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An Epidemic: Nigerian Men Killing Their Nurse Wives In The US

From: Leila Abdul

“Yes I have killed the woman that messed up my life; the woman that has destroyed me. I am at Shalom West. My name is David and I am all yours.”
Those were David Ochola’s words during his 911 (U.S. Emergency Number) call to authorities after shooting dead his 28 years old wife, Priscilla Ochola, in Hennepin, Minnesota. The 50-years old husband was tired of being “disrespected” by his wife, a Registered Nurse (RN) whom he had brought from Nigeria and sponsored through nursing school only to have her make much more than him in salary – a situation which led to Mrs. Ochola “coming and going as she chose without regard for her husband.” The couple had two children – four years old boy and a three years old girl.

In Texas, Babajide Okeowo had been separated from his wife, Funke Okeowo, with whom he resided at their Dallas home. Upon the divorce, the husband lost the house to his wife, along with most of the contents therein, as is usually the tradition in U.S. divorces where the couple still has underage children. Mr. Okeowo, 48, divorced his wife because not long after she became a RN and made more money than him, she “took control” of the family finances and “controlled” her husband’s expenditure and movement. The husband could no longer make any meaningful contribution to his family back in Nigeria unless the wife “approved” it. He could not go out without her permission. Frustrated that his formerly malleable wife had suddenly become such a “terror” to him to the point of asking for in court and getting virtually everything for which he had worked since coming to the US thirty years prior, the husband got in his vehicle and drove a few hundred miles to Dallas to settle the scores. He found her in her SUV, adorned in full Nigerian attire on her way to the birthday bash organized in her honor. She had turned 46 on that day. Mr. Okeowo fired several rounds into his wife’s torso while she sat at the steering wheel, mercilessly killing her in broad daylight.

Also in Dallas (they sure need anger management classes in Dallas), Moses Egharevba, 45, did not even bother to get a gun. The husband of Grace Egharevba, 35, bludgeoned her to death with a sledge hammer while their seven years old daughter watched and screamed for peace. Mrs. Egharevba’s “sin” was that she became a RN and started to make more money than her husband. This led to her “financial liberation” from a supposedly tight-fisted husband who had not only brought her from Nigeria, but had also funded her nursing school education.

Like Moses Egharevba, Christopher Ndubuisi of Garland, Texas, (these Texas people!) also did not bother to get a gun. He crept into the bedroom where his wife, Christiana, was sleeping and, with several blows of the sledge hammer, crushed her head. Two years before Christiana was killed, her mother, who had been visiting from Nigeria, was found dead in the bathtub under circumstances believed to be suspicious. Of course, Christiana was a RN whose income dwarfed that of her husband as soon as she graduated from nursing school. The husband believed that his role as a husband and head of the household had been usurped by his wife. Mr. Ndubuisi’s several entreaties to his wife’s family to intercede and bring Christiana back under his control had all failed.

If circumstances surrounding the death of Christiana’s mother were suspicious, those surrounding the death of a Tennessee woman’s mother were not. Agnes Nwodo, a RN, lived in squalor before her husband, Godfrey Nwodo, rescued her and brought her to the US. He enrolled her in nursing school right away. Upon qualifying as a RN, Mrs. Nwodo assumed “full control” of the household. She brought her mother to live with them against her husband’s wishes. Mrs. Nwodo quickly familiarized herself with US Family Laws and took full advantage of them. Each time the couple argued, the police forced the husband to leave the house whether he had a place to sleep or not. On many occasions, Mr. Nwodo spent days in police cells. Upon divorcing his wife, Mr. Nwodo lost to his wife the house he had owned for almost 20 years before he married her. He also lost custody of their three children to her, with the court awarding him only periodic visitation rights. Even seeing the children during visitation was always a hassle as the wife would “arrive late to the neutral meeting place and leave early with impunity.” Mr. Nwodo endured so many embarrassing moments from his wife and her mother until he could take it no more. One day, he bought himself a shotgun and killed both his wife and her mother.

Caleb Onwudike’s wife, Chinyere Onwudike, 36, became a RN and no longer saw the need to be controlled by her husband. Mr. Onwudike, 41, worked two jobs to send his wife to her dream school upon bringing her to the US from Nigeria. After four years, she qualified as RN. Once she started to make more money than her husband, she began to “call the shots” at home. She “overruled” her husband on the size and cost of the house they purchased in Burtonsville, Maryland. She began to build a house solely in her name in their native Umuahia town of Abia State, Nigeria, without her husband’s input whatsoever. Mrs. Onwudike came and went “as she liked,” within the US and outside the US. In fact, she once travelled to Nigeria for three weeks “without her husband’s permission” to lavishly bury her father despite her husband’s protestations that they had better things to do with the money. Mrs. Onwudike let her husband know that this was mostly her money and she would spend it however she wanted. Through her hard work, she had risen to a managerial position at the medical center where she worked. Upon her return from burying her father, her husband got one of her kitchen knives and carved her up like Thanksgiving turkey inside their home on New Year’s Day.

Death is death no matter how it comes. But the goriest of these maniacal killings is probably the one that happened here in Los Angeles, California. Joseph Mbu, 50, was tired of his RN wife’s “serial disrespect” of him. The disrespect began as soon as she became a RN. Gloria Mbu, 40, had once told her husband he must be “smoking crack cocaine” if he thought he could tell her what to do with her money now that she made more money than him. Before she became a RN, Mr. Mbu had been very strict with family finances and was borderline dictatorial in his dealings with Mrs. Mbu. However, Mrs. Mbu learned the American system and would no longer allow any man to “put her down.” When Joseph Mbu could not take it anymore, he subdued his wife one day, tied her to his vehicle and dragged her on paved roads all around Los Angeles until her head split in many pieces.

[Author’s note: Although these are true stories, all the names and some of the details of the incidents have been altered as a mark of respect to the families involved. All of the killer husbands noted in these stories were found guilty. Most of them received the death sentence. Only the California and Maryland culprits received life sentences without the possibility of parole.]

It often comes to Nigerian men living in the US as a rude shock when their wives become the household’s bread winner. Having been accustomed to the docility, domestication, subjugation and outright terrorization of women back home in Nigeria, many Nigerian men are astounded when their wives assert their financial, behavioral and social independence. It is commonplace for Nigerian men to take important family decisions without consulting their wives; to travel out of town and indeed out of country without consulting their wives. Some do not even bother to inform their wives! It is not a big deal for Nigerian husbands to answer phone calls from their girlfriends while lying in bed with their wives; to buy expensive gifts for their girlfriends and making only perfunctory, casual attempt to conceal such gifts. It is nothing strange for Nigerian men to, in fact, bring those girlfriends to their matrimonial homes while their wives are home! Some Nigerian men think they have the carte blanche to do what they want because they are the bread winners. What’s the wife going to do to them? Beat them? Leave them? Leave them after one, two or three children? Who’s going to marry her? So Nigerian men think.

This cruel and phenomenal hostage-taking by Nigerian men in Nigeria is what Nigerian women in America are trying to stop. And they figured out the easiest way to begin curtailing these bullish husbands’ wings is to improve their own potential to earn more. A good way to earn a decent pay in the US (unlike in Nigeria) is to become a Registered Nurse. According to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS), the median annual salaries of RNs, based on information from May 2012, is $68,000, while the mean annual salary is $69,000. The middle 50% of RNs earns between $54,000 and $78,000. Only 10% of RNs earns less than $44,000, while some 10% earns more than $97,000. The BLS also reports average hourly wages: The median hourly wage of a RN is $32.00 and the mean hourly wage is $33.00. The middle 50% of RNs earns wages of $27.00 to $40.00, with 10% of them earning less than $22.00 while 10% earns more than $48.00 an hour.

Nigerian men in the US are quick to send their “newly-imported” wives to these nursing schools in the hope that once the women graduate, they (the husbands) could take control of their finances and continue their enslavement. You can imagine a man who was probably a menial worker earning less than $30,000 annually in an expensive place like California or New York going back to Nigeria to “oppress” the village with dollars. He finds a “village girl,” brings her to the US and sends her to nursing school. When she graduates and makes twice his salary, he begins to feel inferior to her and his macho instincts take control of him, catapulting his emotions over his sense of reason. If the RN wife decides to take a second or third job, she can easily triple or quadruple the gap between her earnings and those of her menial job husband’s.

Working long hours takes the wife away from home and because nurses are expected to work overnight shifts, you end up with a husband who is usually home alone at night with just the children. Since even “normal” marriages can be potentially stressful endeavors, adding spousal jealousy and a husband who sleeps alone half of the time to the equation will certainly test the limits of the marriage. It is the reason why even when such husbands do not go over the hill to kill their wives, they divorce them in epidemic numbers. A friend in New York told me that RN women there are being divorced in droves as if they are plagues.

What is the big deal if a RN wife makes more money than her husband? There are several other professions in which wives make more money than their husbands. In fact, I know of a few military couples with the wives senior in rank to their husbands even though they joined the military at the same time. Yet, nobody is killing or divorcing anybody. Is this strictly a RN thing?

My hope is that some of these RN wives learn from the many other RN wives who successfully manage their homes in spite of making more money than their husbands. My hope is also that the husbands of these RNs learn from husbands of the many RNs who successfully cope with a wife who makes more than they do. I don’t know how they do it, but for every RN who is killed or divorced by her husband, there are hundreds, if not thousands more who proudly respect their husbands and submit to their husbands’ authority – yes, their husbands’ authority (NOT control and NOT abuse) even here in the US.

By Abiodun Ladepo

Los Angeles, California, USA

Oluyole2@yahoo.com

HIGH COST OF LIVING IS TO BLAME FOR SUICIDE IN KENYA, SAYS FR WASONGA

From: Ouko joachim omolo
The News Dispatch with Omolo Beste
SUNDAY, DECEMBER 29, 2013

The parish priest of Blessed Sacrament, Oriang Catholic Church in Homa Bay Diocese said on Sunday that the high cost of living in Kenya is to blame for rise of suicides cases. Delivering his homily based on the feast of holy family of Jesus, Mary and Joseph, Rev Fr Christopher Wasonga said urgent action is needed to address the situation.

Father Wasonga was referring to recent media reports where a husband went berserk in Mai Mahiu, Naivasha killing his wife before taking his life as his children watched. The man in his late 50s committed suicide by hanging himself in his bedroom, hours after strangling his wife.

The man was said to be a sand harvester had earlier quarreled with the mother of four resulting in a fight. In the bizarre incident, the man was rescued by his two children after he tried to hang himself only to later on lock himself and take his life.

The Father also referred to an incident in Homa Bay where a man killed his family members and then committed suicide in Rodi Kopany Township of Homa Bay County. John Otieno, 40, killed his wife Linda Ochieng, 25, and two children before hanging himself at their rental house.

