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From: Francis cheruiyot

I honestly have no idea why we are making a big deal about marriage bill. Will legislating marriages make it work? If we have not been able to follow clear biblical teachings, what makes us think that legislation would cut it for us.

Polygamy exists in three main types namely:

a) Polygyny – where a husband takes himself several women/wives.

b) Polyandry – where a woman takes herself several husbands

c) Co joint marriage – where there are several husbands and wives.

In Matt. 19:4 we are told by Jesus that God created one “male and [one] female” and joined them in marriage. Mark 10:6-8:”But from the beginning of the creation, God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, ‘and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh.

It wasn’t until sin made man fall (Gen. 4:23) that polygamy occurs. Cain was cursed; Lamech is a descendent of Cain and the first to practice polygamy. The first time polygamous relationship is found in the Bible is with a thriving rebellious society in sin; when a murderer named “Lamech [a descendant of Cain] took for himself two wives” (Gen.4:19, 23).

In the Bible we can count 15 examples of polygamy from the time of Lamech to 931 A.D. 13 of these men had enough power that no one could call into question their practice, they were unaccountable or no one dared approach them. Lamech Genesis 4:19; Abraham Genesis 16; Esau Genesis 26:34; 28:9; Jacob Genesis 29:30; Ashur 1 Chronicles 4:5; Gideon Judges 8:30; Elkanah 1 Samuel 1:2; David 1 Samuel 25:39-44; 2 Samuel 3:2-5; 5:13; 1 Chronicles 14:3; Solomon 1 Kings 11:1-8; Rehoboam 2 Chronicles 11:18-23; Abijah 2 Chronicles 13:21; Jehoram 2 Chronicles 21:14; Joash 2 Chronicles 24:3; Ahab 2 Kings 10; Jehoiachin 2 Kings 24:15; Belshazzar Daniel 5:2; 1 Chronicles 2:8; Hosea in Hosea 3:1,2.

Polygamy is mentioned in the Mosaic law and made inclusive on the basis of legislation, and continued to be practiced all down through the period of Jewish history to the Captivity, after which there is no instance of it on record (Gen.29:15-30, Jacob and his wives.)

Was Abraham, David Solomon condemned or approved for practicing polygamy?

God never condoned polygamy but like divorce he allowed it to occur and did not bring an immediate punishment for this disobedience. Deut. 17:14-17: “……Neither shall he multiply wives for himself” This is the expressed command of God, and he has never changed it.

The fact is that God never commanded polygamy or divorce. Scripture says (Bible) He only permitted it because of the hardness of their hearts (Deut. 24:1; Matt. 19:8). Matt. 5:31-32: “Furthermore it has been said, “Whoever divorces his wife let him give her a certificate of divorce. But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.” God hates divorce as well as polygamy, since it destroys the family (Mal. 2:16). Whatever the patriarchs or any Christian did wrong does not change the fact the Bible condemns it.

Multiple wives were tolerated but never with God’s approval. Jesus told the Jews, “Because of your hardness of heart, Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way” (Matthew 19:3-8). The Mosaic law aimed at mitigating, rather than removing, evils that were inseparable from the state of society in that day. Its enactments were directed to the discouragement of polygamy; to prevent the injustice frequently consequent upon the exercise of the rights of a father or a master; to bring divorce under some restriction; and to enforce purity of life during the maintenance of the matrimonial bond.

Monogamy has always been God’s standard for the human race. From the very beginning God set the pattern by creating a monogamous marriage relationship -one man and one woman, Adam and Eve (Gen. 1:27; 2:21-25).


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Kenya: Of Polygamy & Healthy Talk

To: jaluo jaluo
From: Joram Ragem

It’s early Sunday morning, and I am lying awake very satisfied next to my beautiful and flexible wife Cheruto Nyar Got. I mean she is flexible literally and metaphorically.

She has welcomed the idea of a second wife, not necessarily for purposes of satisfying my sexual needs, I mean that too, but primarily for our building a large family as God commanded us through Adam and Eve, to multiply and fill the earth. Remember never to bring forth a child you cannot care for though. May I also add that it’s for political reasons I say I need to have a large family.

Luos are being assassinated and cheated in elections and we need to change the scale in the Tyranny of Numbers equation choke! Now, let me speak to the men or women who think that the issue of a second wife is about sex. Indeed, as we age, the human male and female tend to relax a little and lose that spark that arouse the opposite sex. However, never get a second wife for that reason. She too could lose it, and you too have corrected nothing, then what? You get a 3rd, 4th….wife? The key to retaining the spark in your marriage is to be flexible literally and metaphorically.

