Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 12:25:01 +0300
From: eve wanjiku

Subject: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

YPs, life is funny. I dated a boy in high school and fell in love quickly. I knew he was “the one”. Like many high school romances, it didn’t work out for a variety of reasons (time, distance, age). I have thought about him many times throughout my life. Wondering what he is doing, if he thinks of me. I always considered him “the one” even after getting married, having a kid. I am 32 years old, married 6 years to a wonderful man who I respect immensely, but am not really “in love with” anymore. I love the life we have, the home we are creating.

I receive an email from a friend of mine who happens to have this high school boys’ email address on it. I email him, we talk about the basics and I decide to tell him that I have not stopped thinking of him in all these years. Making a long story short, he feels the same – that every woman he has been with he compare to me, we have some kind of connection that has lasted all this time. This blows me away because I KNEW it all this time…I call him, we talk 3 times and it is wonderful! It is like we have never left each other. I know there is something there, as does he, but he is in a relationship as well.

Things are getting a bit heated, I am an emotional wreck and his girlfriend finds out that we are in contact and gets very angry, so I told him we have to stop communicating for the sake of our relationships. This was the hardest thing for me to do. That was 3 weeks ago, and I am miserable without him…

So, what do I do? Let time pass, and miss out on probably the one relationship that meant the most to me? Settle back into my life of comfort and stability and lack of love? Do I let the rest of my life go by without giving this other relationship a chance? My child is 7 years old and I don’t want to wreck his life. I know a mother sacrifices a lot, but happiness too?

Regards
Eve

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 12:43:11 +0300
From: Sarah Khabereri

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Baby gal,

That is so beautiful. But wake up and smell the coffee. It’s never gonna work. Call me a pessimist, but that is the truth. I was in a similar position (only difference is that I am not married), but it leads nowhere. Call it ‘unfinished biz’. You already moved on by getting married and starting a family. Be content with that my dear.
Wanting to go back to him will give you more misery than you feel right now. That is the sacrifice you will have to make.

You’ll have to bite the bullet. Think of what made you fall in love with your husband to the point of accepting to be his wife. Work on that and cultivate more towards your union. With yur high school
sweetheart, there’s a lot to lose. Take it from me.

Sarah Maureen Radoli
Reporter/Research Assistant
Jacaranda Designs Limited
NAIROBI

3746270/7

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Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 02:47:00 -0700 (PDT)
From: Mercy Atieno

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

if you 2 love each other you should make a way of being with each other coz trust me its very painful to hold back n let the one you love go just pray about it n let God guide you. hope you make the right desicion be blessed.

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 12:49:50 +0300
From: tom mutua

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

WOW is my comment EVE , your looking for justification to cheat on your husband, well guess what we are not the option for you to seek permission from. it seems like you have already made up your mind. i never stop laughing at people who shoot themselves in the leg. keep it up eve, you will be abandoned,homeless, and if your husband is as good as you say he is, childless because he will take your son away because your toxic. am a guy and i know the thrill for us guys lasts very shortly, the chance of one more conquest is all the thrill we need, but as we say easy come easy go, the way you want to be loved easily is the way that same love will abandon you. and who says you should feel emotional repreival towards your husband. isnt he treating you right? isnt he puting you and your son first? what more love do you need? the type we see on tv, we thats all FICTION, wake up silly woman. like i said you have made up you mind, i say bravo and kudos to you eve and keep it up.

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 02:53:50 -0700 (PDT)
From: jimmie kamau

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Have you tried to find out if your huby feels the same, does he have a person he thinks about or may be even when you are on it he fantancies about her think woman love dies not die if it does then it was not love.

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 03:04:04 -0700 (PDT)
From: Ngina

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Eve, I think you are confusing love and lust here. Am no expert in relationship but I would say based on what you have said being married to the same person for the past 6 years, am sure life is a routine and particularly the sex life. Now here is a blast from the past and it looks like they will hit things up again. Forget it. You should try and refocus that energy with your husband. Talk to him, spice up your romance. Add a bit of kinky in your sex life, do all the kamasutra style with him and in time you will forget the ex high school sweetheart and your marriage will be more spiceful again.

Yesterday is only a dream, tomorrow only a vision, but today – we live. If we live as we should, our yesterdays will be dreams of happiness, and our tomorrow’s will be visions of hope. May you experience each day as a sacred gift woven around the heart of wonder. © ~Barbara A Bailey~

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 13:55:41 +0300
From: Leonard Otieno

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

My dear Eve Wanjiku, mature up and don’t let your emotions control your destiny. It is high time you recognizes that you are worth more than just your emotions. Face this life with a sober and clear mind giving thanks to God for everything.