Otieno, whose original home is in Lela village, Migori County, was living in Rodi Kopany, where he sold clothes for a living. According to the Otieno’s mother, Consolata Otieno, her son and daughter-in-law had not quarrelled and she could not tell what prompted the killings.

He also mentioned the case where a woman, 27, killed her three children, seriously injured a fourth one and then took her own life at Matulo village in Siritanyi on the outskirts of Bungoma town.

Also in Vihiga where a 38-year-old man hanged himself in his sitting room and his wife hospitalised at Mukumu Mission hospital with grave injuries.

The deceased, Kevin Bunali, had four children both orphaned now as their two mothers had passed on earlier. He worked as a carpenter.

The wife, 25-year-old Judith Deizo, who is hospitalised, was his third wife and has no child with him. Since they got married earlier last year (2012), there has been no peace in that house as they have been fighting each other often.

Father Wasonga also referred to a case in a village in Uasin Gishu County where a man went berserk and killed his two children before committing suicide over a domestic dispute.

Julius Yego, 36, killed his two sons Franklin Cheruyiot, and Eliud Kipkoech aged 4 and 2 years respectively after a fight with his wife Damaris Yego. Confirming the incident, Eldoret West OCPD Ndung’u wa Ikonya said man after the heinous act hanged himself while the wife managed to escape.

During the mass attended by all Oriang family members from all outstations, Father Wasona also introduced Rev Sr Janet Owuor of Camilian missionary sisters from Oriang, Nyasore center who was celebrating her thanks giving mass after her final vows which took place on December 7, 2013 in Karen, presided over by Homa Bay Diocese, Bishop Philip Anyolo.

Just as Father Wasonga was deeply concerned, majority of Kenyans are optimistic that 2014 will be a lot better than 2013. According to a new survey, 21 per cent of Kenyans say 2013 was a “generally bad year”, with 7 per cent describing it as a “terrible year”.

Overall, this year was most disappointing to residents of Nairobi County, with 17 per cent of those polled describing 2013 as “terrible”. This assessment is partly attributable to the high cost of living in the city, which residents list at the top of their issues of concern.

Economically, there were disappointments too, owing to strikes involving teachers and doctors. And the fire at the Jomo Kenyatta International Airport in August which destroyed investments and lives of many families as did the terror attack at the Westgate Mall in Nairobi, a month later.

Meanwhile, the question of unemployment remains a source of headache more to residents of Coast and Western regions at 60 and 58 per cent, with their counterparts in Central (39 per cent) least concerned with the challenge.

Jubilee said it would create jobs for young generations, but to the surprise Present Uhuru Kenyatta shocked Kenyans by recycling old losers in politics by recent appointments. This is indeed a political suicide.

Jubilee is on the process of retrenching civil servants. When this happens many children will not be able to go to school because their retrenched parents will not be able to cater for their school fees and basic needs.

Unless the amendments to the Finance Act of 2012, which introduced a 10 per cent excise duty on transaction fees for financial as well money transfer services are not made, many Kenyans are going to suffer a great deal.

Most young people graduate from school and there is no immediate system to accommodate them, this result into hopelessness and at times misery resulting in suicides.

Yet suicide in Kenya is not openly discussed, one it is treated as a criminal offence. The survivors of a suicide attempt end up in jail instead of a correctional mental facility. Where the individual managed to kill him or others too, the people close to the victim may refuse to report the case to government agencies for fear of being victimised or charged.

Yet still, suicide has taken a new trend in Kenya where teenagers between 13-15 years have increasingly resorted to it following what they term as failure in the national exams. This leaves them feeling worthless, depressed and incompetent.

For example, when the 2011 KCPE results were announced, the media reported several incidences of candidates who resorted to suicide when they did not perform as anticipated.

Family dysfunction such as divorce and separation also affects young people’s response to issues in life. Most of the young people who commit suicide do it with the mindset that they are punishing their parents.

Fr Joachim Omolo Ouko, AJ
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Real change must come from ordinary people who refuse to be taken hostage by the weapons of politicians in the face of inequality, racism and oppression, but march together towards a clear and unambiguous goal.
-Anne Montgomery, RSCJ
UN Disarmament
Conference, 2002

Dr. Auma Obama, the only member amongst President Obama’s Kenyan relatives, that then US President-elect Barack Obama pays a personal tribute to in his historic acceptance speech of 4th November 2008 at Grant Park, Chicago

From: Jeremy Kinyanjui

Did you know that Dr. Auma Obama, President Barack Obama’s Kenyan half-sister, is the only member of Kenya’s “K’Obama Clan”, the only member amongst President Obama’s Kenyan relatives, that then US President-elect Barack Obama paid a personal tribute to in his historic acceptance speech as US President-elect at Grant Park, Chicago, on 4th November 2008?

In his said 17 minute acceptance speech of 4th November 2008 Barack began by paying glowing tribute to his opponent in the 2008 US Presidential election Senator John McCain, then paid glowing tribute to his 2008 running mate Vice President elect Joe Biden. Barack then went on to pay glowing tribute to his wife Michelle and their two daughters Sasha & Malia. After this Barack, paid glowing tribute to his maternal grandmother Madeleine Dunham, though he interestingly omitted paying personal tribute to either his mother Ann Dunham or his maternal grandfather Stanley Dunham. Barack paid tribute to the family on his mother’s side using the following words: “And though I know my grandmother is no longer with us, I know that she is watching along with the family that made me who I am; I miss them tonight; My debt to them is beyond measure”.

It is interesting that Barack did not pay a personal tribute to his maternal grandfather Stanley Dunham in his said 4th November 2008 acceptance speech, because Barack speaks rather highly of his maternal grandfather Stanley Dunham in his book “Dreams from my Father”, mentioning how his maternal grandfather had time for him when he was under the care of his grandparents while growing up in Hawaii.

After this Barack paid tribute to his Indonesian half-sister Maya and then his Kenyan half-sister Auma. After paying personal tribute to both Maya and Auma, Barack concluded his tributes to both sides of his family by thanking “all my other brothers & sisters for all the support you have given me.” Barack then paid glowing tributes to his campaign manager David Plouffe, his chief strategist David Axelrod, and above all, all Americans. He said he was “never the likeliest candidate for the presidency”, before paying personal tribute to 106 year old Ann Nixon Cooper, one of the voters in the 4th November 2008 US Presidential election, using Ann Nixon Cooper as a glowing example of the strides that America had made i.e. Ann Nixon Cooper was born just one generation after slavery, a time when someone like her could not vote for two reasons i.e. because she was a woman and because of the colour of her skin i.e. she was Black. Barack then concluded by making a passionate appeal for Americans to unify.

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KENYA LAWYERS TELLS UHURU TO SIGN THE BILL

Subject: Kenya lawyers
To: “jaluo@jaluo.com”

By Agwanda Saye

Lawyers have urged President Uhuru Kenyatta to append his signature on the Matrimonial Property Bill 2013.

They also have called on the Judiciary to establish a division of the High Court that exclusively deals with matrimonial property.

The lawyers also proposed that Judges in the Family Division of the High Court at Milimani Law Courts be increased from two to 10 to deal with backlogs and increasing family disputes.

LSK Vice Chairperson Ms. Lilian Renee Omondi said that time had come for the country to do away ancient and unconstitutional matrimonial laws.

Family lawyer Ms. Judy Thongori said that the controversial amendments introduced by Parliament on November 12 can be addressed after President Kenyatta assents the Bill into law.

“We (Kenya) have made gains on the Bill that sending back the Bill to Parliament for debate may kill the dream,” Ms. Thongori said.

The lawyers were speaking during a joint Law Society of Kenya (LSK) and United Nations Development Fund for Women (UNIFEM) breakfast meeting at The Hilton Hotel in Nairobi.

UN Women Country Director Zebib Kavuma said that the Constitution has transformative provisions on equality and non-discrimination that should be upheld.

The Matrimonial Property Bill 2013 elicited public debate after Parliament amended a provision that spouses share matrimonial property 50-50 upon divorce.

According to the amendment by the National Assembly, spouses must prove financial contribution to acquiring matrimonial property before claiming a stake

Ms. Thongori said that the country has no law on matrimonial property arguing that the Bill has progressive sections that should not be embraced.

“There is a lot of public mis-information on the Bill. It has provisions that cater for both professional and stay at home mums on ownership of matrimonial property,” Thongori said.

Lawyer Ochieng Oduol said that the Bill should be passed into law and the Judiciary urged to establish a division that deals with matrimonial property.

“The Family Division at the Milimani Law Courts currently has only two sitting Judges to hear increasing cases on divorce and division of matrimonial property,” Mr. Oduol said.

Mr. Oduol said that the Judiciary should increase the number of Judges at the Family Division from the current two to at least 10 Judges.

Nominated Senator Ms. Judith Sijeny and Runyenjes MP Ms. Cecily Mbarire said that the Bill will be a pillar to both men and women when signed into law.

“We want President Kenyatta to sign the Bill into law then we shall deal with the few controversial clauses later,” Ms. Mbarire said.

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GERMAN BISHOPS STILL INSIST DIVORCED SHOULD RECEIVE COMMUNION

From: Ouko joachim omolo
The News Dispatch with Omolo Beste
THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 28, 2013

Wilson from Nairobi writes: “Fr Omolo Beste I read from your blog online news that German bishops want divorced and remarried Catholics to receive Holy Communion, how possible is this going to be?”

Yes Wilson, it might not be possible as yet to allow them, however the German bishops argue that since Germany is one of the countries with high rates of divorced and remarried Catholic cases, they should be considered to receive the Communion.

Among the bishops who are lobbying for the Communion is Bishop Gebhard Fürst of Stuttgart. He told a group of German laity this week that while the indissolubility of marriage is “non-negotiable” for the Catholic Church, the German bishops are going to allow divorced and remarried Catholics to receive Communion, despite clear instructions to the contrary from the Vatican’s doctrinal chief.

Speaking to the plenary session of the Central Committee of German Catholics (ZdK), LifeSiteNews.com quoted Bishop Gebhard Fürst to have said that the Church must “take into account the concrete reality” of many couples and families.

“It belongs to the self-understanding of the Church to help people who fail in different situations,” he said, adding that “the expectations, impatience and anger are great” among Catholics on the issue in Germany.

The statement was a reiteration of guidelines published in October by the Archdiocese of Freiburg to admit the divorced and remarried to the Sacraments without previous annulment of marriage “under certain circumstances.”

The German bishops are reacting on recent comments made by Pope Francis that there was widespread anticipation that the Church was about to alter its position, a position quashed by an article by the head of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith.

They are basing their guidelines following recent launched survey by Pope Francis, asking Christians to explain how they feel on the current official total ban on the use of contraceptives, “in any circumstance”, the ban on gay or lesbian Catholics having “intimate sexual relationships” and the prohibition on divorced Catholics who have remarried to receive holy communion.