Look, when I noticed I was not getting strong erections, I talked to Cheruto Ragem and my doctor too. The Dr thought I should try Viagra or Cialis which I did, but these medicine didn’t work for me cause my problem was psychological. Hawi Odingo helped a lot with tips on foods that work in that department. But in truth it was my brain, and you know contrary to popular opinion, the largest sex organ in the human male and female body ain’t your dick nor your breast, it’s the brain stupid! So it needs stimulation and I tell you, that’s where Cheruto for me or your partner can help a great deal.

Remember, our ancestors did not craft the word ‘Chiega’ or ‘Chuora’ for nothing. Men, there are a few things you can do though to avoid Erectile Dysfunction so you can meet Chiegi’s expectations as Chuore. Exercise your abdomen, back, pelvic and thigh muscles really good to increase blood flow to your groin and dick. Kata Otieno Aloka osewachonu maber ni ‘Kanumgo E Teko’ donge? Women, remember that God created you with a body which us guys love to see. So do all you need to do, let us see it and no sex in the dark please!

Remember the days women did not shave their armpits? Well nowadays it’s a normal thing to remove hair in the armpit for ladies. The progressive woman of today will also remove hair down there. There is really no need to spot and groom a ‘Karura Forrest’ down there anymore jowa. After all, the temperatures in Kenya stays too high for it! Well shave down there really good and see how your partner will love it. And don’t use a razor please. Otherwise you will breakout with what in Lundha my village we called ‘bundu bundu’ in South Nyanza they call ‘Okuodo’ in Nairobi they call pimples, and in Central they call ‘Boiros’! These actually are boils which in medical terms are inflammation of the hair follicles due to ingrown hair which was not removed correctly! Use hair remover lotions tho.

So as I lie here besides Cherry my wife, who is very flexible in body and mind, I let you know that I am very satisfied because of the flexibility in our relationship. We talk and do all we can to stay active. In addition to exercise and improving your looks to stimulate the brain through vision, eat the right kind of food to avoid obesity. In all, let me assure you my good people, I am up early cause I am happy, Cheruto is happy, Mr Victor is happy and so is Ms Victoria. Notice I never mentioned love anywhere, because love really has nothing to do with what I am talking about.

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SHOULD POPE FRANCIS ALLOW POLYGAMOUS TO RECEIVE HOLY COMMUNION?

From: Ouko joachim omolo
The News Dispatch with Omolo Beste
THURSDAY, OCTOBER 10, 2013

Rev Solomon from USA writes: “I am a conservative Evangelical saved in 1965, ordained Pastor and Minister for the Gospel and family man. I am capable of reading Greek and Hebrew like any modern scholar today. I know myself stuff.

Since Pope Francis was chosen to lead the Church, I have watched his leadership style-he is leading the church in the right direction. I agree with his 10 reasons of observation:

1. The Church no longer offers anything meaningful or important.
2. The Church appears too weak.
3. The Church appears too distant from their needs.
4. The Church appears too poor to respond to their concerns.
5. The Church appears too cold.
6. The Church appears too caught up with itself.
7. The Church appears to be a prisoner of its own rigid formulas.
8. The world seems to have made the Church a relic of the past.
9. The Church appears unfit to answer the world’s new questions.
10. The Church speaks to people in their infancy but not when they come of age.

It is also a spiritual problem within the Evangelicals. I find it hard to understand the daily spiritual life of a local pastor or bishop in Kenya”.

Eugene from Jinja, Uganda writes: “Fr Omolo Beste I read with great interest your news dispatch on the concern of Sr Veronica about Pope Francis move to make the Catholic Church active and above all even to allow divorced and remarried Catholics to receive the Holy Communion. I know many conservative bishops, especially from Africa will not agree with him but to me he is the best pope so far.

In Africa the problem of polygamists refused to receive the Holy Communion, do you think in any given time this pope will allow polygamists, especially in Africa where the number seem to be to receive the communion?”

Both Solomon and Eugene have expressed fear that conservative bishops may not welcome Pope Francis move, Solomon is even more particular, the pastors and bishops in Kenya.

I may add here that it is not only pastors or bishops who may not be pleased with Pope Francis move towards making the church look active and be people’s church and no the one owned by the priests and bishops but also conservative Christians may not welcome his idea at all.

Whether Pope Francis may allow polygamous to receive the Holy Communion is something we should wait to see. However, as members of the Synod of Bishops on the Eucharist amended and refined their final list of propositions to present to Pope Benedict XVI, the fact that one proposition on the Eucharist and polygamy did appear in a revised draft is already an indication that some African bishops would love to see polygamous receive the Holy Communion.

Cardinal Peter Turkson of Cape Coast, Ghana was even more practical. He proposed that the church’s teaching on marriage which requires that those entering the church break off polygamous relationships before receiving the sacraments be amended.

“You cannot simply say (to the man), ‘just let the others go and take the first wife,’ because that becomes an issue of justice. If there are children involved, you just cannot send away somebody,” Cardinal Turkson told reporters in an Oct. 18 press conference.

