regulations, and advice. The love between a man and a woman, the commitment of marriage, is a wonderful, incredible thing, and one that does not reduce easily to words on a page.

Both Jews and Christians have suggested that the Song of Songs is an allegory, a picture of either God’s love for his people Israel or of Christ’s love for the Church, which elsewhere in the Bible is described as his “bride”.

Some have suggested that the Song of Solomon was originally written as a series of songs, designed to be sung during a Jewish wedding feast, which in the time of King Solomon would have lasted for a whole week!

The primary message of the book is this: that human love, marriage and sexual love are a gift from God. Sexual love is commended and celebrated in the poem as a gift from God to be celebrated and to praise Him for.

Love between a man and a woman is fundamental to all human experience; and in the poem we have the most supreme blueprint of what love is to be like. We learn that love means giving one to another. The man is not to lord it over the woman, or vice versa, but there is to be a mutual giving, one to another.

Love means remaining loyal and faithful to one another, no matter what the circumstances. It would have been all too easy for the maiden to give in to the advances of Solomon, betraying her shepherd lover. She would have done no wrong in marrying the king, for she was a virgin. But true love is loyal and faithful, and she could not turn her back on her shepherd.

Love, relationships, marriage, and sex are all gifts from God. The Song of Songs demonstrates and celebrates this time and time again. In the light of this part of the Scriptures, we should give grateful thanks to God for the wonderful mystery of human sexuality, and pray that He guides us into using it responsibly and rightfully; within a one-to-one marriage relationship where there is mutual trust, giving, love, total commitment and respect.

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From: joachim omolo ouko
News Dispatch with Father Omolo Beste
FRIDAY, 14, 2014

Belinda writes via Facebook: “Omolo Beste I read on your Facebook timeline your valentine best wishes. I also read online that valentine was a catholic priest, who was martyred for his faith in Jesus Christ and for that reason he became a saint. I also read that he is the patron of lovers, how comes yet he was a priest?

My second concern is that for a catholic to be made a saint there must be some miracles he performed, which miracle did Valentine perform? Again can you help me know some saints and what they are patron for?”

Thank you for this important question Belinda. The most famous miracle attributed to Saint Valentine involved a note that he sent to a young blind girl named Julia who Valentine had befriended. Shortly before he was martyred f he wrote Julia a farewell note.

It is believed that God miraculously cured Julia of her blindness so that she could personally read Valentine’s note, rather than just have someone else read it to her. Valentine signed Julia’s note “From your Valentine,” and that loving note, combined with the memory of Valentine’s support of engaged and married couples in his work as a priest, led to the tradition of sending loving messages on his feast day, Valentine’s Day.

In some western countries Valentine day is taken seriously with couples praying for him to intercede for them before God so that their commitment and relationship may prosper. Numerous couples have reported experiencing miraculous improvements in their relationships with boyfriends, girlfriends, and spouses after praying for help from Saint Valentine.

Yes, you read it correctly. Saint Valentine was a Catholic priest who had also worked as a doctor. He lived in Italy during the third century AD and served as a priest in Rome. There is nothing wrong for a catholic priest to be the patron of lovers because there is nothing wrong with love.

It was Emperor Claudius who discovered that Valentine was performing weddings and sent Valentine to jail. Valentine used his time in jail to continue to reach out to people with the love that he said Jesus Christ gave him for others.

He befriended his jailer, a man named Asterious, and Asterious became so impressed with Valentine’s wisdom that he asked Valentine to help his daughter Julia with her lessons because Julia was blind and needed someone to read material for her to learn it. Valentine then became friends with Julia through his work with her when she came to visit him in jail.

Emperor Claudius came to like Valentine, too, so he offered to pardon Valentine and set him free if Valentine would renounce his Christian faith and agree to worship the Roman gods. Not only did Valentine refuse to leave his faith, he also encouraged Emperor Claudius to place his trust in Christ. Valentine’s faithful choices cost him his life. Emperor Claudius was so enraged at Valentine’s response that he sentenced Valentine to die.

Before he was killed, Valentine wrote a last note to encourage Julia to stay close to Jesus and to thank her for being his friend. He signed the note: “From your Valentine.” That note inspired people to begin writing their own loving messages to people on Valentine’s Feast Day -February 14th – which is celebrated on the same day on which Valentine was martyred on February 14, 270. The feast of St. Valentine was established by Pope Gelasius I in 496.

Just to highlight few Saints- the Archangel Raphael is the patron saint of physicians, all healers, the blind, lovers and travelers. The name Raphael means ‘God’s remedy’. As he healed Tobit’s eyes he is said to heal…or to rightly have caused God’s remedy.

Archangels are members of the second choir of angels or those who stand before the throne of God. They are found in a number of religious traditions including Christianity, Islam, Judaism, and Zoroastrianism.

The feast days of Gabriel (March 24) and Raphael (October 24) were added to the Roman calendar in 1921. The 1970 revision of the calendar joined their feasts to Michael’s on Sept. 29th.

Like St. Valentine, St. Dwynwen is mentioned as the patron saint of lovers. Her feast day is January 25. Dwynwen was a daughter of the 5th Century saint Brychan Brycheiniog. She fell in love with Maelon Dafodrill, but displeased him when she rejected his sexual advances prior to marriage. She became a nun, and founded a convent at Llandwyn, on an island just off Anglesey.

This table below courtesy- Patron Saints – gives more elaborate details of the list of patron Saints.

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From: Ouko joachim omolo
The News Dispatch with Omolo Beste

Nyakwar Ajuma Koduma posted on her Facebook timeline a recent study conducted by the St. Ives skin care brand, that women feel their most confident at the age of 29. They discovered that a lot of this confidence was due to them falling in love during that age or being in a stable relationship.

I had refuted the research, arguing that it is not accurate-in fact women feel their most confident at age 27-at this age they don’t fall in love as such, they are trying to stabilize their relationship and how they can cater and love their children-then at age of 40 a woman does not care whether she is loved or not-she can do things on her own and love seems to be diminishing slowly-the motto here is how to take care of herself and children.