Before the release of the survey, he conceded that in terms of abortion “it is also true that we have done little to adequately accompany women in very difficult situations, especially when the life developing within them is the result of rape or a situation of extreme poverty”.

However, Archbishop Gerhard Müller, prefect of the CDF has reiterated the Church’s teaching on the indissolubility of marriage and that those who have remarried after divorce are objectively in a state of grave sin, namely adultery and therefore should not be allowed to receive Comminion.

The German bishops had already issued “guidelines” for parishes that allowed such individuals to decide for themselves whether to receive Communion based on subjective criteria.

The guidelines recommend that “in justified individual cases divorced should be allowed to return again to the sacraments…A personally responsible decision of conscience and a conversation with the chaplains are prerequisite.”

Recently, General Anzeiger, a newspaper in Bonn, hinted at why this issue is so prevalent in the German Catholic Church, noting that with 180,000 divorces a year, nearly a quarter are subsequently remarried civilly. Recent statistics have shown that about 25 percent of all newly concluded marriages are remarriages.

In another development, a new statement by the German Bishops’ Conference, Catholic physicians and hospitals can now prescribe and administer the morning-after pill (MAP) in cases where a woman is a victim of sexual assault as long as it does not cause an abortion. This is despite that the morning-after pill is a known abortifacient.

Of recent, German bishops have been making headlines. Pope Francis recently authorized a leave of absence for bishop of Limburg Franz-Peter Tebartz-van Elst from his position for the time being.

Tebartz-van Elst has been a target of protests for allegedly spending close to $40 million in renovations and new construction on his residence and diocesan offices and for allegedly making false statements in court.

Reuters quoted Pope Francis recently to have said that he believes in God, not in a Catholic God. “There is no Catholic God, there is God and I believe in Jesus Christ, his incarnation,” the pope is quoted to have said in the interview with the Italian newspaper La Repubblica.

Pope Francis plans to do so by being more involved with the community. “The Church is or should go back to being a community of God’s people, and priests, pastors and bishops who have the care of souls, are at the service of the people of God.”

Just 2 days ago Pope Francis renewed his attack to unfettered capitalism, saying rich should share wealth. He has called for power to be moved away from the Vatican, in the first major work authored by the Pontiff since he was elected earlier this year.

In an 84-page document, he called for global leaders to fight poverty and inequality, attacked unfettered capitalism as “a new tyranny” and called upon politicians to share their wealth and guarantee all members of the public “dignified work, education and healthcare”.

He said: “Just as the commandment ‘Thou shalt not kill’ sets a clear limit in order to safeguard the value of human life, today we also have to say ‘thou shalt not’ to an economy of exclusion and inequality. Such an economy kills”.

He asked how it is a new story when a stock market loses two points, “but not when an elderly homeless person dies of exposure”.

In the ‘apostolic exhortation’, Pope Francis says he preferred a Church that was “bruised, hurting and dirty because it has been out on the streets”, as opposed to “a Church which is unhealthy from being confined and from clinging to its own security”.

The 224 page document, called Evangelii Gaudium, is the first major work written entirely by Pope Francis since he was made pontiff. Pope Francis wrote: “Money must serve, not rule! He wants priests, bishops and religious to focus on serving the people, especially the poor.

Fr Joachim Omolo Ouko, AJ
Tel +254 7350 14559/+254 722 623 578
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Real change must come from ordinary people who refuse to be taken hostage by the weapons of politicians in the face of inequality, racism and oppression, but march together towards a clear and unambiguous goal.

-Anne Montgomery, RSCJ
UN Disarmament
Conference, 2002

an article

http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/vatican-strongly-reaffirms-no-communion-for-divorced-and-remarried-catholic

survey

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/pope-francis-sends-out-survey-to-ask-catholics-about-gay-sex-abortion-and-contraception-8941336.html?origin=internalSearch

guidelines recommend

http://de.radiovaticana.va/news/2013/11/23/d:_bischof_f%C3%BCrst_sagt_reform_zu_/ted-749323

KENYA: A MAASAI WOMAN AND HER CHILDREN HOLD HOSTAGE BY LIONS

A TERRIFIED MAASAI WOMAN WHO LOCKED HERSELF IN THE HOUSE AS THE PRIDE OF SIX LIONS FEASTED ON THE FAMILY BULL

Reports Leo Odera Omolo

A Kenyan Maasai living close to the famous and popular tourist destinarion in Kenya, the Maasai Mara is counting its losses after a pride of six adult lions and their cubs invaded their homestead and killed one fat bull.

The beasts made a break into highly fortified Manyatta home and jumped into the cattle pen,. A young housewife and her young children were asleep when the incident occurred. Her husband was away at the time of the incident leaving the family behind at home, which is located close to the Mara Game Reserve,

The lions imposed a dawn to dusk curfew and held the family hostage for close to ten hours. After accessing the cattle pen. The woman said she was terrified when she opened her door during the day break only to find the six lions and their cubs feasting on the carcase of the family bull they had killed. She quickly locked the door and could not raise the alarm fearing the beasts on hearing any commotion w could be provoked to attack her and her children, The children were still sleeping and It didn’t alert them.

The woman and her children fearing they would be terrified on seeing the lions wondering in the homesteads next to their doorstep. She stay put inside the Manyatta until the neighbors, who sensed that something was wrong in the home, came. The neighbors wondered why the family cattle were still locked inside the pen whle the herds of cattle from the neighboring home were grazing outside They came with crude weapons such as arrows and speakers and chased the lions away . The beasts escaped into the nearby thicket and disappeared in the forest and game reserve. The woman and her family were late rescued by the neighbors. Mrs Christine Nakola 43 year old mother of six children.

The neighbors might have wonders that something is a miss, because there were no human movements in the usually crowded Manyatta, while the family herds of cattle were still locked in their pen.

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USA: They’re only hearing from haters

From: “Nita and Shaunna, UltraViolet”

Right-wing groups are trying to block an amazing, pro-woman lawyer from becoming a judge on an important court. Tell the Senate: confirm Nina Pillard!

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Dear Readers:

This week is our last chance to get a pro-woman, pro-choice judge confirmed to one of the most important and influential courts in the country.

President Obama nominated a superhero–Nina Pillard–to be a judge on the DC Circuit Court. No really, she truly is a superhero, with a history of fighting injustices against women–and winning. She argued before the Supreme Court nine times, including upholding the Family and Medical Leave Act and ending the Virginia Military Institute’s exclusion of women. She’s been a lawyer for the Justice Department, ACLU, and NAACP.1

But right-wing groups like the Family Research Council are raising a ruckus, trying to get the Senate to block Pillard’s nomination because they don’t like her positions on abortion and abstinence-only sex ed.2 If their voices are the only ones senators hear, Pillard might not become a judge.

Senator Harry Reid is expected to call for a vote on Pillard’s nomination as early as Tuesday and some moderate Republican senators are on the fence about how they’ll vote.3 We have to show our support right away if we want her to be confirmed. Will you sign the petition asking the Senate to confirm Nina Pillard and put a great judge on an important court bench?

Sign the petition.

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In the fight for women’s rights, judges have a HUGE influence. Most recently, 3 female judges appointed by George W. Bush reinstated Texas’s sweeping abortion ban that’s closing clinics across the state.4 Judges who are more concerned with pushing an ideological agenda than good law are hurting women.

But it’s not just Texans who have to worry. Another George W. Bush-appointed judge on the DC Circuit Court–the very court Pillard is nominated for–authored an opinion saying religious employers can ignore federal birth control coverage rules. The judge has also called the New Deal a “socialist revolution” and likened Social Security to intergenerational cannibalism.5

Pillard’s nomination won’t just bring balance to the DC Circuit Court, it’s also critical for the court to function. There are currently 3 vacancies on the court which only has 11 seats.6 The DC Circuit hears cases on federal regulations–everything from environmental rules to labor policy. That’s why the DC Circuit Court is considered second in power only to the Supreme Court. Four of the current nine Supreme Court justices served on the DC Circuit Court.7

We can’t let ultra-conservative voices like the Family Research Council be the only ones senators hear from about Nina Pillard. It’s critical that we get such an amazing pro-woman, pro-choice superhero appointed as a judge if we want women’s rights to keep progressing. Will you sign the petition asking the Senate to stop the filibuster and confirm Pillard?

Add your name.

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Thanks for all you do.

–Nita, Shaunna, Kat, Karin, Malinda, Adam, and Gabriela, the UltraViolet team

Sources:

1. Nina Pillard Nomination for D.C. Circuit Advances, Legal Times, September 19, 2013

Cry of the Republican Male Senator, Slate, July 25, 2013

2. Scary Feminist Nominated for Federal Judgeship; Conservatives Flip Out, Jezebel, July 24, 2013

3. Can You Be Openly Pro-Choice And A Federal Judge? We’ll Find Out Next Week, Think Progress, November 7, 2013

4. BREAKING: Three Bush-Appointed Judges Reinstate Texas’ Anti-Abortion Law, Think Progress, October 31, 2013

5. What You Need To Know About The Severely Conservative Judge Who Just Ruled Against Birth Control, Think Progress, November 1, 2013

6. Republicans Push Back On Obama's D.C. Court Nominees, NPR, September 19, 2013

7. Ibid.

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By Choice, Not By Chance: Family Planning, Human Rights and Development

From: Yona Maro

All human beings—regardless of age, sex, race or income—are equal in dignity and rights. Yet 222 million women in developing countries are unable to exercise the human right to voluntary family planning.

This flagship report analyzes data and trends to understand who is denied access and why. It examines challenges in expanding access to family planning. And it considers the social and economic impact of family planning as well as the costs and savings of making it available to everyone who needs it.

The report asserts that governments, civil society, health providers and communities have the responsibility to protect the right to family planning for women across the spectrum, including those who are young or unmarried.

Nevertheless, the report finds that financial resources for family planning have declined and contraceptive use has remained mostly steady. In 2010, donor countries fell $500 million short of their expected contribution to sexual and reproductive health services in developing countries. Contraceptive prevalence has increased globally by just 0.1 per cent per year over the last few years.

Link:
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SPIRITUALITY IN RELATIONSHIP AND LOVE

From: Ouko joachim omolo
The News Dispatch with Omolo Beste
MONDAY, NOVEMBER 11, 2013

Nyakwar Ajuma Koduma posted on her Facebook timeline a recent study conducted by the St. Ives skin care brand, that women feel their most confident at the age of 29. They discovered that a lot of this confidence was due to them falling in love during that age or being in a stable relationship.