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 12:50:37 +0300
From: David Kilonzi

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

EVE,

ITS SO SIMPLE! YOUR BEING A SELFISH ME ME ME LADY APPROACHING MIDDLE AGE! GROW UP!

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 02:50:03 -0700 (PDT)
From: Joseph Siror

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Eve,

Thanks for being frank, honest and willingness to share with this forum your predicament. I would advice you to settle in your marriage. There is just something about the nature of man where after getting used to a situation for too long that desires a change.

I know you were not forced into this marriage, thus, at some point you loved the man you are with right now. However, as is usually the case, you have got used to him, and the feeling is, the other one could have been better. I am almost certain, that if you were to break away and join the other man – One you would have caused irreparable damage to your home, and it will not last very long before you will be bored with that other man and wish you were back to your home. The tragedy with life is that you only live once.

Here are my recommendations:

1. You give your life to Jesus & strive to have your entire family saved

2. Settle down in your home

3. Pray to God so that he enables you to be satisfied in your marriage.
Start taking positive actions to improve your love life. One of the ways is to always look for an opportunity to show love to him and to tell him how much you love him. Always be thankful to God and to him for every gesture of love or good deed done to you.
Please do not endanger your family and your live. I would also recommend and you stop any communication with that other man immediately until you are strong enough (that is after getting saved), to preach to him and lead him to Christ.
Many homes began very well, but the devil, who is always very cunning would use very deceptive methods to break them, do not allow yours to be one people will be using in their statistics.

God bless,

Joseph Siror
Shanghai – China

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 13:26:15 +0300
From: Odhiambo

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

This advise I am giving does not take into consideration your feelings:

TUACHE MPANGO WA KANDO!!!

If I were to consider your feelings, I’d ask so many questions, but since I have less time in my hands for now, let’s see:

1. You are not happily married. That is why you’ve always thought about him. You married your hubby for the materials but not for love. Silly thing, but happens all the time.

2. You are looking for a way our of your marriage, but is being held back because of the “materials”. Stupid thing. There are people who are happier than you even without such material.

3. Does this guy feel he can drop the woman he’s currently in a relationship with so as to take you “and your baggage”? (Ladies, please don’t kill me. I don’t mind baggage)

If so, then file for divorce and take the plunge into the unknown. You’ll only blame yourself for your actions, not me, or any of us here.
It appears to me that your happiness lies with this guy, as to you, he’s “the one”. Go for it, but NOT “mpango wa kando”. Basically, you’ve committed adultery already – in your mind!

BTW, I hope your husband is not reading this list, but chances are that he will one day. These google posts are archived and can never be deleted!!

—
Best regards,
Odhiambo WASHINGTON,
Nairobi,KE
+254733744121/+254722743223
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Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 13:14:49 +0300
From: Mathews

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Ehe!

@Wanjiku
It is normal to feel and to go down the memory lane. It does not matter what side of the coin you look at or which image on the mirror you are dreaming on. FOCUS carry on with your life in as much as you want to to look back is it worth it? Your love life is 80/20 may be you are looking for the 20 of your life and in an attempt to leave out the 80 progress you have made.

What you have is your to keep this is the bottom line! It good to be in touch but remember to keep to the limits. You are married, with a hubby and kid…..thats just it you cannot change the fact. What I see here is like you are trying “Mpango wa kando” It will not work.

In relationships somethings never change and some are not good to start. You will always miss your 20% which is ok cause you rather keep the 80% you have.

Love life is two fold:

1. There is give and take
2. Willing buyer and seller
3. Wife and Husband snatchers
4. The hungry/thirsty for affection and content persons
5. Risk takers and Careful traders
6. ……….You can go on and on………

Take time and think of exactly what you really want. “with your Heart and Head”

All the best
Matt.
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From: Joshua Amolo

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Please concentrate on “married 6 years to a wonderful man who I respect immensely” as you said it and build on those things forget about the other shortcomings.

Have you considered that this “high school sweerheart” could be lying to you? How comes he never looked 4 u for all those years until you showed up?