My refutation was liked by overwhelming Facebook fans that I feel should share with you on my News blog. According to the research more than half of women polled said 29 was their prettiest age. Reasons included feeling confident, falling in love and stable relationships.

The poll also found that women feel and look their best on Fridays. Stress and lack of sleep were key reasons for feeling unattractive. The rosy cheeks and fresh-faced looks of their teenage years might be gone but it seems that’s no impediment to beauty, after a survey found that women feel most beautiful at the age of 29. Confidence was pinpointed as the top reason for the finding followed by falling in love and enjoying a stable relationship.

Nicole Melmore, brand manager at St. Ives, says that from age to occasions, their research shows that beauty really isn’t skin deep, with more women stating that they feel more beautiful when they are at home without their make-up on (17 per cent) compared to when they’re wearing lots of make-up (seven per cent), it seems that feeling attractive isn’t just down to having a perfectly made up face.

In her book, Enchanted Love, Marianne Williamson argues that love should be understood terms of spirituality and not sorely on material aspects. In this way then the age at which a woman falls in love or not does not rise.

There are many ways in which love is expressed to us and from us. First you must be attracted to the opposite sex. Marianne Williamson refers to this first stage of love as attraction which every normal being must undergo.

Second stage is focus. That you will now focus on particular woman or man you feel you want to establish relationship with. The third stage is desire or falling in love. This is where you desire to have someone to give you warmth, make you feel like being you, and make you feel special.

Fourth stage is adoration. This is according to Marianne Williamson is the core of spirituality in relationship. It is like golden thread that binds two hearts, a feeling that keeps growing even when you are far apart, no matter where you want to feel each other always close.

In fact in its real sense, this is what means to fall in love. It is like jumping off a really tall building, your brain tells you it is not a good idea, but your heart tells you, you can fly.

This is the stage where a man and a woman stay faithful because they don’t have time to look for others because they are too busy adoring each other. It is like a reporter who asked the couple, “How did you manage to stay together for 65 years?” The woman replied, “We were born in a time when is something was broken we would fix it not throw it away”.

The fifth stage is security. Unlike men, what a woman wants in relationship is love, acceptance, respect, to be desired, security and passion. A woman will feel emotionally safe with a man who is emotionally available, honest, trustworthy and authentic. These are character strengths that a woman not only admires, but feels safe with.

The sixth stage is trust. Trust a fundamental human experience, necessary for society to function and for any person to be relatively happy. Without it, fear rules.

The seventh stage is empathy. Empathy, literally “in feeling”, is the capability to appreciate, understand, and accept another person’s emotions. Showing empathy genuinely is one of the most important interpersonal skills that anyone must master.

Listen attentively to what the other person is saying. This will allow you to absorb what they say and be able to respond appropriately. Eliminate distractions: put down the book you’re reading, turn off the TV, etc.

Focus all your attention to what the other person says. Pay attention not only to the words spoken, but also to the way these words are communicated. Establish comfortable eye contact and good body posture.

The eighth stage is caring. Everyone wants to know that they are loved and appreciated.

Learn and encourage her dreams. Make her your top priority. Accept her and cherish her for who she is; after all, she’s the only one who will always be there for you if you treat her right.

Call her when you’re not together to tell her that you’re thinking about her. Send her a little note through the mail while you’re away. When you tell her I love you, you say it to remind her that she is the best that has never happened to you.

The only thing that makes it part of your life is that you keep on thinking about. Keep on thinking about her. She wants to be your friend as well as your lover. Simply making time to switch off the TV, sit down, and talk with her will show that you care, to say nothing of the fact that you enjoy her company.

The ninth stage is harmony. This is where you need to listen attentively, with compassion to your partner. Communicate your understanding with “active listening” and by responding in a non-critical and non-defensive way.

Honor each person by showing positive regard and respect. Relate to the essential goodness of each person, even when it is hidden. Be sincere, exemplary, clear, encouraging positive attributes and express admiration and appreciation for her, his talents, qualities, accomplishments, values and courage.

Be supportive, empowering, and prayerful, trust in the essential goodness and growth of others .Visualize a harmonious relationship, seeing the other blessed in light and love, protected and growing. Be grateful and gracious, kind, good friend and loving.

Tenth stage is contentment. This is where at the age of 40 years on wards a woman is contented. Her priorities are to take care of her home and children. In other words, this is the stage where people settle in a relationship because it is familiar and they are comfortable even if they are not fulfilled.

That is why at 75 years, a relationship can be just as fiery and passionate as it was at 35, with each day feeling newer through the passing years and always leaving one’s partner with more to look forward to from day to day. The key is marrying or vowing to spend one’s life with that one they feel they can’t live without, and not settling for the one they can just simply live with.

Stage eleventh and last in relationship is communion. That is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body. Genesis 2:24.The term “one flesh” means that just as our bodies are one whole entity and cannot be divided into pieces and still be a whole. One is to be “glued” to his wife, a picture of how tight the marriage bond is to be.

This doesn’t mean both of you think exactly alike, that’s impossible in any kind of relationship. It also doesn’t have anything to do with religion. Please note that no relationship is ever perfect.

The real test here is how the two of you faces challenges together, and how the two of you still stays together despite the external or internal problems that arise between the two of you. No relationship ever becomes perfect, and it requires constant calibration to the situation and within the relationship.

Fr Joachim Omolo Ouko, AJ
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Real change must come from ordinary people who refuse to be taken hostage by the weapons of politicians in the face of inequality, racism and oppression, but march together towards a clear and unambiguous goal.

-Anne Montgomery, RSCJ
UN Disarmament
Conference, 2002

Kenya: Would you marry a Single Mom?