I had refuted the research, arguing that it is not accurate-in fact women feel their most confident at age 27-at this age they don’t fall in love as such, they are trying to stabilize their relationship and how they can cater and love their children-then at age of 40 a woman does not care whether she is loved or not-she can do things on her own and love seems to be diminishing slowly-the motto here is how to take care of herself and children.

My refutation was liked by overwhelming Facebook fans that I feel should share with you on my News blog. According to the research more than half of women polled said 29 was their prettiest age. Reasons included feeling confident, falling in love and stable relationships.

The poll also found that women feel and look their best on Fridays. Stress and lack of sleep were key reasons for feeling unattractive. The rosy cheeks and fresh-faced looks of their teenage years might be gone but it seems that’s no impediment to beauty, after a survey found that women feel most beautiful at the age of 29. Confidence was pinpointed as the top reason for the finding followed by falling in love and enjoying a stable relationship.

Nicole Melmore, brand manager at St. Ives, says that from age to occasions, their research shows that beauty really isn’t skin deep, with more women stating that they feel more beautiful when they are at home without their make-up on (17 per cent) compared to when they’re wearing lots of make-up (seven per cent), it seems that feeling attractive isn’t just down to having a perfectly made up face.

In her book, Enchanted Love, Marianne Williamson argues that love should be understood terms of spirituality and not sorely on material aspects. In this way then the age at which a woman falls in love or not does not rise.

There are many ways in which love is expressed to us and from us. First you must be attracted to the opposite sex. Marianne Williamson refers to this first stage of love as attraction which every normal being must undergo.

Second stage is focus. That you will now focus on particular woman or man you feel you want to establish relationship with. The third stage is desire or falling in love. This is where you desire to have someone to give you warmth, make you feel like being you, and make you feel special.

Fourth stage is adoration. This is according to Marianne Williamson is the core of spirituality in relationship. It is like golden thread that binds two hearts, a feeling that keeps growing even when you are far apart, no matter where you want to feel each other always close.

In fact in its real sense, this is what means to fall in love. It is like jumping off a really tall building, your brain tells you it is not a good idea, but your heart tells you, you can fly.

This is the stage where a man and a woman stay faithful because they don’t have time to look for others because they are too busy adoring each other. It is like a reporter who asked the couple, “How did you manage to stay together for 65 years?” The woman replied, “We were born in a time when is something was broken we would fix it not throw it away”.

The fifth stage is security. Unlike men, what a woman wants in relationship is love, acceptance, respect, to be desired, security and passion. A woman will feel emotionally safe with a man who is emotionally available, honest, trustworthy and authentic. These are character strengths that a woman not only admires, but feels safe with.

The sixth stage is trust. Trust a fundamental human experience, necessary for society to function and for any person to be relatively happy. Without it, fear rules.

The seventh stage is empathy. Empathy, literally “in feeling”, is the capability to appreciate, understand, and accept another person’s emotions. Showing empathy genuinely is one of the most important interpersonal skills that anyone must master.

Listen attentively to what the other person is saying. This will allow you to absorb what they say and be able to respond appropriately. Eliminate distractions: put down the book you’re reading, turn off the TV, etc.

Focus all your attention to what the other person says. Pay attention not only to the words spoken, but also to the way these words are communicated. Establish comfortable eye contact and good body posture.

The eighth stage is caring. Everyone wants to know that they are loved and appreciated.

Learn and encourage her dreams. Make her your top priority. Accept her and cherish her for who she is; after all, she’s the only one who will always be there for you if you treat her right.

Call her when you’re not together to tell her that you’re thinking about her. Send her a little note through the mail while you’re away. When you tell her I love you, you say it to remind her that she is the best that has never happened to you.

The only thing that makes it part of your life is that you keep on thinking about. Keep on thinking about her. She wants to be your friend as well as your lover. Simply making time to switch off the TV, sit down, and talk with her will show that you care, to say nothing of the fact that you enjoy her company.

The ninth stage is harmony. This is where you need to listen attentively, with compassion to your partner. Communicate your understanding with “active listening” and by responding in a non-critical and non-defensive way.

Honor each person by showing positive regard and respect. Relate to the essential goodness of each person, even when it is hidden. Be sincere, exemplary, clear, encouraging positive attributes and express admiration and appreciation for her, his talents, qualities, accomplishments, values and courage.

Be supportive, empowering, and prayerful, trust in the essential goodness and growth of others .Visualize a harmonious relationship, seeing the other blessed in light and love, protected and growing. Be grateful and gracious, kind, good friend and loving.

Tenth stage is contentment. This is where at the age of 40 years on wards a woman is contented. Her priorities are to take care of her home and children. In other words, this is the stage where people settle in a relationship because it is familiar and they are comfortable even if they are not fulfilled.

That is why at 75 years, a relationship can be just as fiery and passionate as it was at 35, with each day feeling newer through the passing years and always leaving one’s partner with more to look forward to from day to day. The key is marrying or vowing to spend one’s life with that one they feel they can’t live without, and not settling for the one they can just simply live with.

Stage eleventh and last in relationship is communion. That is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body. Genesis 2:24.The term “one flesh” means that just as our bodies are one whole entity and cannot be divided into pieces and still be a whole. One is to be “glued” to his wife, a picture of how tight the marriage bond is to be.

This doesn’t mean both of you think exactly alike, that’s impossible in any kind of relationship. It also doesn’t have anything to do with religion. Please note that no relationship is ever perfect.

The real test here is how the two of you faces challenges together, and how the two of you still stays together despite the external or internal problems that arise between the two of you. No relationship ever becomes perfect, and it requires constant calibration to the situation and within the relationship.

Fr Joachim Omolo Ouko, AJ
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UN Disarmament
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THE VATICAN RELEASES PREPARATORY DOCUMENT ON FAMILY

From: Ouko joachim omolo
The News Dispatch with Omolo Beste
FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 8, 2013

Juliana from Kayole, Nairobi would like to know how my homilies are found online. She would also like to know whether the Vatican has posted questionnaires for an Extraordinary General Assembly, to be held in October, 2014, where Pope Francis has asked a synod of bishops from around the world to come to Rome and talk about families. The bishops are also supposed to answer a questionnaire about modern families, the actual ones in their communities.

To get my homilies online type in Omolo Beste homilies on Jaluo.kom (kom with ‘k’ not c)-you will be able to get series of my homilies and other related topics. You can also get on particular topic like Omolo Beste on ICC, marriage and many others.

Yes, the Vatican has released the working document-click here the Vatican released a “preparatory document” to read the document. There are thirty-nine of them in the document as stipulated here below:

1. The Diffusion of the Teachings on the Family in Sacred Scripture and the Church’s Magisterium

a) Describe how the Catholic Church’s teachings on the value of the family contained in the Bible, Gaudium et spes, Familiaris consortio and other documents of the post-conciliar Magisterium is understood by people today? What formation is given to our people on the Church’s teaching on family life?

b) In those cases where the Church’s teaching is known, is it accepted fully or are there difficulties in putting it into practice? If so, what are they?

c) How widespread is the Church’s teaching in pastoral programmes at the national, diocesan and parish levels? What catechesis is done on the family?

d ) To what extent — and what aspects in particular — is this teaching actually known, accepted, rejected and/or criticized in areas outside the Church? What are the cultural factors which hinder the full reception of the Church’s teaching on the family?

2. Marriage according to the Natural Law

a) What place does the idea of the natural law have in the cultural areas of society: in institutions, education, academic circles and among the people at large? What anthropological ideas underlie the discussion on the natural basis of the family?

b) Is the idea of the natural law in the union between a man and a woman commonly accepted as such by the baptized in general?

c) How is the theory and practice of natural law in the union between man and woman challenged in light of the formation of a family? How is it proposed and developed in civil and Church institutions?

d) In cases where non-practicing Catholics or declared non-believers request the celebration of marriage, describe how this pastoral challenge is dealt with?

3. The Pastoral Care of the Family in Evangelization

a) What experiences have emerged in recent decades regarding marriage preparation? What efforts are there to stimulate the task of evangelization of the couple and of the family? How can an awareness of the family as the “domestic Church” be promoted?

b) How successful have you been in proposing a manner of praying within the family which can withstand life’s complexities and today’s culture?

c) In the current generational crisis, how have Christian families been able to fulfill their vocation of transmitting the faith?

d) In what way have the local Churches and movements on family spirituality been able to create ways of acting which are exemplary?

e) What specific contribution can couples and families make to spreading a credible and holistic idea of the couple and the Christian family today?

f) What pastoral care has the Church provided in supporting couples in formation and couples in crisis situations?

4. Pastoral Care in Certain Difficult Marital Situations

a) Is cohabitation ad experimentum a pastoral reality in your particular Church? Can you approximate a percentage?

b) Do unions which are not recognized either religiously or civilly exist? Are reliable statistics available?

c) Are separated couples and those divorced and remarried a pastoral reality in your particular Church? Can you approximate a percentage? How do you deal with this situation in appropriate pastoral programmes?

d) In all the above cases, how do the baptized live in this irregular situation? Are aware of it? Are they simply indifferent? Do they feel marginalized or suffer from the impossibility of receiving the sacraments?

e) What questions do divorced and remarried people pose to the Church concerning the Sacraments of the Eucharist and of Reconciliation? Among those persons who find themselves in these situations, how many ask for these sacraments?

f ) Could a simplification of canonical practice in recognizing a declaration of nullity of the marriage bond provide a positive contribution to solving the problems of the persons involved? If yes, what form would it take?

g) Does a ministry exist to attend to these cases? Describe this pastoral ministry? Do such programmes exist on the national and diocesan levels? How is God’s mercy proclaimed to separated couples and those divorced and remarried and how does the Church put into practice her support for them in their journey of faith?

5. On Unions of Persons of the Same Sex

a) Is there a law in your country recognizing civil unions for people of the same-sex and equating it in some way to marriage?

b) What is the attitude of the local and particular Churches towards both the State as the promoter of civil unions between persons of the same sex and the people involved in this type of union?

c) What pastoral attention can be given to people who have chosen to live in these types of union?

d) In the case of unions of persons of the same sex who have adopted children, what can be done pastorally in light of transmitting the faith?

6. The Education of Children in Irregular Marriages

a) What is the estimated proportion of children and adolescents in these cases, as regards children who are born and raised in regularly constituted families?

b) How do parents in these situations approach the Church? What do they ask? Do they request the sacraments only or do they also want catechesis and the general teaching of religion?

c) How do the particular Churches attempt to meet the needs of the parents of these children to provide them with a Christian education?

d) What is the sacramental practice in these cases: preparation, administration of the sacrament and the accompaniment?