Sometimes a man wishing to break off his polygamous relationships is able to ensure the financial security of the women he is leaving; in some instances, he “can set up a small business for the wife and let her go,” he said.

“But then you have not taken care of another need (of hers), and that is the need for a sexual partner,” he added.

The cardinal said the church does not want to force celibacy on others, nor does it want to “expose them to prostitution” or “a loose type of living.”

The individuals involved have to decide if the woman would “be free to go and look for” another husband, he said, though when the woman is “at middle age it’s sometimes difficult” for her to find another spouse.

He said if couples decide to remain in their polygamous relationships, then the church in Ghana tries to offer them “spiritual communion until a clear solution” is found.

In an interview with Archbishop of Abuja, Nigeria and president of SECAM, the symposium that brings together the Episcopal Conferences of Africa, John Olorunfemi Onaiyekan who also took part in the Synod as a pontifical appointee argued:

“We have become accustomed to saying that there are sinners that must not approach the Eucharist. And generally those spoken of, in the West, are remarried divorcees and, in the mission countries, polygamists.

There was wonder about whether these are the only serious sins. The divorcee may not receive communion, but can the oppressor, the exploiter, the politician responsible for the suffering and death of thousands of people who receive?”

During the second African synod deliberations in Rome, a lot of issues on this subject of polygamy emerged. There were some bishops who felt strongly that the Catholic Church in Africa needs to make special provisions for women who want to join the church, but are denied the sacraments because they are in polygamous marriages.

Bishop Matthew Kwasi Gyamfi of Sunyani, Ghana told the Synod of Bishops for Africa Oct. 8 that, because of a tradition established long before Christianity arrived on the continent, “many African women find themselves in polygamous marriages through, even though it is no fault of their own.

Bishop Gyamfi said the church’s practice of baptizing married people and admitting them to the other sacraments only if they are part of a monogamous relationship creates enormous difficulties for many women in Africa.

“The church needs to address this painful and unpleasant situation in Africa by giving some special privileges to women” who “through no fault of their own have become victims of polygamous marriages,” the bishop said.

Especially if they have children, women in polygamous marriages face social rejection and serious economic hardship if they try to end their relationships with their husbands, the bishop said.

In addition, he said, “in cases where women have walked away without the consent of the husbands and the extended families, the church has been cited for injustice, insecurity, breaking up families, fomenting disunity and destroying social cohesion.”

The real difficulties for the women and their children have discouraged many women from formally joining the church, Bishop Gyamfi said.

“The result is that, in some parts of Africa, many women attend church regularly and actively participate in all church activities, but are denied the sacraments of initiation, reconciliation and marriage,” not to mention “the many denied fitting Christian burial for not being baptized,” he said.

Receiving the women into the church without making them leave their husbands “will enable them to share in the peace and reconciliation offered by the compassion and peace of Our Lord Jesus Christ who came to call sinners and not the self-righteous,” Bishop Gyamfi said.

When it came to deliberation and voting majority of the bishops voted against it, even though most of African bishops come from polygamous families. We are only waiting whether the pope will one time deliberate on the issue.

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Real change must come from ordinary people who refuse to be taken hostage by the weapons of politicians in the face of inequality, racism and oppression, but march together towards a clear and unambiguous goal.

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THE THIRD WEEK THAT WAS WITH FATHER OMOLO AT HOME

From: ouko joachim omolo
Colleagues Home & Abroad Regional News

BY FR JOACHIM OMOLO OUKO, AJ
BONDO-SIAYA COUNTY
WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 14, 2011

This week I will comment on the news that made the headline recently on Mr Gordon Oyoo, a polygamist from Rabuor Village, Kisumu County whose Msanda Holy Ghost Church in East Africa with its headquarters in Butere has no problem with polygamist members.

One of the reasons given is that polygamy discourages promiscuity and guards against sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV/Aids. Oyoo is only 54 with 15 children out of which 10 are in primary school, four in nursery, and his last-born child is yet to begin going to school.

Although the church follows African tradition where polygamy is not a sin, the Msanda Holy Ghost Church in East Africa teachings state that one can be polygamous but cannot marry additional women once you become a church elder.

According to the church’s Bishop Tom Oraga, his church allows polygamy marriages, not only because it is African tradition but because the Bible is not against polygamy, citing Paul in the Bible who even though later on was against polygamy, but had 21 wives.

Most of the men mentioned in the Bible he says had many wives, including Solomon, the son of King David and later King of Israel who had 700 wives and 300 concubines, arguing that monogamy is only Western concept.

Oyoo who is a freelance photographer at Kisumu’s Jomo Kenyatta Sports Ground is not alone. The practice of polygamy is legal in Kenya, and such unions are fully recognized by the courts under customary law.