From: Maurice Oduor

Why would this even be an issue? Society has changed and we no longer live in the early 1900s so I don’t see why any man would have any hang-up about hooking up with and marrying a single mom. What if women refuse to marry men who are single parents? Then what? If i’m in love with a woman, why would I worry about her being a single mom? Love is blind as far as I’m concerned. I love you, i love everything about you as a package.

I hope this generation does not even see this as an issue worth discussing.

Would you marry a single mother?
Updated Sunday, September 22nd 2013 at 19:52 GMT +3


Early this month, Alice Mugwe, 27, was jailed for six years for killing her five-year-old son Peter Mugo by throwing him in a pit latrine at Nyambari Market in Lari on June 26, 2009 to ‘save her marriage’.

When Alice met a man she loved, she left her young son from a previous relationship with her mother and moved in with her beau — without telling him that she had a child. But when the little secret was discovered, the marriage floundered. And down the pit latrine young Peter went.

It seems single mothers, especially those with boys, carry a warning sign on their foreheads reading ‘marry at your own the risk’ — at least if men are to be believed.

Most men feel getting ‘ready-made’ children is not only hectic, but also unwise although if they had to choose, they would rather settle down with a woman with two or even three daughters, but never a son. Maybe this explains why there are many street boys as compared to girls, but that is a story for another day.

The only constant factor is that a true African man will not find it ok for a woman to come with male children. They would never raise other men’s sons mostly because of land and inheritance issues.

It is about pride. A man wants to chest thump and boast “hii ni ndume yangu (that’s my boy)”. But how would he brag if the son didn’t spring from his loins? Even worse is the notion that out there lives another man who brags that his ndume (bull or son) is being raised by another man.

But there is more to it. Boys, at least among the people of western Kenya, allegedly come to the homestead with a granary of misfortunes.

“Mtoto wa nje, haswa kijana, humaliza boma yako kabisa. Ananyang’anya vijana wako bahati yote (stepsons destroy your home because they take all the luck from your biological sons),” says Mzee Robert Okwisia.

The old man adds that such boys always tend to excel academically, get good jobs, marry ‘organised’ women and have successful families unlike a man’s biological children. Worse, he says, such boys eventually leave in search of their biological fathers, leaving the men who raised them high and dry, unlike stepdaughters who bring wealth to the home.

“Cases of men strangling their young stepsons early in the marriage, so that they can start on a clean slate are, therefore, not uncommon. Also when you live with a woman who has another man’s son, that man can come and take her away any time. We have seen these things,” says the retired teacher.


Elders also whisper that a stepson is likely to bring to the family manners and characteristics that are different, like night running, and be a nuisance and a threat to the surrogate father’s daughters.

Most of the men Crazy Monday talked to concurred that culture and traditions play a major role. They preferred girls because they kind of believe girls come with fewer stresses — no expensive rituals like circumcision and boys’ huts, and are instead, a source of wealth as they bring dowry to the home and tend to be very close to their stepfathers.

“The only expense is to feed them well, buy them goodies when they sulk and give them a good education,” says James Wekesa a software engineer.

Boys, on the other hand, will have their eyes set on your estate and even that of the clan, basically wanting to rule their step-fathers’ kingdom, something most men wouldn’t stand from someone with foreign genes.

“A ‘stranger’ boy is like a treasury bill — it is a claim on your fortune as a man. But a girl is never ‘foreign genes’. She is like a grant from overseas. Free credit. If a single mum has a boy and wants to get married in the larger Africa, I suggest she hands over the boy to his biological father or leave him with her relatives. I would happily take care of my sister’s boys, but not a son with different genes from my own,” says Wekesa.

Aside from that, a lot about bringing up a boy from a different father boils down to perceived control. Men want their women and brood to be under their control. But controlling and disciplining a man who is unrelated and knows you are not his father is difficult and almost certainly, will lead to rivalry and conflict. Even worse, that son makes it difficult for a man to control his own wife, men say.

The son looks at his stepfather as a stranger who wants to control his mother, while the man, on the other hand, looks at the son as a stranger interfering with his wife. Striking a balance can be a hard task when you, in real sense, cannot please them both.

This will most split the woman’s loyalty between the two males of different blood. At the end of the day, the son may win by virtue of being her blood relative, which makes the chances the marriage failing quite high.

“Single women with sons have to choose between a lover or their sons, with many sacrificing their own love lives for their sons, This narrows or even blocks their chances of having a marriage,” says lawyer S Kibira.

The only other way, says Kibira, is to either let biological fathers or maternal grandfathers bring up children borne out of wedlock.

In Luhya land for instance, ancestral land belongs to the clan, it is inherited. Therefore, the family land cannot be subdivided to a stranger — he needs to go back to his own clan and get his share. In fact, cases abound of grown men, some with families, who troop back to their biological fathers for a share of the land after getting raised by maternal uncles and grandparents.

Secondly, men and their children cannot be parted.

“Men follow a former girlfriend to where she is married to bring back their sons. If that is not the case, when a man reaches a certain age, he starts snooping around looking for his bloodline and a place to build his simba. You can’t control him,” says Mzee Oluoch Madiang.

Neighbours won’t make matters any better. They gossip about it and even lead the boys to their biological parents without the adopted father’s knowledge.

“Who wants such stress or to be nagged to the bar, or even to the grave in search of another man’s real father? It’s just best to keep off these women with boys for sanity’s sake,” poses a man who sought anonymity.


But some single mothers have been lucky to be taken in with even three sons. To them, these are none issues. If a man wants her, then he needs to take her with her baggage or bugger off.

“The first thing I do when I meet a man is to tell him that I have a nine-year-old son who is part of my life. If we are to become an item, I make it clear we will be three in the relationship and if he doesn’t like it, he can as well take a walk,” says Nduku, a 33-year-old nurse.

Small comfort for Jane Frieda Achieng’, a mother of two boys: “ A man told me to my face that he loved me but would only look for me when my sons were done with school and were out of my house.”

It is a safe bet that neither Achieng’ nor Nduku will be walking down the isle any time soon.