7. The Openness of the Married Couple to Life

a) What knowledge do Christians have today of the teachings of Humanae vitae on responsible parenthood? Are they aware of how morally to evaluate the different methods of family planning? Could any insights be suggested in this regard pastorally?

b) Is this moral teaching accepted? What aspects pose the most difficulties in a large majority of couple’s accepting this teaching?

c) What natural methods are promoted by the particular Churches to help spouses put into practice the teachings of Humanae vitae?

d) What is your experience on this subject in the practice of the Sacrament of Penance and participation at the Eucharist?

e) What differences are seen in this regard between the Church’s teaching and civic education?

f) How can a more open attitude towards having children be fostered? How can an increase in births be promoted?

8. The Relationship Between the Family and the Person

a) Jesus Christ reveals the mystery and vocation of the human person. How can the family be a privileged place for this to happen?

b) What critical situations in the family today can obstruct a person’s encounter with Christ?

c) To what extent do the many crisis of faith which people can experience affect family life?

9. Other Challenges and Proposals

What other challenges or proposals related to the topics in the above questions do you consider urgent and useful to treat?

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USA: This is heartbreaking

From: “Nita and Shaunna, UltraViolet”

Senator Lindsey Graham is introducing an extremely cruel and inhumane abortion ban bill in the Senate. Sign the petition telling the Senate: no more attacks on women, block Graham’s bill!

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Dear Readers:

Extreme conservatives in the Senate are about to introduce a sweeping ban on abortion. Here’s one family who’s already been hurt by this type of law:

Danielle and Robb Deaver were “over the moon” about Danielle’s pregnancy until her water broke at 22 weeks. They were heartbroken to learn their baby would not develop further or survive, but that heartbreak was compounded when doctors told them they couldn’t end their nightmare and induce labor because their state bans abortion after 20 weeks. Doctors had to wait for Danielle to get sick or for the baby to die before they could do anything. When baby Elizabeth was finally born, she survived for only 15 minutes.1

Senator Lindsey Graham is planning to introduce a national bill this week that criminalizes abortions after 20 weeks.2 When politicians introduce these inhumane bans on abortions, they are tying the hands of doctors who want to help couples like the Deavers. Less than 2% of abortions occur after 20 weeks, and many of them are for heartbreaking reasons that no one should ever have to face.3

Texas, North Dakota, and Arkansas have all passed 20-week abortion bans this year, and so has the House in Congress.4 If we don’t make a stand against Sen. Graham’s bill in the Senate, more states will be emboldened to pass these inhumane laws. We have to make sure that conservatives everywhere know we won’t stand for this.

Tell the Senate: You have no right to legislate our medical decisions. Enough with the attacks on women. Block Graham’s inhumane and extreme abortion ban bill.

Add your name to the petition.

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Extreme attempts to criminalize abortion after 20 weeks aren’t new. Multiple states have already passed such laws, including Texas most recently. But Sen. Graham’s bill is unconstitutional, and it directly contradicts Roe v. Wade. A federal appeals court threw out Arizona’s ban in May. Courts have also overturned similar laws in Idaho and Georgia.5

What’s worse are the heartbreaking stories of women who needed to abort their much-wanted pregnancies after 20 weeks. We received some of these stories during the battle in Texas from UltraViolet members. There was Kathy, a military wife with 3 college degrees and already a mother of 2 wonderful boys. At the 20-week ultrasound for her 3rd baby, the doctors found a severe case of spina bifida, “the worst they had ever seen.” She and her husband chose to terminate for the sake of their family. Kathy wrote that she still grieves but knows it was the right choice.

Doctors are also speaking out against these extreme bills. The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists has resoundingly opposed such legislation and told politicians to get out of their exam rooms.6

These extreme bills are not about women’s health or the lives of healthy babies. They are not about good and safe medicine. They are about extreme politicians who think they know better than women and our doctors about what’s right for our families. We need to make a national stand against this inhumane extremism.

Tell the Senate: stop your attacks on women and our families; stop Graham’s extreme abortion ban bill.

Sign the petition.

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Thanks for speaking out.

–Nita, Shaunna, Kat, Karin, Malinda, Adam, and Gabriela, the UltraViolet team

Sources:

1. Danielle and Robb's Story, Planned Parenthood of the Heartland YouTube, March 5, 2011

2. Lindsey Graham Will Put 20-Week Abortion Ban Before Senate: Report, Huffington Post, November 1, 2013

3. Facts on Induced Abortion in the United States, Guttmacher Institute, August 2011

Who Has an Abortion After 20 Weeks?, Slate, July 11, 2013

4. Restricts Abortion After Specific Gestational Age, Guttmacher Institute, October 1, 2013

5. House Republican Calls Nationwide Abortion Ban Vote ‘Staggering Stupidity’, Think Progress, June 13, 2013

6. Ob-Gyns Denounce Texas Abortion Legislation, The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, July 2, 2013

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Kenya: Would you marry a Single Mom?

From: Maurice Oduor

Why would this even be an issue? Society has changed and we no longer live in the early 1900s so I don’t see why any man would have any hang-up about hooking up with and marrying a single mom. What if women refuse to marry men who are single parents? Then what? If i’m in love with a woman, why would I worry about her being a single mom? Love is blind as far as I’m concerned. I love you, i love everything about you as a package.

I hope this generation does not even see this as an issue worth discussing.

http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/lifestyle/article/2000094071/would-you-marry-a-single-mother

Would you marry a single mother?
Updated Sunday, September 22nd 2013 at 19:52 GMT +3

By LINDA KEYA

Early this month, Alice Mugwe, 27, was jailed for six years for killing her five-year-old son Peter Mugo by throwing him in a pit latrine at Nyambari Market in Lari on June 26, 2009 to ‘save her marriage’.

When Alice met a man she loved, she left her young son from a previous relationship with her mother and moved in with her beau — without telling him that she had a child. But when the little secret was discovered, the marriage floundered. And down the pit latrine young Peter went.

It seems single mothers, especially those with boys, carry a warning sign on their foreheads reading ‘marry at your own the risk’ — at least if men are to be believed.

Most men feel getting ‘ready-made’ children is not only hectic, but also unwise although if they had to choose, they would rather settle down with a woman with two or even three daughters, but never a son. Maybe this explains why there are many street boys as compared to girls, but that is a story for another day.

The only constant factor is that a true African man will not find it ok for a woman to come with male children. They would never raise other men’s sons mostly because of land and inheritance issues.

It is about pride. A man wants to chest thump and boast “hii ni ndume yangu (that’s my boy)”. But how would he brag if the son didn’t spring from his loins? Even worse is the notion that out there lives another man who brags that his ndume (bull or son) is being raised by another man.

But there is more to it. Boys, at least among the people of western Kenya, allegedly come to the homestead with a granary of misfortunes.

“Mtoto wa nje, haswa kijana, humaliza boma yako kabisa. Ananyang’anya vijana wako bahati yote (stepsons destroy your home because they take all the luck from your biological sons),” says Mzee Robert Okwisia.

The old man adds that such boys always tend to excel academically, get good jobs, marry ‘organised’ women and have successful families unlike a man’s biological children. Worse, he says, such boys eventually leave in search of their biological fathers, leaving the men who raised them high and dry, unlike stepdaughters who bring wealth to the home.

“Cases of men strangling their young stepsons early in the marriage, so that they can start on a clean slate are, therefore, not uncommon. Also when you live with a woman who has another man’s son, that man can come and take her away any time. We have seen these things,” says the retired teacher.

Stepfathers

Elders also whisper that a stepson is likely to bring to the family manners and characteristics that are different, like night running, and be a nuisance and a threat to the surrogate father’s daughters.

Most of the men Crazy Monday talked to concurred that culture and traditions play a major role. They preferred girls because they kind of believe girls come with fewer stresses — no expensive rituals like circumcision and boys’ huts, and are instead, a source of wealth as they bring dowry to the home and tend to be very close to their stepfathers.

“The only expense is to feed them well, buy them goodies when they sulk and give them a good education,” says James Wekesa a software engineer.

Boys, on the other hand, will have their eyes set on your estate and even that of the clan, basically wanting to rule their step-fathers’ kingdom, something most men wouldn’t stand from someone with foreign genes.

“A ‘stranger’ boy is like a treasury bill — it is a claim on your fortune as a man. But a girl is never ‘foreign genes’. She is like a grant from overseas. Free credit. If a single mum has a boy and wants to get married in the larger Africa, I suggest she hands over the boy to his biological father or leave him with her relatives. I would happily take care of my sister’s boys, but not a son with different genes from my own,” says Wekesa.

Aside from that, a lot about bringing up a boy from a different father boils down to perceived control. Men want their women and brood to be under their control. But controlling and disciplining a man who is unrelated and knows you are not his father is difficult and almost certainly, will lead to rivalry and conflict. Even worse, that son makes it difficult for a man to control his own wife, men say.

The son looks at his stepfather as a stranger who wants to control his mother, while the man, on the other hand, looks at the son as a stranger interfering with his wife. Striking a balance can be a hard task when you, in real sense, cannot please them both.

This will most split the woman’s loyalty between the two males of different blood. At the end of the day, the son may win by virtue of being her blood relative, which makes the chances the marriage failing quite high.

“Single women with sons have to choose between a lover or their sons, with many sacrificing their own love lives for their sons, This narrows or even blocks their chances of having a marriage,” says lawyer S Kibira.

The only other way, says Kibira, is to either let biological fathers or maternal grandfathers bring up children borne out of wedlock.

In Luhya land for instance, ancestral land belongs to the clan, it is inherited. Therefore, the family land cannot be subdivided to a stranger — he needs to go back to his own clan and get his share. In fact, cases abound of grown men, some with families, who troop back to their biological fathers for a share of the land after getting raised by maternal uncles and grandparents.

Secondly, men and their children cannot be parted.

“Men follow a former girlfriend to where she is married to bring back their sons. If that is not the case, when a man reaches a certain age, he starts snooping around looking for his bloodline and a place to build his simba. You can’t control him,” says Mzee Oluoch Madiang.

Neighbours won’t make matters any better. They gossip about it and even lead the boys to their biological parents without the adopted father’s knowledge.

“Who wants such stress or to be nagged to the bar, or even to the grave in search of another man’s real father? It’s just best to keep off these women with boys for sanity’s sake,” poses a man who sought anonymity.

Baggage

But some single mothers have been lucky to be taken in with even three sons. To them, these are none issues. If a man wants her, then he needs to take her with her baggage or bugger off.

“The first thing I do when I meet a man is to tell him that I have a nine-year-old son who is part of my life. If we are to become an item, I make it clear we will be three in the relationship and if he doesn’t like it, he can as well take a walk,” says Nduku, a 33-year-old nurse.

Small comfort for Jane Frieda Achieng’, a mother of two boys: “ A man told me to my face that he loved me but would only look for me when my sons were done with school and were out of my house.”

It is a safe bet that neither Achieng’ nor Nduku will be walking down the isle any time soon.

