Date: Wed, 9 Apr 2008 18:10:05 -0700 (PDT)
From: Absalom Birai
For a number of years now, I have had a wonderful
privilege to meet and mingle with lots of people from
different cultures. I have admired and appreciated
some things about their culture.
But even with all that, I am still a very strong and
faithful believer of our culture. There are certain
ways I was brought up that I will sure hold dear until
I go the way of my fore fathers. That said,
I am of the opinion that from time to time, there will
be need to question that which we were taught. This is
so due to lack of clear understanding as to the origin
and reason behind some teachings / beliefs / way of doing
things.
Such an issue relates and affects the un married
women. As it’s, we all know that marriage is an issue
that has affected the un married for centuries.. Perhaps
the greatest challenge is of finding a suitable
partner.
What I have always wondered is this. During the
search, men can approach any lady of their liking. If
one says no, they will move on and approach someone
else until they find a suitable partner.
Now my question is: How come our ladies are not
expected to approach a man and ask him for a hand in
marriage? By the way, who has a problem with this? Is
it men or women? And whoever that might be, what’s the
problem with women asking? Are we being fair to them?
Just a thought
Pr Birai
www.themaranathasdachurch.org
Wednesday, April 9, 2008 @ 8:00 pm
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Subject: Re: Questioning some aspect of our culture!
It may not be a matter of unfairness to the women, but the women themselves feared aproaching men and speaking their minds. I know most women will use actions and presentations before men to express their desire and pass on certain information for men to respond by speaking out and they will easily admit whatever request put forward.
As a matter of caution women trade very carefully especially when looking for life partners and would not want to be judged wrongly. It was not fashionable and this will scare most men even today if a woman approaches and asks you for sexual relationship even if it was their honest and faithful offer or desire. Many ladies will be interested in marrying a man even when they are still boy/girl friend and will find it so difficult to tell the man about it. Now imagine one you just came across without any relationship, it is quite difficult if not impossible for them to pass the message.
It is not inferior for a womwn to ask and I would encourage them to adopt free expression atmosphere knowing the man is a human being just like a woman and will listen.