From: Ouko joachim omolo
The News Dispatch with Omolo Beste

Today’s first reading is taken from Am 8:4-7, second reading is from 1 Tm 2:1-8, the Gospel is from Lk 16:1-13. All the readings today emphasize the concept of Justice and peace. While justice is a virtue which guides the human will, prompting us to give others what is due to them by reason of their existence and their actions, peace is a gift of God implored with faith.

As prophet Amos speaks out in the first reading, we must fearlessly condemn greed, self-indulgence, corruption, complacency, and religious indifference in the strongest term possible. We must condemned political, religious and any other leaders who exploited and oppressed the poor.

We should emulate the courage of Anglican Bishop Alexander Muge who became a true voice to the voiceless of the exploited and oppressed people of God in Kenya. He fearlessly condemned Moi’s regime for corruption and ethnic cleansing which had begun sweeping through the Rift Valley, Western, Nyanza and other regions.

We should also emulate the courage of American Mill Hill missionary, Fr John Anthony Kaiser who fearlessly brought attention to the social problems facing people of God in Kenya. He became a vocal critic of the waves of evictions which were clearly government-backed.

He came into national limelight in the early 1990s when he vigorously resisted the eviction of the internally displaced people who had camped at Maela in Narok, following their eviction from Enoosupukia.

In the second reading St. Paul insists that we must speak the truth without fear, bias or favor. We should emulate the courage of American human rights activist, Malcolm X who courageously and fearlessly spoke the truth:

“I’m for truth, no matter who tells it. I’m for justice, no matter who it is for or against. I’m a human being, first and foremost, and as such I’m for whoever and whatever benefits humanity as a whole.”

Jesus told his disciples that to believe in his is to know the truth, and the truth shall make you free” John 8:31,32. The key to genuine freedom is found in the phrase; “continue in my word”. Jesus says we come to know the truth by continuing in his teachings, and truth is that which will liberate us or make us free.

Truth will lead men and women, boys and girls to love one another. To the extent that we love one another, we shall also respect each other’s rights and privileges.

Later Saint Paul would write about the necessity to be numbered among those “who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. For…ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit” (Romans 8:4-6, 9). It is not a matter of being “bad” or “good” but of being truthful.

To live as a material being is to live a lie; to live as a spiritual being is to live the truth. And that is truly “life and peace.” “This I say then, Walk in the Spirit,” for “he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit” with the Divine (Galatians 5:16; I Corinthians 6:17).

In the Gospel Christ is warning those who would follow him on the road to heaven not to become the slaves of earthly things. We should serve God, not money. No servant can serve two masters. He will either hate one and love the other, or be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and mammon.”

In simple word, Jesus wants us to be generous with what you have. Generosity is the habit of giving without expecting anything in return. It can involve offering time, assets or talents to aid someone in need. Generosity can also be spending time, money, or labor, for others, without being rewarded in return.

Although generosity often goes hand-in-hand with charity, it is not solely based on one’s economic status, but instead, includes the individual’s pure intentions of looking out for society’s common good and giving from the heart. In other words, generosity should reflect the individual’s passion to help others.

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Real change must come from ordinary people who refuse to be taken hostage by the weapons of politicians in the face of inequality, racism and oppression, but march together towards a clear and unambiguous goal.

-Anne Montgomery, RSCJ UN Disarmament Conference, 2002


From: Ouko joachim omolo
The News Dispatch with Omolo Beste

Last Saturday Rev Fr Augustine Achaha of the Apostles of Jesus Missionaries presided over a wedding ceremony between Emily Matunda Mwafusi and Christopher Mwakatili Chorongo, one of its kind in 3 years at St Thomas Catholic Church in Magadi Soda, Ngong Diocese.

Basing his 37 minutes homily on extramarital sex and infidelity in marriage, Father Achaha caused laughter when he asked a question on what good do men get in other women’s wives that is not in their wives.

People laughed of course, but the truth of the matter is that cases of extramarital sex and infidelity in marriage are on the rise. Here in Kenya the act is popularly known in Swahili as ‘mpango wa kando’ (extramarital sex).

This is where a married man keeps a mistress elsewhere without the knowledge of his wife. A mistress is a long-term female lover and companion who is not married to her partner but can have children that the man must take care of as his rest of the lawful children.

The relationship generally is stable and at least semi-permanent; however, the couple does not live together openly. Also the relationship is usually, but not always, secret. There is an implication that a mistress may be “kept”—i.e., that the lover is paying for some of the woman’s living expenses including paying school fees for children and paying rent.

Because of its graveness this act may carry moral or religious and consequences in civil or religious law. It can lead to separation or divorce.

In Judaism the Torah prescribes the death penalty through stoning for adultery, which is defined as having sex with a woman who is married to another man. Two witnesses of good character had to testify in court for the case to be even considered by the judges.

Extramarital sex is considered to be immoral by most Christian groups, who base this primarily on passages like 1Cor 6:9-10: Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor sexual perverts, nor those who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor revilers, nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God.

Extramarital sex has historically been considered to be one of the more serious and damaging sins, possibly because of passages like 1 Corinthians 6:18 that speak of it as sinning against one’s own body.

In Islam the law prescribes severe punishments extramarital sex, by both men and women. Premarital sex could be punished by up to 100 lashes, while adultery is punishable by stoning.

There are reasons men give for cheating on their wives. They do so because they have become unsatisfied with their wives. Cheating usually occurs in the phase of companionate love, when couples begin to settle down, have kids and solidify the life being built together.

There are five categories leading to infidelity. One is opportunistic infidelity which occurs when a partner is in love and attached to a partner, but surrenders to their sexual desire for someone else. The opportunistic infidelity is driven by irrepressible lust, situational circumstances and/or opportunity, and sometimes, pure risk-taking behavior.

The second category is obligatory infidelity based on fear that refraining from someone’s sexual advances will result in rejection, and being unwilling to handle such rejection, resulting in surrender to them. Some people end up cheating solely on the need for approval from somebody, even though they still hold a strong attraction to their committed partner.