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 15:21:29 +0300
From: steve mutungi

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

I am a relationship shrink but,soon and very soon,your hubby will know it.It happens.shit happens.The mind is very powerful.The body and spirit always tries to compete for the mind’s attention.The mind can easily convince you about anything and you will believe it.I hope,just hope that you have not called your hubby that guy’s name……it happens.He is occupying your mind,so its bound to happen. If it happens,your bad…

The problem is that u r torn btn sticking with the well to do guy and the comfort you have – remember whichever the dreams you have with your hubby,trust me,its his dream. You have compromised,and alot of it.

The other option,is to be happy,with the high skul blast from the past guy. He may not be well off- materially but he can make u happy.

Women look for stability but end up compromising alot. This mostly leads to unhappy love life. This world is full of risks but the results are not always optimal and human race tends to choose this approach- which in my area of expertise I call “GREEDY ALGORITHM” – where we tend to choose the seemingly best ,optimal solution but its not sufficiently and necessarily optimal hence we always tend to backtrack……..like you thinking about this guy…maybe…

My point is: life,love,happiness is an interplay of many factors…you may choose one approach over another but each has consequences. CHOOSE or make your decision wisely. Visit a shrink if need be.

Just another suggestion. you are the decision maker!!.

Steve
www.stevemutungi.com

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 04:27:41 -0700 (PDT)
From: HUMPHREY MBOGO

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Please, please you do not pray against the will of God, i marriage is a life time commitment that is not based on feelings. The prayer here should be for God to help you do the right thing, which is sticking and being faithful to your spouse, till death do you part. Imagine if everybody did what they felt good or what was convenient, how many of you married people would lack a reason to walk away from your marriage?

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 13:32:07 +0100
From: Julie.Sifuma

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Mercy,

Are you saying that Eve married a man she didn’t love??? Eve there are no two ways here, the only prayer you need to pray is for you God to remove lust and continue being faithful to your hubby who you legally got married to.

Neli

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 12:40:13 +0100
From: Maryann Wanjiru

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Eva,

its quite simple, if u feel loved and u love the guy then its okay to have him, after all you live and die once and you never feel the true love twice, it only happens once, so just go for it, its you to decide if you will have him fully (that is u leave ur hubby and he leaves his girlfriend/wife) or u just have him huko kando, yaani side plate.

good luck!

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 15:45:42 +0300
From: judy kaiguire

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Eve your experience that has dragged your emotions sounds wooow! But honeybunch it only sounds nice and remains that way if it is a sitcom movie. I noted that you are the one who communicated first by sending an email which you describe the conversation as basic..if he was so into you he would have suggested otherwise(pls dont read this as sex), you then took intiative again to CALL 3 TIMES and the conversation was wonderful just wonderful! Sarah says wake up and smell the coffee l agree and sorry to burst your bubble but you are the one doing the chasing, there is a part you mentioned when the girlfriend finds out you called she hits the roof if ‘the one’ is telling the truth the GF would have approached you by now..take time to look closely on the above and make a future decision that is if your hubby does not read this beforehand. We all fall into yesteryears what if’s but the present situation is what matters, you “respect your hubby immensely” are your actions matching your words..AMUKA KUMEKUCHA!

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 05:45:57 -0700 (PDT)
From: Robert Mwangi

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Hi Eve,

The first advice is that emotions were created to be controlled by you not the other way round. Once i was in such situation. I had stayed with my first girl for 4yrs and i loved her so much. She was known by everybody at home and she was a great friend to my parents. Time came and her mother got married abroad and they all moved there. Out of sight out of mind. Eventually she got married and got three boys and i also got married. 13yrs down the line without knowing whether she is alive or died she gave me a call. I couldn’t even recognize her voice but guess what we got crazy all over again and when i noticed it was almost to burst i decided to tell my wife the whole story. Slowly i detached my self from her and made sure most of the communications are done through my wife. Later i hosted her and her last born in my house for one and a half months during summer and in fact she is the godmother to my two daughters.

One thing i made her understand is whatever i shared with her is in the past. Am married and i respect my wife. For me to remain faithful is something i have purposed in my life not a demand from my wife. This means i cannot do anything behind her back. Am also a friend to her hubby and i respect him.

You can make your friendship health and am telling you it can work. It all depends with your attitude. You might think you don’t love your hubby but wait until you mess that marriage and face the world. Why did you marry the guy if you never loved him? Whatever you feel is not love but illusion. If he cannot respect your marriage and the fact that you have a life time commitment call if off. Marriage is an institution ordained by God and you try to mess it a little and you face his wrath. Be contented with what you have for God to entrust you with more Blessings.