However, the debate as to whether the civil marriage can be legalized to allow polygamy is still pending in parliament due to political and religious resistance. Re-introduced in early March 2009, “Marriage Bill 2007”, which would effectively legalize civil polygamous marriage in Kenya.

It explains why, while Kenyans were struggling to do away with colonial rule in the country, they wanted to be free from everything that was Western. Among the things they wanted to do away with was the Western concept on religion.

The first breakaway church from the colonial was Nomiya Luo church founded by John Owalo. Owalo had just left the Church of England to become a Muslim; he later left Islam to join catholic mission on his return to Nyanza from Mombasa where he was working as a house servant. It was in Nyanza that he abandoned Catholicism to found Nomiya church in 1907. Nomiya in Luo means, “I was given”.

It then followed by Dini ya Roho (Holy Ghost Church) founded in Maragoli location in October 1927 by Jakobo Buluku and Daniel Sande after they had broken away from the American friends’ mission at Kaimosi. Buluku and Sande preached against foreign religious leadership and advocated the expulsion from Kenya of the American missionaries.

The African Israel church was the third one founded in 1940 in Nyangori location near Kisumu by Kivuli. He broke away from Pentecostal assembly and preached the expulsion of foreign missionaries, advocating leadership of the church by Africa Christians.

The foruth African independent church was Dini ya Msambwa founded by Elijah Masinde- So called Dini ya Msambwa because it adapted to African tradition, cultures and customs. The kingdom of Africa he said had been ruined by the British Empire.

The British accused him of preaching politics and wanted him being arrested and charged in court of law for misleading people. The more the British stopped him from preaching the more he had many followers. His sect became so popular, spreading all over Western Province and between the Kalenjin and some parts of Uganda.

The fifth African Independent church was founded by Bildad Kaggia of Central province. Kaggia had just come from military service in Middle East and Europe in the Second World War. He founded an independent church because he was embittered by racial discrimination and inequality between Europeans and Africans in the British forces.

Kaggia claimed that the greatest bondage on Africans was the foreign religions. His aim was to liberate Africans from such bondages. He broke away from church missionary society (CMS). The church spread fast in Central Province and Ukambani.

Some Luos who were working on the sisal estates near Kandara were also converted and later spread the church in Nyanza province on their way home. It was with this in mind that some Pan Africanism charismatic leaders abandon their Christian names in 1940’s to 1960’s.Christian names were termed as Euro-Heraic.

The first Vice President of Kenya, Mzee Jaramogi Oginga Odinga had to change his Adonija Oginga name to Jaramogi Ajuma Oginga Odinga. Johnston Kenyatta to Jomo Kenyatta, Emilio Mwai to Mwai Kibaki, James Ngugi to Ngugi wa Thiong’o, Francis Kwame to Kwame Nkuruma among others.

The problem of foreign religions was not only a Kenyan problem. It was indeed entire African problem. It explains why Kabaka Mwanga II was not pleased in the manner foreign religions were brought to Africa. He saw such religions as a threat to African values and cultures.

Although polygamy is forbidden in statutory marriages, it is allowed in Muslim and customary marriages, as such according to Muslims God does not condemn polygamy, never calls polygamy adultery, wickedness or a fleshly perversion.

It is against the background that Catholic Archbishop of Dar-es-Salaam (Tanzania),

Polycarp Pengo argues that celibacy in the form demanded of the Roman Catholic priest, namely, a life-long abstinence from marriage, is probably foreign to all human cultures.

It explains why from the social point of view, priestly celibacy seems to find even less backing from the surrounding human cultures. That is why in realizing that celibacy is unnatural to African culture, advocates of inculturation are proposing total elimination of priestly celibacy in the Church of Africa- introduction and acceptance of traditionally accepted marriages for priests.

It explains further, why in African culture, priestly celibacy considered from the religious point of view presents a theological problem just opposite to that of the Manicheans. Unlike the Manichaean dualist who wants to realize his own salvation by liberating the spirit from bodily imprisonment by abstaining from procreation, the African traditionalist in his religious faith believes that he can avoid having his life end up in a meaningless existence after his death by continuing to live in his children.

It is against the background that the African traditional believer holds that a person who dies without begetting any children has no chance for a happy meaningful life beyond the grave. Thus failure to procreate is equivalent to failure to attain salvation in the life after death. That is because humanity is through procreation.

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Address Polygamy–Its good for women (?!)

from maurice oduor

Okapu Janeko,

Your name still amuses me somewhat. Eti Basket the Madman or is it the Madman’s Basket? Heheheeheheeee !!!! Your name reminds me of a former MP for Bondo called Jalang’o.

That aside.

Polygamy is wrong, wrong and wrong. I grew up in a polygamous family and I can guarantee you that it wasn’t pleasant for the household of the first wife. Don’t forget that by the time a man decides to marry a second wife usually he’s already somewhat fed up with the first wife. His financial resources are therefore directed more towards the second wife.