The third category is romantic infidelity which occurs when the cheater is in the process of “falling out of love” with his/her partner. The person’s self-perceived obligatory commitment to the relationship’s tenets and overall life-meaning is likely the only thing still keeping them with their partner in this example.

The fourth category is conflicted romantic infidelity which takes place when a person both falls in love with and has a strong sexual desire for multiple people at one time, even though s/he may already be committed to a partner.

In this circumstance the person feels s/he cannot tell his/her committed partner about what has happened, but is nevertheless unable to resist the compulsion.

The fifth category is commemorative infidelity which occurs when a person has completely fallen out of love with their spouse, but is still in a committed relationship with them.

If divorce results from infidelity, research suggest that the “faithful” spouse may experience feelings of low life satisfaction and self esteem; they may also engage in future relationships fearful of the same incidence occurring. Divorce is one response to marital infidelity.

The church is concerned about these issues because marriage and the family are of fundamental importance for the Church and for society.

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Real change must come from ordinary people who refuse to be taken hostage by the weapons of politicians in the face of inequality, racism and oppression, but march together towards a clear and unambiguous goal.

-Anne Montgomery, RSCJ UN Disarmament Conference, 2002

Kenyan Suspects of Crime against humanity and genocide must be tried at the ICC in the Hague

From: Gordon Teti


THOSE WHO say that Uhuru Kenyatta and William Ruto should be prosecuted in the Kenyan courts and not at the ICC must be kidding. The judgement regarding the stealing of land belonging to a victim of Post Election Violence by Ruto in 2008 is a warning shot. The judgement fell far below the standard required in a fair hearing. The Judge in reality cleared Ruto of any criminal responsibility. The 5 million that Ruto has been ordered to pay is not supported by any facts or imaginations in the court ruling and Ruto being a canning thief will buy time and in the end will not pay the victim even a penny. This was a gimmick by the Judge and the court to placate the confidence of the public to believe that the Kenyan courts are TODAY more independent of the Executive control after stealing the elections for Uhuru Kenyatta. This is balooni and total non sense. READ for DETAILS:


Writes Leo Odera Omolo.

Revelers at a popular joint I Eldoret town took to their heels after a senior Nandi politician who had requested for permission to enjoy privacy and his drinks with his lady companion in a cubicle out of the main hotel hall was discovered naked and right on the sexual act.

The politician who is was said to have been an MP from the Nandi County had arrived at the Rosewood Cottage Restaurant at about 9p.m.

The two approached the hotel manager for a cubicle outside the main hall and the permission was granted because the gentleman is said to have been a frequent patron of the facility.

A few minutes late as the time was approached 11,P.M a waiter walked in the cubicle with intention of inquiring whether the couple needed more drinks and other services. The waiter was shocked and taken back when she discovered the to couple naked and in a compromising position enjoying full scale sexual inter-course. The guest was asked why he was behaving a shameful act like that in public, but he rudely replied that he had been spending a fortune at the facility therefore did not want to be harassed.

A bitter argument ensued drawing the attention of many patrons to the back of the hotel where the small dining cubicles are located.

The matter was put to rest when the politician and his companion dressed up and sought for a hotel room instead of staying the cubicle, but before the rumor had spread like a brush fire reaching many parts of the Eldoret Town. The politician could not be named owing to legal complications, however, our mole who sneaked into the hotel during the commotion has confirmed that the man is a former member of parliament in one the constituencies with the Nandi County.


USA: How to live before you die By Steve Jobs

From: Yona Maro

In 12 June, 2005, a year after he was first diagnosed with cancer, Apple CEO Steve Jobs made a candid speech to graduating students at Stanford University. Jobs in Africa International Job Opportunities

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“I am honoured to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College [Portland, Oregon] after the first six months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: “We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?” They said: “Of course.” My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn’t all romantic. I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms, I returned Coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the seven miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and sans serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But 10 years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it’s likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later.

Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky – I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz [Steve Wozniak] and I started Apple in my parents’ garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2bn company with over 4,000 employees. We had just released our finest creation – the Macintosh – a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling-out. When we did, our board of directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn’t know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down – that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologise for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me – I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over. I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the world’s first computer-animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple’s current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It was awful-tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, some day you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “no” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7.30 in the morning and it clearly showed a tumour on my pancreas. I didn’t even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor’s code for “prepare to die”. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you’d have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumour. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I’m fine now.

This was the closest I’ve been to facing death, and I hope it’s the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful, but purely intellectual, concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It is life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but some day not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And, most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called the Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960s, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors and Polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of the Whole Earth Catalog, and then, when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words “Stay hungry. Stay foolish”. It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay hungry. Stay foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you. Stay hungry. Stay foolish.

Thank you all very much.

Kenya: Ministry of Medical services top lady in love scandal

By Reporter

A high ranking woman in the ministry of medical services is allegedly embroiled in an incestuous affair with one of her first cousin who is a private practicing accountant, to the chagrin of both the extended and nucleus family.

The bespectacled medic who is a dentist by profession, working in the ministry’ World Bank projects department kicked off the illicit affair with the man who too is bespectacled and is in the club of post bachelorhood, aftermath of the successful divorce case pitying her and the husband.

The former husband, who was a pharmacist by profession and has demised, was operating one of the leading pharmacy shops in Migori town, Migori County-the first marital home of the dentist woman, an alumna of Nairobi University, in the early 1980’s.

The duo inseparable lovebirds’ bondage which has lasted close to two decades has elicited sharp reaction not only locally, but also from the global front where the children of the shameless randy woman are residing, working and studying.

Speaking on strict conditions of anonymity on behalf of their siblings, one of her children joined the fray of the relatives and elders back at home in castigating their mother’ behavior and urged them not to relent in their bid to break the blossomed bondage since its an embarrassment to them, morally.