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 05:52:14 -0700 (PDT)
From: Janet mafunga

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Eve… You have a family you say you value and here you are starting to give temptation a chance… Each of us did have childhood sweethearts. I am actually dating one now. My college sweetheart who i met again after 15 years. But the difference here is none of us is in a relationship.

For you to try and nurture this relationship with this guy and risk breaking up your marriage would be suicide on your part. How do you know like with your hubby now you wont fall out of love with him after a while? How sure are you this one is the ONE. I am sure when you married your husband, he was so the ONE, no one would tell you anything less than that and you had eyes only for him. We do not know what the future holds. You are in the process of ruining two relationships and in one of them there is a child, YOURS..

Take a good look at yourself in the mirror and see what exactly it is you really want.

Jeanette M. Khaoya

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 16:29:30 +0300
From: JEREMIAH CHUNGE

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Washington….true story hapo …hit the nail at the right spot (head, leg, everywea!!!)

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 14:59:12 +0300
From: Odhiambo

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Na pia, mtoto akililia wembe? Mpe. Akijakata ndipo atatambua ubaya wa wembe/kijembe:)

Inasmuch as we’d all like to discourage Eve, there is a 50/50 chance she may succeed in this one. Isn’t that the law of probabilities?

—
Best regards,
Odhiambo WASHINGTON,
Nairobi,KE
+254733744121/+254722743223
_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
“Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on
society.”
— Mark Twain

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 14:02:01 +0000 (GMT)
From: albert gakaya

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Eve

Pray to God to Restore your Love for your Hubby. This Guy may only want to have another story for the boys.”Nilimanga Ka-mother”.
If he really thought of you why has he never tried to get in touch. am a guy and if i want some thing i would look for it.

Dont be another one on the list. School Love in most cases never worked move on with your life. If you were my wife and came across this You would not spend another night in my house.

Regards

Albert.

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 14:59:27 +0300
From: Florence Ndungu

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Human beings are quite interesting. Eve, there is no way you can leave your family coz of this guy.. from what I have concluded, you don’t have a stand with God. You need Jesus sweetie, this is just a bad spirit that is hovering around you don’t allow the devil to get in your marriage!!

God HATES divorce!!!!! Please note that this is not you who wants to move with this other guy but it’s the devil trying to destroy what God has put together. Don’t destroy your home for God will hold you
accountable for that!!! Its like going out with a married man knowing quite well that this r/ship isn’t going anywhere and you are just there for fun.. but how long will it last???? Gal handover your life to
Christ He will sort you out but in the mean time don’t live your life like a foolish woman who destroys her home instead of building it up..
I’ll keep you in my prayers and you also need to pray for yourself!

when you take something for granted, you can quickly forget that it’s even there. If you take it for granted long enough, it may in fact be gone the next time you look for it.

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 17:19:32 +0300
From: Mathews

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

@ Robert

True Sentiments.

@ Eve I believe by now you have decided to stop this nonsense of “Side Plate” “Mpango wa kando”

Way forward! Love your husband – Remember the outstanding thing that attracted you to him. Maybe he has this well built body, Was and believe you me still caring. Developed a new life inside you (the Kid you are blessed with)…..!

When you mess up it will be hard to gain his trust. If you have not started doing anything fishy please DO NOT START. Leave it as it is now. You are inside a hot pan dont jump into the fire.

Be blessed.
Matt

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 17:39:49 +0300
From: David Liambila

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Dear Eve,

Thanks for the candid story about your life. Let me advise you in my capacity as a professional though i have a few other tittles. You’ve been married 6 years and then suddenly a script from the past flashes before your eyes and there you are confused. If I were you i’d delete the boy’s number, his email and even his whole memory from my life.

You’re married, with a kid and a wonderful husband, one with whom you have a HOME. You’ve mentioned nothing bad about him, just that you dont seem to appreciate. Not that he doesn’t love you. The truth is the passing of time has erased those early days romances out of your life and now you think you dont love him. You’ll have the same feeling with the other boy, in fact it will only take three months and then you’ll run back to us for advise.

It’s been said that the very first love relationship usually has quite a profound impact on one’s life, and many people never really get over them. Most cheatings in marriage involve those very first relationships that just never worked. And here you are, ready to get into these unfortunate statistics. You want to break your own marriage, break another wife’s marriage and cause misery to all those
innocent kids.

