Kenyans are so different. From reasoning capacities to having unique intellectual thoughts that really determined how we now live. From our politicians to ordinary Kenyans, most amongst us are pretenders and very peculiar in many ways.

There is at least one thing in life that is beyond good and evil, that is ourselves for there are not absolutes except those that we create. This ‘stinking thinking’ among most Kenyans has contributed to our non-progressiveness. I’m not trying to justify this ‘controversy’ as many would put it.

From what I have been gathering of late many of us have co-opted to talk, judge and decide for others and by the personal standards that we selectively choose to have and going to an extent of ‘provoking’ others with platitudes on how we should think and what we should say, whether tribally or sectarian. We only create monologues and less dialogue as conflict when we choose to have intercourse of mob-violence on our neighbors to prove a point than to offer alternatives and options that help all.

The Kenyans that I met always chose to discover political standards by creating personal standards they feel serve them best and not others.

The point is that to be authentic is to be honest with ourselves first even in the face of nothingness. Ethnic beliefs learned at childhood have refused to leave many of us, whether religious, sexual, moral, political, name it. In fact, when it comes to ‘prejudice and myths,’ much of what we believe in is purely sectarian or political. By the way who is the ruler of our lives in our daily loves apart from God?

Must we ‘religiously’ maintain the approval of our tribal parents or friends, as if our existence depended on them? What about we as individuals and our personal ethical stands?

Many of us expect their tribal worlds to treat us fairly, as if our worlds cannot conform to our innate wishes or what we would deem right to hear and make us smile more.

A well known psychotherapist/psychoanalyst, Prof. (Dr.) Albert Ellis, stated in a workshop that, “the purpose of life is to have a good time.” He believes, in one of his books, in going right to the heart of an issue without mincing words even if someone else might get anxious or upset. Being upset or angry, to him, is the other person’s problem and not his.

I strongly believe in him because all of us have different living philosophies and each should be respected no matter how bad, dirty or bitter they may appear to be. If not,  then how then should we classify and define the electoral challenges that we are still facing? Even as all these exist and shall always be with us to stay, what else should we offer?

Being truely Kenyan is being denied by the so called ‘Kenyan pretenders as citizens’. Our lives would still move on and create even more complications in the form of challenges.
Kenyans in Kenya, we should learn to accept differences as opportunities for growth and maturity, by even accepting our mistakes and not as reasons for conflict.

Try this. Ask a Kenyan a simple question, he/she would hesitate to give an answer but will only give one after someone else does and if only it has been answered RIGHT.

We live by the standards that our friends choose for us as we please them and then get false praises and smiles for our massaged egos even if we bring in violence and brutality.
Should blaming or cursing be part of accepting the reality that is always elusive to many? To my mind reality entails accepting limits no matter how hard they appear to be.

Thus existence is best understood as being in-the-world, the Kenyan World.  For life is limitless and boundaries and blocks that we create only make us ‘resistant to learn and grow’. We become more downgraded and confined. It is true that the ethnic world that we relate to is our own construction. What you or I say or do determines how our future generation would live.

A practical example…Jesus Christ, J.F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King Jnr, Malcolm X, Mother Teressa and others were targets of violence, hatred, blame and discrimination because they reminded some ‘very static’ individuals of how empty and inauthentic their ideas and lives were in comparison. They brought change to the world with the ‘different opinions’ that they had with them.

Certainly any Kenyan trying to control any human being, be it Kenyan or not, is essentially destroying and objectifying them. Let us learn not to be primitive and not to set standards for others. In this world no one is right or wrong, only DIFFERENT.

Lastly, I don’t care what someone says but only mind what you say…..

Regards,
Mundia Mundia Jnr.
(Clinical Phsychiatrist)

http://mundia2.wordpress.com