Soon clocking retirement age, the divorcee woman who also at one time served in the senior most position of Mbagathi hospital and with a short stint as acting Provincial Medical Officer(PMO) in 1990’s.

And, currently residing at doctors plaza Sunview hospital, opposite Mbagathi hospital along Langata road, recently found herself and the certified bachelor cousin partner ,between a hard rock and a stone when they decided to pay visit to their newly built state-of-the- art home in Muhoroni which is situated a stone throw from DC’ official residence:

Charged locals armed with assorted weapons coupled with fomented anger over the pair’s immoral affair which flies in the face of luo’ traditional customs and cultural beliefs, discharged towards the home, cordoned it, caging the two for hours indoors, ready to unleash terror, punitively.

Thanks to the diplomatic prowess of a top-level administrator in Nyando district, who intervened and restored the state of normalcy, with the locals vowing that the game is not over till its over since the application of jungle law is the best remedial measure arguing that the wheels of justice is very slow in, Kenya.


From: Ouko joachim omolo
Colleagues Home & Abroad Regional News

FRIDAY, JUNE 1, 2012

Today is June 1, 2012, in Kenya it is Madaraka Day, commemorating the day that Kenya attained internal self-rule in 1963, preceding full independence from the United Kingdom on 12 December 1963.

In the Roman Catholic Church, Pope Benedict XVI uses the month for his general intention to pray that that believers may recognize in the Eucharist the living presence of the Risen One who accompanies them in daily life- and for his missionary intention that Christians in Europe may rediscover their true identity and participate with greater enthusiasm in the proclamation of the Gospel.

For the large number June is known for marriages that occur over the course of the month. According to one etymology, June is named after Juno (Hera), the ancient Roman goddess of marriage, and accordingly, many Romans chose to honor this goddess by having their wedding in June.

Many considered this month to be the most favorable time to marry and would be showered with luck and good wishes from the gods above if they did so. In dholuo Juno means love (hera), the goddess of marriage and a married couple’s household, which is why some consider it good luck to be married in this month.

Significantly, it is the month that parents are required to teach their children about sex with honesty and openness so that they can make good choices- your rule being that for when it is right to have sex with someone.

Discuss with your children how to protect them from abuse such as rape. Make sure your children know that there are ways to express affection-kissing and touching that are safe, that show affection without risk. Make sure they understand that sex can be a beautiful part of life.

Discuss what our children learn by observing our sexual lives and the relationships around them.

Tomorrow is June 2, in Kenya it is going to be very important day- the day that reminds Kenyans: “It’s Our Turn to Eat” by Michaela Wrong, published about John Githongo’s expose of high level government corruption.

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By Bob Ndira Uradi

An amorous top manager with one of the sugar mills in Western Kenya is still nursing the wound as a result of the beating which is said to have received when he was caught red handed pants down with a married woman in a Bungoma hotel.

The incident left many residents of the town puzzled. The man is said to be serving in top managerial position as Human Resources Manager, while his lover is a married woman. She is a wife of a prominent businessman in the region.

Our source reported that the manager has been in the habit of dating married women, particularly those working under him with whom he enticed with promotion.

The love affair between the two has been flourishing for sometime, and the husband got the wind. On the fateful day, the husband is said to have followed the two lovers in a different car as they drove towards Bungoma town for their sexual escapades.

Unaware that they were being followed, the two lovers booked themselves into a hotel and immediately went into action. The husband armed with a Maasai rungu burst into the hotel room and found the two lovers in a compromised position.

He descended on the amorous manager with his rungu. The manager, however, escaped leaving his shoes and other belonging in the hotel leaving his love bird behind. At the mercy of the enraged husband who reigned blows and kicks on her.

According to an eye witness, the woman was buttered almost to death by her enraged husband who had sworn before his friends that he would teach her a lesson that she will live to regret.  

The commotion, attracted a large number of onlookers, and the woman was only rescued from further punishment by good Samaritans. The matter is still very hot and has since become the talks of the town.

The amorous manager who is actually an engineer by profession, but had only switched to human resources career. Dumb folded manager at the facility and workers alike were seen discussing the incident in groups and in low tones.

The Sugar Mill  where the two work is also said to be disgusted with the action of the two senior staff and is contemplating taking disciplinary action since the incident has become popular in the public domain.


Song; Here, no one cares about you

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I thought of the many songs I had heard that voice sing as I sat down and reached for a glass of water; after all I was still trying to understand how such an icon could suddenly be gone.

“In this country no one cares about you. These stars have money but they’re not happy, they are very lonely and miserable people. “ Lauren responded “It just makes you realize how short life is.”

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Today is February 14, the Valentine Day. I have chosen to love the following Kenyan women for what they have done: Lieutenant NC Koech and Captain YK Kirui among other scores of women combatants deployed into Somalia, where they are fighting alongside men in the campaign to dislodge the al-Qaeda-linked militants

Woman officer in the Navy is Lieutenant Colonel Betty Kenga, who works at its headquarters. Kenya Navy presently has ten female officers and 115 service women.

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Kenya: Gossi Column

Forwarded By Leo Odera Omolo


The Famous Will

There’s a verse in the bible that says “Wise men know when they are just about to die”.

I believe the author of that verse was utmost inspired by his highness the Almighty Father because that is the simple fact of life.

And that is why most people write down their wills whenever it downs unto them that they are just about to give room for upcoming and future generations.

Otherwise, how can a sensible person write a will when he clearly knows that he’s not better placed to wave bye to this uncompromising world any time soon?

Since I was born more than two decades ago to present date, no one among those who went to hell or heaven before us ever left a famous will. The reason is that most wills range from providing heirs to wives, husbands, children, houses and acres of grabbed land among all other earthly materialistic things in the name of property.

For a very long time now, I have gone through desperate days and sleepless nights. I’ve gone through thick & thin, rain and sunshine. I’ve thought carefully and logically to produce what I now confidently refer to as “The famous will”.