Dear, Eve, please run. Run away very first. Because it looks to me that the time is now ripe for you to live in that misery that you’ve always been hearing and reading about.

David Liambila
Civil Engineer

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 15:49:11 -0700 (PDT)
From: Sebastian Onyango

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Eve,
Just do the growing up! Even though you are married you can meet a thousand and one other men you would feel the same with (in love) in your lifetime! Question is, will you walk away with them every time or use your head!!!!!

Sebastian Onyango

Date: Thu, 11 Jun 2009 07:55:22 +0300
From: Evelyne Gitimu

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

@Robert,kudos man.U got my respect.Wat u did was honourable n not many men wld do that. @Eve,wat I’d say is that the grass is never greener at the other end,thats jst an illusion.Make it greener where u are.Work on ur marriage gal coz thats the cause of all these.I bliv if u were blissfully happy in ur marriage,u wldnt be having those ‘feelings’. N remember adultery is not jst the physical,it starts
mentally n u r already there.My advice,seek forgiveness n ask God 2 give u more luv for your husband.N u cld always take the route Robert did,let both parties know about the existence of the other,n make ur stand known.All the best n may God give u the wisdom u need to deal with the situation coz I know it aint easy.Barikiwa.

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:14:14 +0300
From: charles chigiri

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Eve,

This is not a problem, kindly take note on the following reality;

1. That, you’ve grown from a school girl to wife and a mother of one

2. That, change in life is real and unless you aknowledge that human growth is part of change. that’s why you are married with a kid, unfortanetly you want to go back to the teenage life, impossible.

3. The former high school mate has nothing to offer you for now my sister [only confusion], forget about him, love your husband, love your child, love your family and you will have nothing to loose but gain a lot; peace of mind, joy and happiness.

4. Instead of managing your feelings, you have allowed your feelings to manage you, thats dangerous and kindly mediate if what ever you doing is right.

5. Lastly, if this situation persist, consult a psycho socio counsellor but in the meantime you can open up and share this to your husband and see how you will handle this together. Create an enviroment where this high school colleage will meet your husband, believe me or not the dilema you have will end.

6. Be careful madam, the society is watching you and might judge you harshly.

charles chigiri

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 18:01:08 -0700 (PDT)
From: Dee

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

David,
Well Said.
Eve, I dont see the point in leaving a 6 yr marriage for something that sounds more of a fling! and have you considered that within those years, this other guy has changed and probably the things that made you ‘fall in love’ with him are all gone. chances are you might drop ur happy marriage for this dude and it will all fall apart so fast and then you will have to go back to your hubby repatch things up and by then you will have already destroyed the trust he has for you..
so just think about it. about your life and you kid!

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:59:11 +0300
From: Jorum Odiemo

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Dear Eve

I don’t envy you at all but would advise you that unfinished businesses don’t work. 85% of marriages do not comprise childhood sweethearts or college fantasies. As you have been advised you went
searching, why didn’t he search for you??.

Six years according to me is a rather long time to decide to opt out to what you want to call a “wonderful marriage” but without love. Love can always be worked out , there are shrinks around and probably you just need to talk to your husband and find out why there is no love??
probably take a trip, go to the Mara for a weekend just the two of you, you will be shocked. I was once in the same situation but i ended up marrying the most supportive and loving woman (my opinion) in the world coz I had the patience and the yarn to know her and she reciprocated and we grew in love – been 3 years now.

As they say “usimuage Ugali ati kuna Wali mahali”. It needs irrigation ehich not always works

My take

Date: Thu, 11 Jun 2009 06:35:58 +0300
From: John Waweru

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

@ Robert,recieve my warmest and greatest congratulatory messages,handshakes,hugs… name it all… just for being the Man you Are!

KUDOS!!! especially with the part where you told your wife! God!!!! you’re a real man…… God Bless you big brother, i look forward to follow in the same footsteps.

@ Eve,
life is short.you have achieved a lot. and what the hell tells you that after 7 years with this guy you wont be feeling like going back to your husband?

Love is just a feeling….. life is the reeeeeeaaaaal… thing! face it and face it with lots of courage, understanding. perseverance,patience, and lots of sacrifices.

Hope to see you “tomorrow” with your happy family….

Cheerz

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 21:06:05 +0300
From: joseph nyongesa

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Let me also advise you as “another” proffesional or second opinion if you like.