But Okapu, I’ll make you a deal. I’ll support the idea of a man having more than one wife the day I see you sharing one wife with another man. Deal? Let me know when.

Courage,
Oduor Maurice

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From: Okapu Janeko

Someone please bring a bill in the house to change legislation and legalize polygamy to help women who are continously going single cos of scarcity of men to include plural relationships.

This noble style of relationship has been openly practiced since the last 1000 years and the women in this plural style of management have never been denied their conjugal rights

I would rather we declare same sex marriage too illegal and make polygamy extremely legal since the former has more ramifications.

We can begin by conducting critical research amongst women who would agree that polygamy is sweet and acceptable.

It is vital that researchers explore the impacts of polygamy on women and children and gender equality, as well as the challenges that polygamy presents to society today and read the lines if you wont be shocked that 80% of women would support the same.

Refusing to accept or criminalization of polygamy does not address the harms that women in polygamous relationships face neither does it help address the dangers that women in single marriages face therefore our laws need to be changed to better serve women by providing them spousal support and inheritance rights.

Men today have so many mpangos simply because they have a ring and therefore are tied to the vows they made yet the problem is still there.

What do you think

Kenya: AKUKU DENJA is dead.He died at the age of 94 and believed to have married over 100 wives

Reports Leo Odera Omolo in Kisumu City.

Death has occurred of one of the most prominent and eligible polygamist in Kenya Mzee Ancentus Akuku Ogwela, alias Akuku Denja {Dangerman]. He was aged about 94 years.

File | NATION Polygamist Mzee Akuku ‘Danger’ with family members. He died on Saturday.

He collapsed in one of his homesteads and died on Saturday night, but had been unwell for sometimes.

Considered as one of the wealthiest Luo man during the years of early 1940 and late 1950s, Akuku Danja is believed to have married more than 100 wives. At the time of his death he had about 43 of them have either died of old age while other left on their own volition or divorced for one or the other reasons. Mzee Akuku Denja hails from Kanyamwa sub-clan of the Luos, in the same clan of the legend medicine and the greatest witchdoctor of all the time Gor Mahia son of Ogada.

Akuku Denja had established five homesteads with the major one which he used to referred as the headquarters located at Aora Chuondho in Kwabway Location,Nyarongi Division, Ndhiwa district in Homa-Bay County. The homestead is next to the market and also next to the main-Rodi Kopany-Karungu Sori. He had another home in his native Kanyamwa with the third major home homestead established in Karungu East, Sori Division in Nyatike district in Migori County.

Standing at about 6feet 4 inches and heavily built. Akuku Denja was a humanist, friendly, jokily and wearing a smiling face all the time. He earned the name Danger because he preferred calling anyone who he comes across “Danger Man “including friends and foes, his sons in-law and relatives.

An industrious man with lust for education Akuku Denja built and established three primary school on his own where the large number of his children estimated to be in excess of 250tool their early elementary education before proceeding to other schools and institutions of higher learning.

He had the best part of his wealth educating his children some who have excelled and graduates from public universities. One of his eldest sons the late Pius Olima Akuku a trained lawyer had served the government of Kenya as a resident magistrate before going into private law practicing business.

He had many sons and daughters who received good education and who are presently serving the country either in the public and private sector.

The Danger Man was reputed as strictly disciplinarians. Most of his children spent their time at home during school holidays tending to farm work or herding his large number of domestic animals. Despite having the largest number of wives and children the Danger Man’s home is a place where famine and hunger is out of bound. His wives and children engaged themselves, in farm work resulting in good yield almost every year, which is sufficient in feeding the largest family in modern Kenya with enough surpluses for selling and generating school fees.

Akuku Denjas own married daughters are not allowed to walk back home without written consent of their husband, giving specific reason for the visit, the specific number of days permi9tted for the wife to stay at home with her parents. Any of his already married daughters who simply walks back homer without a written permission from their husband are given specific time and hours, during which they must end their visit and travel back to their husband’s homes, failure of which they faced forceful deportation out of Danger man’s home.

On arrival home the daughters’ reports at the father office and registered their presence before proceeding to their own mother’s houses. His brothers-in-laws on a visit to one of his wives must also register their arrival at the Danger man’s office before proceeding to their sister’s houses in similar fashion. The family works as a team, especially during the cuoti8vation, weeding and harvesting times.

There are unconfirmed reports that his wives are transferable from one home to the other within his five homesteads. For example he would simply walk into his homestead in Kanyamwa and ordered any of his wives living there to proceed to the Headquarters at Aora Chuodho and the woman must obey or else she could find herself forcefully being deported to the headquarters even without her consent.

Akuku Denja acquired his wealth after a humble beginning life as a tailoring man and then venture into farm produce buying and selling and shop-keeping and was later to become the first man to purchase a motor vehicle in his own village in the late 1940s.