“My dear wives, children, brethren, sisters and villagers (villagers are included chiefly because it takes the efforts of a whole village to raise a child).Time has come when we must call a spade a spade and not a big spoon. After birth, comes marriage and finally death. The writing is on the wall-my time has come, I have to go.

Since I was born almost 100 years ago, throughout my life as a junior, youth, middle aged man and now an old man who is just about to kiss this world an everlasting bye, I have stood the taste of time to witness the power of change on both negative and positive fronts.

Of all the changes, the most negative one has been coming out there in large numbers to feast in funerals of slain men. In the traditional African society, the trend was different as the aggrieved family used to get food donations from well wishing villagers.

From a biblical point of view, there’s no verse in the bible indicating that men ate and drunk heavily during burials. By feasting, will you be mourning or celebrating my death? I hope the point is home with all of you. Cooking food, drinking and feasting in the course of my funeral are condemned with the strongest terms ever.

As always, before the final journey to the land of the chosen few (heaven), there will be sermons and speeches from religious leaders, relatives, friends and foes alike. The holy bible always reminds us of saying only the truth so as to be set free. For those who will get a rare chance to speak, utter only the truth.

The issue of exaggerating every aspect of my life will do me no good. Of what benefit will it be to you if you stand tall and argue that I was holy than thou when all know that the word church never existed in my vocabulary? If you call me honest, many will wonder how because in death, I die with many of my neighbours debts.

How do you stand to gain if you stand before the whole village and falsely testify that I was on the fore front of fighting witchcraft when all know too well that it was not until very late that I relinguished the captain’s arm band to the villages’ witchcraft team. In order to increase my probability of ever shaking hands with those heavenly angels (Gabriel and Mary), do not be tempted to exaggerate anything about my life. Then to all speakers, do not speak to exercise your jaws. Be brief and precise.

Over the ages, there has been a raging debate as to whether women should be equal to men. Some male chauvinists argue that since Eve was constructed from Adam’s rib, there’s no way women can become a dorminant species. Irrespective of the chest thumping men, women have so far tried to hold their own account. They are nowadays fighting men left, right and centre on all professional fronts.

Leave alone professionalism, games and sports previously dictated by men have been ‘invaded’ by women. Take for instance women soccer teams like Brazil, Germany and Nigeria. These women play football like nobody’s business. All the same, they are still not equal to men.

What brings out the distinction is simple. Whereas men can dig graves, women have been denied that privilege by barbaric and superstitious beliefs imposed by men. My will is gender sensitive. Women are better placed to dig up my grave since they are the ones who toil the farms while men traverse the villages in search of drinking dens.

Women, permission is granted, brace yourselves up and dig my grave.

This is an opportunity that is extremely up for grabs. Come one, come all and prove to your male counter parts that what men can do, women can do it better and what women can do better, men cannot do. In deed, I’m bound to rest in peace if my grave is exclusively worked on by women.

Lest I forget, I’m leaving behind my pretty last wife. Although when I married her I said ‘till death do us apart’, she is not for inheritance. Not even over my dead body. I hope to meet her in the spirit world when her time expires on earth. And again, I do not need a coffin in order to go to heaven. Bye and may God bless you all.


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One of my Facebook friends recently posted on her News Feed page a very informative joke: “If money grew on trees women would date monkeys.” This is also true of Gwen Guthrie, an American singer-song writer, best known for her 1986 song: “You’ve got to have a j-o-b if you want to be with me/ No romance without finance”.

It explains why a common saying that a Kikuyu woman will treat you like a king as long as you have cash, but toss you like rotten mutura (traditional sausage) once you are broke is no longer confined to Kikuyu women alone-every woman needs ‘chapa’ (cash), especially now that Kenyan economy is almost becoming valueless.

The prices of essential commodities continue to shoot up due to weakening of Kenya shillings against US dollar. This week alone by the close of trading session on Tuesday, the local currency closed the day at new low of Sh95.05 against the dollar with dealers in the market quoting the shilling at an average of Sh95, for the first time in about 17 years.

Already there is fear that by next week according to the market projections an exchange rate may shoot up to Sh100 plus. The weaker the shillings the continuity of higher prices-it means that pay cheques will never keep up as media reports. This scenario makes everyone to love money.

That is also why the myth of sex that Kamba woman is known to be a force to reckon with, or coastal women are so idle that they spend the whole day applying henna all over their bodies, prepare elaborate weddings and cook biryani the whole day as they gossip, or Taita are said to make exemplary, humble wives, but when they make up their minds that a relationship is headed for doom, they are known to vanish back to their parents’ faster than you can say “mdavida” are gone myths.

Other myths that Luo women are said to stick to their men like glue as long as they suspect love is in the air and don’t look at another woman! If you do, she will have you and the other woman by the neck does not apply. Apart from being prided to have “drop dead gorgeous” bodies – with ‘Adhiambo sianda’ being their brand name, Luo women are believed to be good cooks and bewitching lovers.

Some men, especially Luo men like to marry Luhya women because of the myth that they are known to be modest and to have austerity, and that while they cannot stand extravagance, a Luhya woman would rather stay at home and drink numerous cups of tea than have you take her for an expensive dinner so long as there is in constant supply of ugali and Ingoho (chicken), she is yours for keeps.

The Luo men, mainly from Awendo, Dede, Migori, Ulanda, Ogwedhi, Makalda or surrounding areas of South Nyanza are said to like marrying Maragoli women not only because they believe they are easy to tame, but also because they are known to be in the business of making children, does not apply either.

The myth also has it that Kalenjin woman will never utter a word even if she smells strange perfume from you-she will not ask you from which woman did you get the perfume and where. And that men like them because they most beautiful, hardworking and wear big-hearts-former American ambassador to Kenya picked one.