Kenya: VARIETY SHOW AT THE LAKERS HUB IN KISUMU

From: Obat Masira

Dear Madam/ Sir,

Misango Arts Ensemble will host a variety show at at the LAKERS HUB in Kisumu near Kibos. ITS A FAMILY SHOW. FREE ENTRY.

The chief guest is Hon JENIFFER KERE, The Cabinet Secretary to Youth, Culture, Education and Social Services KISUMU COUNTY.

Kindly support us by giving us coverage. The event start at 3pm featuring comedy, poetry, contemporary creative dances and live music by JERRY JALAMO.

COORDINATOR AKECH OBAT MASIRA.
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SUNDAY 20th OCTOBER 2013

INTRODUCTION

This document is an initial proposal and will no doubt be subject to further discussion and amendment. We would certainly welcome any comments, suggestions and recommendations from all who have interest in the Kisumu cultural development. It is intended that the festival will:

PROPOSAL

To host weekend cultural shows at the LAKERS HUB next Kibos

Celebrate cultural diversity and encourage artistic integration with a board range of musical style and cultural development

Offer the people of Kisumu county and the region an opportunity to enjoy a whole weekend of varied entertainment – live music and dancing, poetry, comedy and recorded music.

Provide a Lake Basin focus for the growing interest in arts and world Music throughout the country.

Have a high profile which will encourage groups and individuals to visit Kisumu county and enjoy the town’s facilities.

Preset Kisumu as an exciting and innovative centre for artistic activity in the North of the country.

Appeal to the students of the University based in Western Kenya and encourage their closer involvement with the communities of Kisumu county

Perhaps develop as an annual event and regular feature in the region’s artistic calendar.

CULTURAL CONNECTIONS

EASTERN AFRICAN

Misango Arts Ensemble exists to encourage the promotion and exchange of arts and cultural products both nationally and internationally. It seeks to develop artistic appreciation and education through a network of practicing artists within the United Kingdom and by initiating cultural exchanges with artists from other countries.

THE EVENTS

Misango Arts Ensemble manages an exciting events programme which includes tours, festivals, exhibitions, workshops and lectures. The programme promotes the work of regional artists and provides a platform for performers of national and international renown to play and perform alongside newcomers.

Live music promotions focus upon major African artists. The impressive touring schedule includes a total of twenty concerts at twelve separate venues over a two month period.

In addition Misango Arts Ensemble to promote and manage two weekend arts and music festivals each year. The first of these is planned for Preston in the Summer of 1994 and will again feature a number of prestigious international artists.

THE MAGAZINE

The event programme is enhances and complemented by the publication of the magazine THE LAKE SASIN JEWEL The magazine is produced quarterly by Misango Arts Ensemble and serves the Lake Basin.

THE LAKE BASIN JEWEL reviews and listening. It acts as a vehicle for written exchanges between national and international artists and communities, demonstrating and encouraging cultural and trade links.

EDUCATION AND COMMUNITY WORK

Misango Arts Ensemble also offers a comprehensive programme of educational workshops and community projects at schools, libraries and community centres. This develops regional activity and ensures that young people are introduced to new cultural and artistic experiences.

SHOULD POPE FRANCIS ALLOW POLYGAMOUS TO RECEIVE HOLY COMMUNION?

From: Ouko joachim omolo
The News Dispatch with Omolo Beste
THURSDAY, OCTOBER 10, 2013

Rev Solomon from USA writes: “I am a conservative Evangelical saved in 1965, ordained Pastor and Minister for the Gospel and family man. I am capable of reading Greek and Hebrew like any modern scholar today. I know myself stuff.

Since Pope Francis was chosen to lead the Church, I have watched his leadership style-he is leading the church in the right direction. I agree with his 10 reasons of observation:

1. The Church no longer offers anything meaningful or important.
2. The Church appears too weak.
3. The Church appears too distant from their needs.
4. The Church appears too poor to respond to their concerns.
5. The Church appears too cold.
6. The Church appears too caught up with itself.
7. The Church appears to be a prisoner of its own rigid formulas.
8. The world seems to have made the Church a relic of the past.
9. The Church appears unfit to answer the world’s new questions.
10. The Church speaks to people in their infancy but not when they come of age.

It is also a spiritual problem within the Evangelicals. I find it hard to understand the daily spiritual life of a local pastor or bishop in Kenya”.

Eugene from Jinja, Uganda writes: “Fr Omolo Beste I read with great interest your news dispatch on the concern of Sr Veronica about Pope Francis move to make the Catholic Church active and above all even to allow divorced and remarried Catholics to receive the Holy Communion. I know many conservative bishops, especially from Africa will not agree with him but to me he is the best pope so far.

In Africa the problem of polygamists refused to receive the Holy Communion, do you think in any given time this pope will allow polygamists, especially in Africa where the number seem to be to receive the communion?”

Both Solomon and Eugene have expressed fear that conservative bishops may not welcome Pope Francis move, Solomon is even more particular, the pastors and bishops in Kenya.

I may add here that it is not only pastors or bishops who may not be pleased with Pope Francis move towards making the church look active and be people’s church and no the one owned by the priests and bishops but also conservative Christians may not welcome his idea at all.

Whether Pope Francis may allow polygamous to receive the Holy Communion is something we should wait to see. However, as members of the Synod of Bishops on the Eucharist amended and refined their final list of propositions to present to Pope Benedict XVI, the fact that one proposition on the Eucharist and polygamy did appear in a revised draft is already an indication that some African bishops would love to see polygamous receive the Holy Communion.

Cardinal Peter Turkson of Cape Coast, Ghana was even more practical. He proposed that the church’s teaching on marriage which requires that those entering the church break off polygamous relationships before receiving the sacraments be amended.

“You cannot simply say (to the man), ‘just let the others go and take the first wife,’ because that becomes an issue of justice. If there are children involved, you just cannot send away somebody,” Cardinal Turkson told reporters in an Oct. 18 press conference.

Sometimes a man wishing to break off his polygamous relationships is able to ensure the financial security of the women he is leaving; in some instances, he “can set up a small business for the wife and let her go,” he said.

“But then you have not taken care of another need (of hers), and that is the need for a sexual partner,” he added.

The cardinal said the church does not want to force celibacy on others, nor does it want to “expose them to prostitution” or “a loose type of living.”

The individuals involved have to decide if the woman would “be free to go and look for” another husband, he said, though when the woman is “at middle age it’s sometimes difficult” for her to find another spouse.

He said if couples decide to remain in their polygamous relationships, then the church in Ghana tries to offer them “spiritual communion until a clear solution” is found.

In an interview with Archbishop of Abuja, Nigeria and president of SECAM, the symposium that brings together the Episcopal Conferences of Africa, John Olorunfemi Onaiyekan who also took part in the Synod as a pontifical appointee argued:

“We have become accustomed to saying that there are sinners that must not approach the Eucharist. And generally those spoken of, in the West, are remarried divorcees and, in the mission countries, polygamists.

There was wonder about whether these are the only serious sins. The divorcee may not receive communion, but can the oppressor, the exploiter, the politician responsible for the suffering and death of thousands of people who receive?”

During the second African synod deliberations in Rome, a lot of issues on this subject of polygamy emerged. There were some bishops who felt strongly that the Catholic Church in Africa needs to make special provisions for women who want to join the church, but are denied the sacraments because they are in polygamous marriages.

Bishop Matthew Kwasi Gyamfi of Sunyani, Ghana told the Synod of Bishops for Africa Oct. 8 that, because of a tradition established long before Christianity arrived on the continent, “many African women find themselves in polygamous marriages through, even though it is no fault of their own.

Bishop Gyamfi said the church’s practice of baptizing married people and admitting them to the other sacraments only if they are part of a monogamous relationship creates enormous difficulties for many women in Africa.

“The church needs to address this painful and unpleasant situation in Africa by giving some special privileges to women” who “through no fault of their own have become victims of polygamous marriages,” the bishop said.

Especially if they have children, women in polygamous marriages face social rejection and serious economic hardship if they try to end their relationships with their husbands, the bishop said.

In addition, he said, “in cases where women have walked away without the consent of the husbands and the extended families, the church has been cited for injustice, insecurity, breaking up families, fomenting disunity and destroying social cohesion.”

The real difficulties for the women and their children have discouraged many women from formally joining the church, Bishop Gyamfi said.

“The result is that, in some parts of Africa, many women attend church regularly and actively participate in all church activities, but are denied the sacraments of initiation, reconciliation and marriage,” not to mention “the many denied fitting Christian burial for not being baptized,” he said.

Receiving the women into the church without making them leave their husbands “will enable them to share in the peace and reconciliation offered by the compassion and peace of Our Lord Jesus Christ who came to call sinners and not the self-righteous,” Bishop Gyamfi said.

When it came to deliberation and voting majority of the bishops voted against it, even though most of African bishops come from polygamous families. We are only waiting whether the pope will one time deliberate on the issue.

Fr Joachim Omolo Ouko, AJ
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Real change must come from ordinary people who refuse to be taken hostage by the weapons of politicians in the face of inequality, racism and oppression, but march together towards a clear and unambiguous goal.

-Anne Montgomery, RSCJ
UN Disarmament
Conference, 2002

SPECIAL SYNOD THAT MAY SEE DIVORCED RECEIVE HOLY COMMUNION

From: Ouko joachim omolo
The News Dispatch with Omolo Beste
THURSDAY, OCTOBER 10, 2013

Sr. Veronica from Nairobi, Kenya writes: “Father Omolo I watched on EWT News flash yesterday that Pope Francis has called for an extraordinary synod in October 2014 to discuss the subject of the family.

The extraordinary synod will see heads of Eastern churches, presidents of the bishops’ conferences, and heads of Curia offices gather at the Vatican from October 5 – 19 for a meeting entitled “Pastoral Challenges of the Family in Context of Evangelisation”.

That the pope wants to unify church teaching about marriage, divorce and remarried Catholics to receive Holy Communion. Annulments also he says “has to be reviewed, because ecclesiastical tribunals are not sufficient for this. Can you help understand this father?”

Thank you Sr. Veronica for raising this important issue. Yes, Pope Francis has called for special synod of about 150 synod fathers who will take part in the session, compared with about 250 bishops who attended the three-week ordinary general assembly on the new evangelisation in October 2012.

According to the Code of Canon Law, an “extraordinary general session” of the synod is held to “deal with matters which require a speedy solution.” This will be only the third extraordinary synod since Pope Paul VI reinstituted synods in 1965, to hold periodic meetings to advise him on specific subjects.

A 1969 extraordinary session was dedicated to improving cooperation between the Holy See and national bishops’ conferences; and a 1985 extraordinary session, dedicated to the 20th anniversary of the end of the Second Vatican Council, recommended the compilation of the Catechism of the Catholic Church, which was published seven years later.