Until you “do it” with him, you will not find peace. You may delete his contacts but he will not delete yours and this will be like an incetive to him to chase you further.

The best way to get over it, or the best way to know if you two should get over it is to go out there and spoil yourselves. Perhaps after the third time, you will have a mutual aggreement to get over it…and as “another” proffesional, i guarantee you this will work…

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 23:24:10 -0700 (PDT)
From: RAMAH SALIM

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Maryann,
Is this coming from your heart? No wonder time and again women will be used and dumped coz of this thing “you live life once” What guarantees that she will not get bored with this new jamaa or this guy will not use and dump her.She can follow your advice,but she might leave to regret the whole of her life.Rem you have just said “u live and die once”Also this issue of side plate,do u know HIV ie real??

Date: Thu, 11 Jun 2009 04:13:28 -0700 (PDT)
From: judy mwangi

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Hi Eve,
What i can tell you is that most marriages come through such a time and i feel that i have to tell you that i have gone through the same. What i can tell you is that you need to take it slow by not making any rushed decisions at this time as you are not in a sober state of mind. What always brings me to my senses is my son and i also continously look at the old flame as nothing else than a friend. The truth is that your husband is wy much better. You will see this in time. Will keep praying for you!

Date: Thu, 11 Jun 2009 07:46:05 -0700 (PDT)
From: Shaz

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Gal,
U r young but this is something you do not want to think about especially when u r having a ruff patch in ur marriage

This is what we call temptations sometimes marrying those we love makes us unhappy & marrying those we think we don’t luv happy. If u r enjoying what u have currently then the rest are details that u may not need in this life.

Thank God u have someone u can respect & appreciate as well as learn to luv but let by gones be bygones .

U might spoil what u have as u try to set a score with what you lost & eventually end up with loosing both so gal the ball is on ur court no matter what we tell u but best advice TREAD CAREFULLY.

Date: Thu, 11 Jun 2009 04:22:26 -0700 (PDT)
From: Grace Njeri

Subject: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Flo, you have said it!

Eve, it is true that you need Jesus…

Then you receive Jesus, you should then take the other most important step to Grow Spiritually into maturity as a believer (it takes Self Discipline: Pray/Fellowship/Bible Study/etc); Serve Him (There are many ministries in which you can serve the Lord because God created us for ministry – God’s workmanship, and working on your almost fading marriage is ministrial work too); and lastly but not least, be Responsible (Not only to your self, but you should take personal responsibility to develop others – this is what you should do to your former boyfie). Eve dear, change from your lifestyle and abide to building others too…

Date: Thu, 11 Jun 2009 14:58:08 +0000 (GMT)
From: Kenyatta Aggrey

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Eve,

I like this line from the russian poet Lermontov; “He in his madness prays for storms,hoping that the storms will bring him peace.” If ur even consering it, then know ur courting tragedy.The storms-coz i believe ur seeking storms-u will get, but thereafter no peace.

If u love literature i would recommend Madame Bovary by Gustave Flaubert,Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy and Family Happiness also by Leo Tolstoy.I got copies which i can lend.

Date: Thu, 11 Jun 2009 08:04:28 -0700 (PDT)
From: terry ndirangu

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Eve,

Godliness and contentment is great gain. God has given you a wonderful husband, he’s not beating you up or causing you harm in any way, and you want to leave him and your son for another man who you supposedly loved! Those are the lies of the devil my dear. He comes to steal, to kill and to destroy, and you are just giving way to his schemes to destroy your marriage for bno good reason. You better wake up, move on with your life, be content with what you have. I can tell you for sure, that other man is not worth breaking your marriage, all the years of investment! Stop thinking about him, we are a product of what we think about. If you would stop spending your time medidating on him, then you wouldn’t be the wreck you’re saying you are.

Take care of the family you have, find something to take your mind off that other guy, begin to count eacvh day some wonderful things your husband is and brings to your life, then you will realise he’s not worth losing, he’s worth fighting for. What would Jesus do if He were in your situation, i wonder. You need to do the right thing, even if it doesn’t seem so!

Terry

Date: Wed, 10 Jun 2009 14:14:09 +0300
From: amenya gibson

Subject: Re: My High School Sweetheart – Its all coming back

Hi sister Eve
I fear for you if you cannot let go the painful and loving moments of yesteryears

It happened. Settle in marriage and move on.

Unless the high school boy has become a celeb of late, that will be another story altogether

Bye
Gibson Amenya
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