Other myths have it that Maasai women are unquestionably obedient. They will never dream of correcting their menfolk. They still view their husbands as “lord of the house”.
People believe Masaai men are still glued to the custom of planting spears outside their age group member’s manyattas to warn the husband that serious business is taking place inside the manyatta and therefore will not ask you where you slept and with whom. Men also like them because they are generous with their husbands.

While Meru women are believed to be so faithful and agreeable that they will fight divorce to the bitter end even if they are living in hardship condition despite the fact that like men they can be hot tempered, Kisii woman has it in her mind that as long as you make her world rock she will never leave, even if you hire ten bulldozers to evict her from your house, like Meru women men are cautious because they can be hot tempered.

Today all these myths have been taken by time. In US for instance, unmarried couples account for more than 5.5 million households. This is because marriage means business. Without money it means no love. Your girl friend can just leave you because you refused to M-Pesa her or bamba twenty.

This is because the lack of money generated by one person in the eyes of the other can cause a problem because the expectations of the other person haven’t been met. Some working class would like to remain unmarried because they want to feel that they want to enjoy their funds alone because they are doing so well.

These are the type of women who would not like to get married because a man could use money as a symbol of power in the relationship. This is because in relationship money has proven to be the root of the problem. The man is usually the authority, and money has control and authority connected to it.

Another reason why most single professional women do not want get married as some of my Facebbok friends argue is because most single professionals are tied by careers, lack of appropriate partner or just lack of commitments and fear of responsibility, or because they are feared for what they have or education levels or the far they are careerwise.

Most single professionals online would however, like to combine forces to remove this fear and have single people take a step of faith to declare they are single and are ready for a commitment, which is why you can get them through date lines. Some women and men through such date lines have managed to get good partners for life.

Although some working class or professional single women as they are sometimes referred to would like to get married, according to the Daily Nation results of the poll published December 24, 2006, on which I was also interviewed, 63 percent of Kenya’s single women are frustrated marriage-wise because there is no man to marry them.

It explains why some single women and men have formed their own class where they prefer to be lesbians or homosexuals staying together even though most gay people disagree with this theory despite the fact that most scientists and biologists agree that there may be an environmental component to sexuality.

Of course, while some women would like to be lesbians because of the past molestation by men, especially through rape, the fact remains that some do so as a matter of choice between two options. This also applies to homosexual gays.

The good news is that professional women in their late 30s and 40s are happy, independent ‘living singles’. Some have made a deliberate decision to remain so while others argue they are still single by forced circumstances such as broken relationships, whereas majority of those in their 40s have established careers and acquired property so many men shy off from them because they feel threatened.

The bad news is for women in their 50s-they struggle with loneliness. They tend to hate men and cry over lost relationships, cursing those men who messed them up when they could have made better choices. Most of those women suffer from rejection, bitterness and stigma.

So the issue here is not sorely on money that is why for instance, there are around 150,000 divorces a year in the UK at the moment with the average marriage lasting 11 years. It’s often women who do the walking out of a marriage that has gone stale, or where both parties have grown apart.

People for Peace in Africa (PPA)
P O Box 14877
00800, Westlands

Tel 254-20-4441372

The bible is explicit when it comes to sex

from collins odhiambo

Sex according to Pastor Khathide (Ugandan)

A lot of people don’t associate sex with God – they associate it with Satan and darkness, as if sex is not holy…. !!

The bible is explicit when it comes to sex.
Sex is holy within marriage, and there is no prescribed style.
Nowhere in the Bible does it say that the missionary position is the only sexual style. Not discussing sex in a relationship leads to divorce!!!!!.

Pastor Khathide has counseled women who’ve complained:
my husband treats me as if I were his brother.
There was one who told him:
I am tired of getting sex fortnightly, like a salary.
Khathide told her she was lucky to be getting sex fortnightly,
since some wives only get it on big days, like elections.

Many husbands leave their wives to seek sexual pleasures in Hillbrow.
Have you ever asked yourself what those women have that you don’t. Wives have become very frigid and even sleep with their panties.
If you’re a married woman, you should sleep naked
and let your bum touch your husband..
Today you find men going out of their way to get a glimpse of a vagina. They page through magazines and even go to lingerie departments in stores hoping to see what’s hidden under panties, because their wives hide it from them.

Marriage is about being free with your body in front of your partner.
A woman should parade naked and do some modeling to tempt her husband. There are many married women who don’t know what their husbands’ penises look like. She only feels it when he enters her. They’ve never touched it, let alone seen it, because the husband switches off the lights before undressing.
A penis is a wife’ s toy – she is supposed to play with it.

He blames couples for not making time for sex andcomplaining about being tired after a day’s work. You find many couples who’ve been sexually starved for years. God created sex for procreation and also for pleasure.You can’t marry and not have a good time in bed.

Why can’t you drive home during lunch and have a quickie with your wife?
We’ re all equal in sex – it’s not just about a woman satisfying a man.
You have to satisfy each other.
Have you ever seen a woman who has been satisfied?
Have u noticed how she glows and becomes energetic?
May the Lord Bless you.
This is the ‘Whole Truth, Nothing But The Truth’ so God !
Told Us From The Beginning.

Once you read this letter you have to keep it going.
This game has been played since 1996…
You must send this letter to 7 people.
On the 5th day someone will ask you out or say ‘I love you.’
This is! not a joke.
It has worked for many years.
If you break the chain,
you will have bad luck with guys/girls forever.
This is just for future readers.
This began in 1996,not much of a past, but it works.

So here are the rules:
If you read this on a Sunday, wish for a good week

If you read this on a Monday, wish for money

If you read this on a Tuesday, wish for love

If you read this on a Wednesday, wish for success

If you read this on a Thursday, wish for anything you want

If you read this on a Friday, wish for a really hot date

If you read this on a Saturday, wish for an important phone call

Send this to seven people (after you make a wish).

Make sure it is sent as soon as you read it or your wish won’t come true.

… And as we walk,we make the pledge that we shall always march ahead.We cannot turn back…

Seeking A Luo Lady For A Serious Relationship

From: proud2bkenyan

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