Pope Francis has realized that the pastoral care of marriage is complex. Such problems, he says, exemplified a general need for forgiveness in the Church today. “The Church is a mother, and she must travel this path of mercy, and find a form of mercy for all,” the Pope adds.

This synod fulfills what he had told reporters accompanying him on his plane back from Rio de Janeiro in July that the next synod would explore a “somewhat deeper pastoral care of marriage,” including the question of the eligibility of divorced and remarried Catholics to receive Communion.

A recently translated book by Pope Francis also exhibits a call for Catholics who have been divorced and are remarried to be made welcome in parishes, in the hope that they can remedy their situations.

“Catholic doctrine reminds its divorced members who have remarried that they are not excommunicated — even though they live in a situation on the margin of what indissolubility of marriage and the sacrament of marriage require of them — and they are asked to integrate into the parish life,” he says in his newly translated book On Heaven and Earth.

On Heaven and Earth (Spanish: Sobre el cielo y la tierra) is a book that presents conversations between Argentine Cardinal Jorge Bergoglio, who later became Pope Francis, and Argentine rabbi Abraham Skorka. The book is about faith, family and the Catholic Church in the 21st century. It was first published in Spanish in 2010 and appeared in an English translation in 2013.

Speaking on the New Evangelization, and using the Emmaus Journey as a framework, the Pope encouraged his listeners to reflect on why people reject the Church today—why, like the Emmaus disciples, they decide to walk the other way. To bring people back to Christ and his Church, we must understand why they leave in the first place.

To that end, Pope Francis offered ten specific reasons:

1. The Church no longer offers anything meaningful or important.
2. The Church appears too weak.
3. The Church appears too distant from their needs.
4. The Church appears too poor to respond to their concerns.
5. The Church appears too cold.
6. The Church appears too caught up with itself.
7. The Church appears to be a prisoner of its own rigid formulas.
8. The world seems to have made the Church a relic of the past.
9. The Church appears unfit to answer the world’s new questions.
10. The Church speaks to people in their infancy but not when they come of age.

Faced with this situation we need a Church unafraid of going forth into their night. We need a Church capable of meeting them on their way. We need a Church capable of entering into their conversation.

We need a Church able to dialogue with those disciples who, having left Jerusalem behind, are wandering aimlessly, alone, with their own disappointment, disillusioned by a Christianity now considered barren, fruitless soil, incapable of generating meaning.”

On celibacy, Francis upholds the existing rule in the Western church but also hints at openness to reconsidering things down the line. “It is an issue of discipline, not of faith,” he says. “It can be changed.”

Pope holds the opinion that Religion has a right to give an opinion as long as it is in service to the people. We have also to help the poor. A poor man must not be looked at with disgust; he must be looked at in the eyes.

Fr Joachim Omolo Ouko, AJ
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Real change must come from ordinary people who refuse to be taken hostage by the weapons of politicians in the face of inequality, racism and oppression, but march together towards a clear and unambiguous goal.

-Anne Montgomery, RSCJ
UN Disarmament
Conference, 2002

Kenya: Very distrurbing information from a newspaper

From: Judy Miriga

Paul,

I respect you. You are a good man. Like our ancestors you are educative, caring and informative. You spend your most valuable time to reach out a larger Kenyan community to save a situation because of the commandment of love.

Our loving God will surely reward you more in abudantly………..Keep the good work of blogging for purposes of sharing and we shall all reap the rewards of the seeds of Love when time is ripe……………The day of reckoning is nigh when God will decree the fates of all men according to the good and evil of their hearts and earthly lives………….

I am proud of you……………….

Cheers !!!!

Judy Miriga
Diaspora Spokesperson
Executive Director
Confederation Council Foundation for Africa Inc.,
USA

http://socioeconomicforum50.blogspot.com

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On Wed, Oct 2, 2013 at 12:52 PM, paul nyandoto wrote:

Nyamogo & Maurice

It looks that all what account146w writes is placed on my neck now. Are you guys insane?.

I can see that Maurice has gossiped around and got all about me and he is now out to tell people all about me. He started with my white wife and now my schoolings. I tell you Nyamogo that today it is my turn tomorrow it may be you. If I were you I would be worried about your clients if Maurice knows you well. Because he has caused you already and still causing you to lose a lot and lots of clients through his gossips. Be careful.

But did Maurice forget to tell you that I was just an ordinary luo boy who attended Sawagongo high school and in our year in that poor school by then, we were only 3 pupils who managed to get 3 principles in sciences ( mine were in Maths, Chemistry , Biology and 2 subsidiaries). Went to st. Petersburg first medical university named after the great scientist Ivan Petrovich Pavlov ( who lived 1849-1936): I was possessed with nuclear medicine already by then. Ivan Petrovich Pavlov made the first physiological experiment now known all over the world in the same laboratory I sat in during my education time. The university is now known as the St. Petersburg medical academy. In the same university I developed more interest in Radiation, nuclear and medical oncology.

Well Maurice is right my wife is white and she was my medical school classmate. She is also a medical doctor graduated with honors( may be Maurice has researched about that too but has not told you). In Finland i joined Helsinki University and did my specialization in Radiation , nuclear and medical oncology. Did Maurice tell you that I met president Moi face to face and you can call Moi to confirm that too. In the 1990s i drafted for Kenya almost the same medical structure & care as Finland to help in health care. This was given to the director of medical services called Meme. What he did with them hell knows.

Has Maurice told you that i was also the first Kenyan to put 2 scientific research work in the red journal. A record very rare in Africa , Even among south african whites, even in europe here. May be now there are a lot but I ventured into that when a lot were still sleeping.

I think Maurice has forgotten to tell you that I was the first foreign born doctor( white, green, red, asian, black, yellow etc) in Finland to win the best Oncology year award given after every 2 years in Finland by the Finnish cancer foundation to the best performing doctor in the land. All who had that before me were only finnish nationals. That was in the year 2008. By the way i have spent all the money I got, so do not beg me for that either. If I live longer I may surprise you one day with a nobel prize; or my kids will do it. So just wish us well.

Well I have 3 very bright kids. Their academic performance have surpassed me and my wife by far. So what else have i left out which Maurice is still having in store to tell the forum?. Well I speak and write luo, Russian, Finnish, very well and in our house we speak luo and Finnish mostly. Other languages we have around here and there is English, swedish,swahili we speak very rare, but practice it always towards our holiday journey to Kenya every time. By the way I am a jaluo from suba land. A very happy luo man. Maurice you can keep on gossiping and googling to find more and tell the forum. But I warn the forum that tell Maurice something at your own risk. The day you turn your back every body will know them including your medical records.

I have also a negative side and that is:

I hate people who can not feed their children and those who refuse to take jobs because the government will tax them for child support. I still believe in old tradition, that a good father should play his role well to kids, failure to do that you can not enjoy my kingdom. No matter how good you speak english. People do not eat english here where I live. So forgive me for my bad english grammar and I do not need any monkey gossiper on my back to tell people who I am..

Paul

WORLD CONTRACEPTION DAY MARKED AS YOUNG GIRLS IN KENYA ABUSE E-PILLS

From: Ouko joachim omolo
The News Dispatch with Omolo Beste
WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 25, 2013

Tomorrow is World Contraception Day, an annual event taking place on September 26 every year. Countries and regions around the world organize events to mark the day and to demonstrate their commitment to raising awareness of contraception and improving education regarding reproductive and sexual health.

The day is being marked when in Kenya the rising sales of emergency contraceptives commonly known as “morning-after pills” is worrying experts, following growing abuse by Kenya’s sexually active youth.

It is worrying that e-pills are being abused by many youth and underage girls. These pills are sold openly to young girls, including students by private chemists all over Kenya. Just as sex sells, so do the pills.

The drugs are supposed to be used twice per year but the girls take them almost every weekend without considering their side effects. This is because the pharmacists sell these drugs to these vulnerable young girls without doctor’s prescription. These pills are cheap and available. A packet sells for Sh150.

In a radio advertisement at the centre of a controversy in Kenya, a distraught teenage girl asks for help after having unprotected sex. “What shall I do? I’m still in college. What happens to my future, my friends, my family, my life?” she sobs.

Such advertisements have contributed a lot for the use of these pills among teenage girls. Some parents even encourage their girls to use them if they cannot overcome their sexual urges for intercourse.

Many young people are now using the e-pill routinely, some even buying the pills in advance in any case the boy friend insists on sex. College and university girls are using these pills irresponsibly.

Besides side-effects, like nausea, heavy bleeding and cramps, regular use of the emergency contraception may cause infertility and in some instances increase the risk of cancer, still this has not stopped these noble girls from using the pills.

The message these youth are getting is that what matters is that you go out and have fun because you won’t get pregnant. They don’t care about the side effect. The adverts are being sponsored by the US non-governmental organisation funding the campaign – Populations Services International in Kenya.

Besides that, frequent use of the e-pills affects your ovulation cycle and interferes with your fertility cycle. Yet taking the e-pill only solves a quarter of the problem, which is pregnancy, but leaves you susceptible to a myriad of serious STIs.

Furthermore, frequent consumption of the e-pill increases your chances of having an ectopic pregnancy. Again, since e-pills are used to prevent pregnancy within 120 hours of intercourse, girls who use them any time they have sex are at risk of terrible side effects.

E-pills are not supposed to be used as a regular birth control method due to their high hormonal content. Some of the most popular e-pills sold in Kenya are Postinor2, Pregno, Smart lady, Truston2 and Ecee2. Apart from nausea and dizziness, other side effects include vomiting and abdominal pain.

Fr Joachim Omolo Ouko, AJ
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Real change must come from ordinary people who refuse to be taken hostage by the weapons of politicians in the face of inequality, racism and oppression, but march together towards a clear and unambiguous goal.

-Anne Montgomery, RSCJ UN Disarmament Conference, 2002

MY HOMILY ON TWENTY FIFTH SUNDAY IN ORDINARY TIME

From: Ouko joachim omolo
The News Dispatch with Omolo Beste
SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 22, 2013

Today’s first reading is taken from Am 8:4-7, second reading is from 1 Tm 2:1-8, the Gospel is from Lk 16:1-13. All the readings today emphasize the concept of Justice and peace. While justice is a virtue which guides the human will, prompting us to give others what is due to them by reason of their existence and their actions, peace is a gift of God implored with faith.

As prophet Amos speaks out in the first reading, we must fearlessly condemn greed, self-indulgence, corruption, complacency, and religious indifference in the strongest term possible. We must condemned political, religious and any other leaders who exploited and oppressed the poor.

We should emulate the courage of Anglican Bishop Alexander Muge who became a true voice to the voiceless of the exploited and oppressed people of God in Kenya. He fearlessly condemned Moi’s regime for corruption and ethnic cleansing which had begun sweeping through the Rift Valley, Western, Nyanza and other regions.