A case in point is an incident which occurred a couple of years ago when one of his daughter who was married to a wealthy businessman in Homa-Bay, who had abandoned a small child with her husband and was seen roaming about with some youths, most of them high school students. She was seen in dance halls and other public joint.Akuku Denja sent her a warning toi return to her husband and child as quickly as possible.

When she defied his warning, the old man registered the complains with children offices and to the police at Homa-Bay. And the young mother was apprehended and sentenced to six months imprisonment for neglecting her child. While she was serving her prison sentenced Akuku Denja offered her younger and perhaps best educated sister to the businessman.

Upon coming out of prison the young mother vowed not to go anywhere, but rejoined young her husband and child so the businessman, ended up having married to two young women .from one family of the Danger Man. Whenever his daughters disagreed with their husbands on petty domestic squabbles they do avoid going directly back to their parents home, but only ending up visiting relatives in the neighborhood before going back to their husband. This has made Akuku Denja’s dozens of daughter the most liked women and men are competing to get married to them. They are loosely called “Nyar-Danger”{ meaning the daughter of danger man]

He will always ne remembered as a development conscience man who9 contributed part of his hard earned wealth towards the development of schools, dispensaries,health centers and other economic infrastructure in both Ndhiwa and Nyatike constituencies.

He was a closed friend of both the late Jaramogi Oginga Odinga and the late Tom Mboya, the former Minister for Economic Planning wjh0 was assassinated in 1969 and his close political associate Dr Joseph Gordon Odero-Jowi who alter served as Kenya’s Ambassador to the Un after losing his Ndhiwa parliamentary seat in the 1969,

In 1962 immediately soon after the founding President the late Mzee Jomo Kenyatta was released from colonial jails in Northern Kenya and during his first visit to Southern Nyanza Mzee Akuku Denja was one among the elderly who spoke at a meeting between him and Luo elders from the region. The same happen when Kenyatta visited the region in 1966 as the president of n independent Kenya, Akuku Denja was one of the elderly spokesmen.

When Mzee Kenyatta was jokingly told by Mboya that Akuku Denja had more than 50 wives and was accompanied at the meeting by a young woman, one of his latest at the time, Kenyatta took a careful look at him and Jokingly remarked “Kumbe yeye ni Dume kweli kweli”{he is a real bull] sparing a prolong laughter by the elders in attendance of the meeting which was held at the Homa-Bay D.C’s residence.

The late Asentus Akuku ‘Danger’ poses with his youngest wife Christine Ajwang’ at his home in Ndhiwa in this 2008 photog

Akuku Denja also developed close working relations with the one time two terms Ndhiwa MPs Zablon Owigo Olang’ and another former area MP Matthews Otieno Ogingo’ Upon learning of his sudden death Owigo Olang sent his heartfelt condolences to the family. He paid a glowing tribute to Danger man, saying his loss is irreplaceable. He aid the grand old man was steadfast in development undertaking and activities and was progressive and hard working, but humble man wh9i loved everyone.

Mzee Akuku had been reportedly unwell for close to three years, and at time was seen walking with the support of walking sticks which looked like crunches. He had promised this writer an up-date interview sometime back, but it never materialized.

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Kenya: The time is ripe for the Luos to abandon “Wife Inheritance” obnoxious practices

LAST WEEK WAS A BAD ONE BECAUSE IT LEFT THE TRAILS OF TEARS SHEDDING AND BURIALOF YOUNG WOMEN AND THEIR CHILDREN KILLED BY THEIR INHERITORS

It is time the Luos abandoned this repugnant and backward tradition and culture.

News Analysis By Leo Odera Omolo In kisumu City

The last two weeks were so bad. A number of shocking incidents occurred in various parts of Luo-Nyanza involving grisly murder of young women and their children ,one of which the entire family of a mother and her three children were whipped out by her bloody thirsty inheritors.

In all the reported incidents, the suspect culprits were reported to be strangers who came from unknown strangers who came handy to inherit the widow left behind by their deceased husbands.

Luos are the fourth largest single tribes in Kenya following the Kalenji, Luhyia and Kikuyu. But the communities still practising some heathen and unacceptable tradition, which are unacceptable to the modern society in Kenya.

But the shocking action of beast like inheritors, which saw many families shedding tears and burying their beloved young ones, has left everybody in this region where such repugnant and abominable backward practices are still very common and thriving among the families and clans despite of advanced information torth3 villages about the scourge of Hiv/Aids epidemic.

It calls for the elders and key figures and politicians within the community to go back into drawing board. They should brain storm and chart for the best way of educating families against the danger of “Wife Inheritance” practices. The practice is bad and ads no value to the family. And it is time it was abandoned. The practice has lost its original intention and value in the modern society.