We should also emulate the courage of American Mill Hill missionary, Fr John Anthony Kaiser who fearlessly brought attention to the social problems facing people of God in Kenya. He became a vocal critic of the waves of evictions which were clearly government-backed.

He came into national limelight in the early 1990s when he vigorously resisted the eviction of the internally displaced people who had camped at Maela in Narok, following their eviction from Enoosupukia.

In the second reading St. Paul insists that we must speak the truth without fear, bias or favor. We should emulate the courage of American human rights activist, Malcolm X who courageously and fearlessly spoke the truth:

“I’m for truth, no matter who tells it. I’m for justice, no matter who it is for or against. I’m a human being, first and foremost, and as such I’m for whoever and whatever benefits humanity as a whole.”

Jesus told his disciples that to believe in his is to know the truth, and the truth shall make you free” John 8:31,32. The key to genuine freedom is found in the phrase; “continue in my word”. Jesus says we come to know the truth by continuing in his teachings, and truth is that which will liberate us or make us free.

Truth will lead men and women, boys and girls to love one another. To the extent that we love one another, we shall also respect each other’s rights and privileges.

Later Saint Paul would write about the necessity to be numbered among those “who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. For…ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit” (Romans 8:4-6, 9). It is not a matter of being “bad” or “good” but of being truthful.

To live as a material being is to live a lie; to live as a spiritual being is to live the truth. And that is truly “life and peace.” “This I say then, Walk in the Spirit,” for “he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit” with the Divine (Galatians 5:16; I Corinthians 6:17).

In the Gospel Christ is warning those who would follow him on the road to heaven not to become the slaves of earthly things. We should serve God, not money. No servant can serve two masters. He will either hate one and love the other, or be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and mammon.”

In simple word, Jesus wants us to be generous with what you have. Generosity is the habit of giving without expecting anything in return. It can involve offering time, assets or talents to aid someone in need. Generosity can also be spending time, money, or labor, for others, without being rewarded in return.

Although generosity often goes hand-in-hand with charity, it is not solely based on one’s economic status, but instead, includes the individual’s pure intentions of looking out for society’s common good and giving from the heart. In other words, generosity should reflect the individual’s passion to help others.

Fr Joachim Omolo Ouko, AJ
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Real change must come from ordinary people who refuse to be taken hostage by the weapons of politicians in the face of inequality, racism and oppression, but march together towards a clear and unambiguous goal.

-Anne Montgomery, RSCJ UN Disarmament Conference, 2002

Analitical Mind, Very interesting……..!!!!!!

From: Judy Miriga

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Tuesday, July 2, 2013
Why is she Mrs Graca Machel and not Mrs Graca Mandela?

Graca Machel.

It is one of life’s little curiosities that the wife of arguably the world’s most famous man should not go by his name. Actually that she is called the name of her first husband.

Graca, a woman of grace, and a woman of substance, has been married to Nelson Mandela since 1998, and has the unique feat of having been First Lady of two countries – South Africa, between 1998 and 1999, when Mandela declined to stand for a second term of office, and Mozambique from 1975 to 1986 when her first husband, Samora Machel, died upon his presidential plane crashing in suspicious circumstances.

In all the 15 years she has been married to Mzee Mandela, she has been studiously referred to as Graca Machel. Why? (As if that is not enough, in those same years Winnie, whom Madiba divorced in 1996, kept the Mandela name, only inserting in between the Winnie and the Mandela her maiden name Madikizela).

Women’s names have always presented a quandary when the lady gets married. Very many happily take up their husband’s names on the wedding day, though a complication comes with issues like certificates (a couple of classmates in my post-graduate class kept juggling between their present names and those on their earlier academic transcripts).

Others struggle with as mundane a challenge as whether, upon marriage, to change their email addresses to reflect their married name. Maybe it is not so mundane.

Of course a few, certainly in Uganda, skirt the issue entirely by keeping their maiden names. My mentor William Pike’s wife, the equally wonderful Cathy Watson, springs to mind, as do my old schoolmates Dr Sylvia Tamale and her husband Prof Joe Oloka Onyango, law teachers both at Makerere University.

These two couples are entirely at peace with the status quo-ante which is the status quo. And so they should be.

But some have it in reverse. The last I heard of one of my lecturers at journalism school in Britain, an Englishman called Paul, was that he had immigrated to the US, married an American woman and taken up her surname.

It is a similar story of a former Japanese diplomat in Kampala, who had facilitated a trip for me to tour his country back in 1999. Diplomatic sources here told me that when he returned to his homeland, he got married and took up his wife’s name.

Pragmatic reasons

Most women readily take up their husband’s name, dropping their maiden and/or father’s name, because it is the accepted thing in most societies. Others take up hubby’s name for pragmatic reasons.

Take the next President of the United States (I prophesy). When she married Bill Clinton in 1975, she stuck to being called Hillary Rodham for about seven years till her man started campaigning for big office among conservative people. She then became Hillary Clinton, while a few times referring to herself as “Mrs Bill Clinton.”

The Russians have simplified it a bit. When a man and a woman get married, the suffix ‘a’ is added to the man’s surname and given to the woman.

Thus if Maria gets married to Mr Gorbachev, she becomes Gorbacheva; when Irina marries Mr Yeltsin, she will be known as Yeltsina. In Uganda Opolot’s wife would be Opolota and Amin’s would be Amina.

In Uganda, the Banyarwanda community, in contrast to the Russians, just add the prefix ‘Muka’. And so Mrs Nkusi will be Mukankusi, and Mrs Ndori will be known as Mukandori.

In the Kiganda culture, ‘muka’ also means ‘wife of’, though Baganda will keep it as a generic title, a general noun, unlike Banyarwanda who append it to the name. (The Kinyarwanda prefix has steadily evolved to be integral to the names themselves, thus it is now common for a single girl to be known as Miss Mukarwego, yet she is not married to Mr Rwego. She could have inherited the name from an ancestor of many generations ago).

What do you do when you move from being married to the world’s most powerful man to wedding one of the world’s richest men? Well, you keep both names. After she was widowed following President John F Kennedy’s assassination in 1963, Jacqueline (nee Lee Bouvier) kept the presidential name in marrying the Greek shipping magnate Aristotle Onassis, and she became Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis.

Others will simply hyphenate maiden name with hubby’s name: Philippines’ last President, Gloria Macapagal-Arroyo, kept her father’s name Macapagal (also a former President) but hyphenated it with her husband’s, Mr Arroyo.

We also have our own Janet Kataaha Museveni, though not hyphenated, but still keeping father’s name while using hubby’s as well.

None of which explains why Graca is still called Machel when she has been married to Mandela for all this time.

http://mbuzimzee.blogspot.com/2013/07/why-is-she-mrs-graca-machel-and-not-mrs.html

EXTRAMARITAL SEX AND INFIDELITY IN MARRIAGE

From: Ouko joachim omolo
The News Dispatch with Omolo Beste
TUESDAY, AUGUST 13, 2012

Last Saturday Rev Fr Augustine Achaha of the Apostles of Jesus Missionaries presided over a wedding ceremony between Emily Matunda Mwafusi and Christopher Mwakatili Chorongo, one of its kind in 3 years at St Thomas Catholic Church in Magadi Soda, Ngong Diocese.

Basing his 37 minutes homily on extramarital sex and infidelity in marriage, Father Achaha caused laughter when he asked a question on what good do men get in other women’s wives that is not in their wives.

People laughed of course, but the truth of the matter is that cases of extramarital sex and infidelity in marriage are on the rise. Here in Kenya the act is popularly known in Swahili as ‘mpango wa kando’ (extramarital sex).

This is where a married man keeps a mistress elsewhere without the knowledge of his wife. A mistress is a long-term female lover and companion who is not married to her partner but can have children that the man must take care of as his rest of the lawful children.

The relationship generally is stable and at least semi-permanent; however, the couple does not live together openly. Also the relationship is usually, but not always, secret. There is an implication that a mistress may be “kept”—i.e., that the lover is paying for some of the woman’s living expenses including paying school fees for children and paying rent.

Because of its graveness this act may carry moral or religious and consequences in civil or religious law. It can lead to separation or divorce.

In Judaism the Torah prescribes the death penalty through stoning for adultery, which is defined as having sex with a woman who is married to another man. Two witnesses of good character had to testify in court for the case to be even considered by the judges.

Extramarital sex is considered to be immoral by most Christian groups, who base this primarily on passages like 1Cor 6:9-10: Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor sexual perverts, nor those who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor revilers, nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God.

Extramarital sex has historically been considered to be one of the more serious and damaging sins, possibly because of passages like 1 Corinthians 6:18 that speak of it as sinning against one’s own body.

In Islam the law prescribes severe punishments extramarital sex, by both men and women. Premarital sex could be punished by up to 100 lashes, while adultery is punishable by stoning.

There are reasons men give for cheating on their wives. They do so because they have become unsatisfied with their wives. Cheating usually occurs in the phase of companionate love, when couples begin to settle down, have kids and solidify the life being built together.

There are five categories leading to infidelity. One is opportunistic infidelity which occurs when a partner is in love and attached to a partner, but surrenders to their sexual desire for someone else. The opportunistic infidelity is driven by irrepressible lust, situational circumstances and/or opportunity, and sometimes, pure risk-taking behavior.

The second category is obligatory infidelity based on fear that refraining from someone’s sexual advances will result in rejection, and being unwilling to handle such rejection, resulting in surrender to them. Some people end up cheating solely on the need for approval from somebody, even though they still hold a strong attraction to their committed partner.

The third category is romantic infidelity which occurs when the cheater is in the process of “falling out of love” with his/her partner. The person’s self-perceived obligatory commitment to the relationship’s tenets and overall life-meaning is likely the only thing still keeping them with their partner in this example.

The fourth category is conflicted romantic infidelity which takes place when a person both falls in love with and has a strong sexual desire for multiple people at one time, even though s/he may already be committed to a partner.

In this circumstance the person feels s/he cannot tell his/her committed partner about what has happened, but is nevertheless unable to resist the compulsion.

The fifth category is commemorative infidelity which occurs when a person has completely fallen out of love with their spouse, but is still in a committed relationship with them.

If divorce results from infidelity, research suggest that the “faithful” spouse may experience feelings of low life satisfaction and self esteem; they may also engage in future relationships fearful of the same incidence occurring. Divorce is one response to marital infidelity.

The church is concerned about these issues because marriage and the family are of fundamental importance for the Church and for society.

Fr Joachim Omolo Ouko, AJ
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Real change must come from ordinary people who refuse to be taken hostage by the weapons of politicians in the face of inequality, racism and oppression, but march together towards a clear and unambiguous goal.

-Anne Montgomery, RSCJ UN Disarmament Conference, 2002