The practice has increasingly become dangerous, because the younger generation of Luo male and females have abandoned the norms and cultural virtue and tradition, which were governing the “Wife inheritance” in the past. The community at large has lost disciplinary practices.

These days young widows in Luo-Nyanza can now pick anybody they meet in beer halls or in dark corners of the City, towns and market places, and the next day the couple become husband and wife. This is in sharp contrast, and completely contrary to the laid down cultural norms and tradition rules.

In the old days when this tradition thrived to the best interest of the families involved. It was a practice highly valued by the community. It was meant to protect both the wife and the children of the deceased. And not simply for sexual escapades between the inheritor and the widow as such, but it meant a lot to the families concerned.

The circumstance, in which a widow was required to be inherited, varied. First was for the continuity of the family. Secondly was for the protection of young children and property of the deceased. And that is the reason why the families used to go for the best man of good character and generous enough to take care of the welfare of the young children left behind by his cousin or brother in the same way he could cater for his own children. Lazy person who is known not to be active in farming or greedy fellow were out of bound for this noble practices which was cherished by the community for generations after generations.

Before the widow was inherited, there were behind the scene consultations between he and the elderly mothers within her immediate families. The role of the elderly women, most of them her mother-law was to advice her accordingly as to who is the best son within the family who could help her bring her young offspring’s up and so forth. .

It was a serious vetting. Men from families suspected of practicing witches, men from families known to be suffering from serious diseases such as leprosy, asthma, mental illness, tuberculosis, epilepsy and other complicated diseases were not recommended for the job..

If the widow had defied the elderly mother wisdom and settle on someone of suspicious characters such as thieves, trouble shooters, quarrelsome or temperamental persons, the elderly women would throw the matter back to the elderly men within the family to deliberate on the issue. They would summon the widow and told her point blank the reason why they were not keen to approve her choice, but if she remain defiance, she was then advised that after the rejected man is the only her choice, the she was required to dismantle her house within the family and go and settle in the homestead of the man she had chosen as the best person to inherit her. She would live their until she goes past her production life, now with grown up children would bring her back to the family and built a home for her and her children.

Wife beaters and drunkards and men with history of murder were also some of the characters not recommended by the elders. And so were thieve sand other unbecoming characters within the society.

In all aspect of the practice, it was to go for the best person whose good and proven manner and character.

In Litare village in Kamasengre, Rusinga West Location on Rusinga island massive man-hunt was still going on by the weekend of a man who set ablaze the house of the young wife he had inherited. The man is still at large and th4e man hunt led by the area Assistant chief has proved fruitless. He is suspected to have boarded a canoe and pedaled himself across the Mbita Channel and went into hiding on the main land part of Mbita district.

This attack came after the man and his inherited wife had some misunderstanding the previous night and the woman ejected the inheritor out of her house. But before the night fall she and her three children slipped out of the house and went to sleep in her grand mother’s house. The man returned under cover of darkness bolted the house from outside and set it ablaze thinking his wife and children were asleep inside .The assailant fled from the village thinking that he had killed the entire family, but did not realize he had missed the target. A lot of property was burnt to ashes. He is still at large.

In Migoto village, Suna Migori, Silvanus Owuor Lwamba was not lucky enough to escape the mob justice and punishment from his heinous act. She used hoe in smashing the head of his inherited wife Esther Akinyi, nine year daughter Lilian and one year old son Barack Odhiambo.and fled at night.

The village woke up in the morning and found the three lifeless bodies laying inside their house. Youth owning motor bike taxis in the village mobilized themselves and gave chase to the suspect with whom they caught up near Kenya Tanzania border as he headed to Tarime across the border. The tied him up brought him back to the scene of the murder and lynched him.

According to the relatives, the couple had disagreement before the incident. The suspect had a quarrel with the wife and this prompted a meeting under the chairmanship of the woman’s father where e decision was made that the two should part the company. This did decision did not pleased the suspect, but he never objected to it. But the family made one silly mistake of allowing the couple to go and sleep in one house. The suspect had begged for permission to stay in the house for the night since it was getting late in the evening so that he could go the next day.

The relatives say the couple was constantly quarreling and at one time separated for a couple of months before the killer came back after they were reconciled. Neighbor said the bodies had deep cut on the heads and neck and an axe which is suspected to have been used by the killer and a hoe were discovered covered in the house covered with blood.

In Ki9sumu, police had vigorously pursued the killer of wife and her three children at Nyalenda Peri-urban of the City, and caught with him in his native Siaya district. Before the suspect could be arraigned in court, police had a lot of difficulties keeping away the crowd of onlookers baying for his blood suspect’s blood.

The crow which camped outside the police forced the intervention of senior police officers who summoned the four fierce police dogs to disperse the crowd after their plea with the building up crowd to disperse peacefully and go home had hit the rock.

One senior police officers addressed the crowd and told them,’ We have the suspect and trials against him will be instituted soon,”said the PPO Larry Kieng urging the crowd to go peacefully.

“We want kill him instantly, if you let him go to prison, he will kill many more innocent people,” shouted a man from the crowd in perfect English.

The trouble had started at Koidiaga in Gem constituency along the Kisumu Busia road where the public had identified him and wanted to lynch him, but he was rescued by the police..

The suspect was seen selling a radio set when police from Dudi Police Post were trailing him following a tip off. The suspect was seen moving around the market while looking for a buyer for his radio, perhaps to get enough money to escape further to a distant place. A man who claimed he knew him shouted at the top of his voice and this attracted the public.

The accused had killed his wife Pamela Akiny Orawo and her three children and fled the town. Was said to have been a boda boda bicyle taxi operator in Nuyalenda area,. He escaped by the night and vanished until last weekend when the police caught him in Gem area near the border of Gem and Butere/Mumias districts. He had inherited the deceased six years ago after the death of her husband. It was not immediately established whether he was related to the deceased husband of the woman or just a handpicked friend and lover. He did not sire any of the slaughtered children with the deceased.

But this particular incident left the City of Kisumu a state of shock. There could have been more similar incidents, but which went unreported in various part of rural locations. Religious leaders and clergymen have contributed these series of killings to the excessive consumption of “Chang’aa” which has since been licensed by the government.

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About the author, Leo Odera Omolo is a veteran Kisumu baswed journalist who comments on various topics and writing for several publication locally and abroad. He operates in Kisumu and parts of Tanzania and Uganda. He could be reached on Mobile phone No 0722 486181 and 0734 509215

Kenya: “Special tribute to my late Mum”, by Pastor Birai

God willing and should funds become available,then on Friday,April 2nd,2010, I will join my siblings,relatives,friends,the community, and all well wishers to wish Mama fare well @ her home in Bonyunyu, Nyamira, Kenya.

Like in any other funeral service,Mama will be remembered for all kinds of things.But as for me I will remember her and pay special tribute for the following:

1.Mama was born in 1925 and got married as a 4th wife to my late father in 1943 @ the age of 18 years old. She spent most of her life in great pain and agony as she laid to rest 7 of her children who died at different ages for who knows what.

2.She was a very faithful,dedicated,committed, peace loving,generous and loyal Christian. She spent most of her life as a deaconess.She returned her tithe both faithfully and systematically.She had no quarrel with any one and avoided gossip in all its forms.

3. She was a woman of prayer who daily prayed for her children and even her enemies.She was the first one to assist her enemies,something that you rarely witness or hear about.She had this way of talking to Jesus that really touched me. Her prayers on behalf of us,her children were very rich. They are what has carried us this far. Will always cherish them.

4.She taught us to fear/respect God, to be faithful in returning to God what belongs to Him and to be always ready and willing to support all, including our enemies.Every time I called to speak with Mama,most of what she told me was other people’s problems. She rarely thought of her own needs. God bless her soul.

5.She was a very hard working woman who loved a clean environment.

6.Amidst many years of pain, torture and dire poverty,she lived to be 85 years old and has left behind 5 grown up children,36 grand children, 21 great grand children and 1 great great grand child. Both my father and my 3 step mothers are deceased.

Yes, on that day-her burial day-as she will be lowered to her resting place until the resurrection day, I will deep in my heart whisper these words,”Fare thee loving mother. We truly appreciate all your sacrifice on our behalf. There is no question that you will be missed, but we look forward to seeing you in the earth made new.If we,your children will remain faithful,then in a little while,we’ll be home.” Rest in peace from all the pain that you have gone through.” On that day,you will be able to see your children again! Hallelujah.

Is your mother still alive? Please let them know how much you appreciate them. If yours is already gone then know that my prayers and thoughts are with you.

Even so come Lord Jesus and take your children home. We are truly sick and tired of this world. Amen!

Pr Absalom Birai
612-386-4608
www.pastorbirai.com

Kenya: Man clobbered to death by his jealous two wives when he tried to marry a third woman

From : Dickens Wasonga in Bondo.

A middle aged man was on friday clobbered to death in a Bondo village by his two wives, after he decided to marry a third wife.

The deceased, according to family sources, met his death when he tried to officially introduce the new comer as his wife to the first two, who did not take the matter lightly.

Unconfirmed reports however indicate that the man had been living together with his would- be third wife in Bondo town, where worked as a bar manager, but kept the whole issue a top secret to the other two wives.

The deceased’s mother, who came to the aid of her son, was seriously injured in the all out war, and had to be hospitalised.

The 3pm beastly act occurred at Kapiyo village within Maranda division, and left the rest of the villagers still reeling in shock.

The police in the area have since launched investigations into the killing, and have already arrested the two women at the center of the attack.

ENDS.